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Where are the available f/subs in NJ - 8/25/2011 5:19:50 AM

TheRavenous

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NJ is the most densely populated state in the US SO why arent there many available female subs/slaves ? Especially in the older than 40. What's going on?

ME... A widower with three grown kids. Professional and even keeled in my business and personal life. I reside in Middletown and seek a good gal to fit into both my vanilla world and my private life. 1950's gals welcome, subs and slaves that can handle vanilla social situations well should reach out. I don't bite... Okay so maybe I bite but I am not a big pain guy. Dominance, Control, Bondage, Experimentation, and a long life together is what I seek. So hello, and good luck to all !!

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RE: Where are the available f/subs in NJ - 8/25/2011 5:27:33 AM

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welcome, and good luck in your search!

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RE: Where are the available f/subs in NJ - 8/25/2011 5:41:11 AM

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Welcome to CM. Check out your local groups, munches & events.

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Where are the available subs in NJ

Quiznos? Toasty...

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RE: Where are the available f/subs in NJ - 8/25/2011 5:43:55 AM

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Welcome to CM. Now all you gotta do is figure out what you have to offer a sub/slave besides time and money.

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RE: Where are the available f/subs in NJ - 8/25/2011 5:48:10 AM

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if you cant find any munches listed for NJ, try NYC.

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RE: Where are the available f/subs in NJ - 8/25/2011 5:48:33 AM

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They're in New Jersey. Glad to help.

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RE: Where are the available f/subs in NJ - 8/25/2011 5:52:37 AM

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I am getting my coffee. Steven beat me to it.

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RE: Where are the available f/subs in NJ - 8/25/2011 6:41:50 AM

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There are more kinky older guys than there are kinky older women. I know that because I am one of them. If you really really really want to meet kinky older women, then you must go to where kinky older women hang out. They hang out at munch. If you wow one of them with your super fantastic personality, she might even give you a chance.

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RE: Where are the available f/subs in NJ - 8/25/2011 7:13:11 AM

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The MUNCH thinh huh.... *sighs* Yes well this is probably good advice except for the fact that I do not involve myself in BDSM Community affairs. I am not out there exploring things and people in the community. All of my relationships thus far are with submissive women who know nothing about BDSM, this lifestyle as defined here. They are merely loving, doting (AND submissive) moms, soccer moms whatever who live their fantasies privately. Thats the kind of woman I seek. Not someone who regularly attends munches or clubs or proudly shares her lifestyle. I seek a life relationship with one "good girl". Any ideas ? AND THANKS EVERYONE FOR RESPONDING.... I am much obliged.

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RE: Where are the available f/subs in NJ - 8/25/2011 7:23:18 AM

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not to sound snarky, but what brings you here then? it seems your approach has been working so far...

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RE: Where are the available f/subs in NJ - 8/25/2011 8:16:54 AM

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First, welcome to the discussion side of CM.

Second, I find the highlighted statement below smacks of the kind of stereotypical outlook many of the regular posters here on CM are trying to dispel.

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ORIGINAL: TheRavenous

The MUNCH thinh huh.... *sighs* Yes well this is probably good advice except for the fact that I do not involve myself in BDSM Community affairs. I am not out there exploring things and people in the community. All of my relationships thus far are with submissive women who know nothing about BDSM, this lifestyle as defined here. They are merely loving, doting (AND submissive) moms, soccer moms whatever who live their fantasies privately. Thats the kind of woman I seek. Not someone who regularly attends munches or clubs or proudly shares her lifestyle. I seek a life relationship with one "good girl". Any ideas ? AND THANKS EVERYONE FOR RESPONDING.... I am much obliged.

Just so you know, plenty of people go to munches who are out of the BDSM closet so to speak in very few specific circumstances. Most groups are extremely sensitive to the fact that new members might worry about being outed. Which is why munches are (for the most part) held in public places, specifically state no fetish dress, and members tend to not bombard newbies with tons of questions about full names, personal info, etc, unless and until the person is ready for that. I'm sure, YMMV, but all the groups I have been have been like that.

Also, your second statement implies (1) there is something wrong with being proud of being part of this lifestyle and (2) that females who go to munches and /or are proud of their BDSM involvement are not "good" girls.

Is this really what you intended?

If you truly think that females who knowingly relate to the sub orientation are "bad" and should not be proud of who they are, then I wish you the best of luck in this forum. You're going to need it.

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RE: Where are the available f/subs in NJ - 8/25/2011 8:27:16 AM

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No I was not imoplying that women EVEN PUBLICLY SHOWY are bad people. I mean hey .... that would be totally unreasonable. Live and let live. What I was attempting to say was I seek a gal that will be good toi me; a "good girl" one who isn't too bratty, is open minded, not too opinionated, coachable and loyal. Thanks for your input on the much, I may check soe out. Do you know of any in central NJ or on the Northern NJ Shore area?

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RE: Where are the available f/subs in NJ - 8/25/2011 8:29:07 AM

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The typos are flippin killing me. Just a footnote, my past experiences worked okay but they were all long distance. Was hoping to find someone local here.

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RE: Where are the available f/subs in NJ - 8/25/2011 10:52:00 AM

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Ah, okay, TY for that clarification, OP.

There are tons of munches, meetings, demos, and other events in NJ and NY.

Google munch and your zip code, it should pull some munches for you.

I am friends with a couple from NJ, I've no idea how close they are to you, but if you are seriously interested I will email and ask if he'll talk to you (the he is the male sub part of the couple) about what's going on in NJ.

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