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RE: Daddy has access - 9/2/2011 8:59:03 AM   
impishlilhellcat


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Status: offline 		My husband has my passwords to quite a few things and I have his passwords also. We keep separate banking accounts simply because my bank is in a different town and with direct deposit it was difficult to change either one. He takes care of some bills I take care of others, but he still has access to my account and I have access to his. He gets into my email all the time for different reasons to print something off for me and vice versa. We have nothing to hide from one another. For us it's a basic level of respect. He wouldn't ask anything of me that he couldn't do in return as far as trust, love, and respect. It's not uncommon for him to be reading over my shoulder as I'm doing something on the internet. I do the same thing to him too, but he would never act as if he were me. He might send a response or I might answer one of his online messages from someone, but we each make it aware that if it's coming from his/my account who is answering.

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RE: Daddy has access - 9/2/2011 9:52:41 AM   
seekingreality


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ORIGINAL: nevaehangel

I was wanting to ask others, does your Dom/Domme have access to your profiles? email? ect? if they do do you have any problems with them having access?
I ask this because my Daddy has full access to everything I do online. He can access my CM as well as my other social networking sites. I gave him all of the passwords which he has changed to suit the reasoning for him having my passwords. I was wondering what your input is on them having full access to not only read what you do and say but to also respond under your profile names.


To me, this depends on the nature of your relationship.

Giving someone passwords, to me, indicates an extremely high level of trust, and this level of trust would need to be earned over a significant amount of time. And if the dom asked for the passwords, that would be the start of a discussion and I would want to know why they wanted the passwords and what they intended to do with them.

I would not allow someone respond to posts under my name. I can't imagine a positive reason for anyone to want to do that. This would be especially true in sites like Facebook which are not anonymous.

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RE: Daddy has access - 9/2/2011 10:45:55 AM   
LaTigresse


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RE: Daddy has access - 9/2/2011 11:38:56 AM   
angelikaJ


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quote:

ORIGINAL: nevaehangel

I was wanting to ask others, does your Dom/Domme have access to your profiles? email? ect? if they do do you have any problems with them having access?
I ask this because my Daddy has full access to everything I do online. He can access my CM as well as my other social networking sites. I gave him all of the passwords which he has changed to suit the reasoning for him having my passwords. I was wondering what your input is on them having full access to not only read what you do and say but to also respond under your profile names.


The way you phrase your question makes it seem like you are less than thrilled with the idea.
I think it is more important to be honest about how you feel about it than it is to know how other people handle similar situations.

I offered my Master my passwords.

I think the context of someone having access to such is important.
Is it a brand new relationship or did the person demand it of you because they do not trust how you may interact with others?
In either case I can see how that could create an uncomfortable atmosphere.


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RE: Daddy has access - 9/2/2011 7:24:02 PM   
MstrDennynSlave


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Status: offline 		Master has access to all of my passwords and I have access to all of his. We trust each other implicitly. I gave him all my passwords about 6 months after we met. He also gave me all of his. He has accessed some accounts for me and I've done the same for him. He has given me his credit card to get things for him or to put gas in my car with when he wasn't feeling well enough to do it.

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RE: Daddy has access - 9/2/2011 7:50:25 PM   
Hisprettybaby


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
I want to have the joy of typing every motherfucking motherfucking!

That's too funny!!

To answer the OPs question, Daddy knows my passwords to collarme and fetlife, only because he helps me with my computer issues at times. Plus I trust him completely. He would never sign in to my accounts and use them as me.

As for my Domme side, I do not have my sub's passwords and, no, I don't want them either. He's fully capable of handling his accounts himself and I trust him to do so as an intelligent and fully functioning adult.

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RE: Daddy has access - 9/2/2011 11:00:40 PM   
quasarr


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Status: offline 		Privacy is huge for me. I've been in a vanilla relationship before where I was stripped of all my privacy (forced to give passwords/etc) and I was quite upset. Not that I had anything to hide, but everyone deserves at least SOME privacy. If whoever I'm with once in a while wants to see what I'm up to online/etc that's fine, I'll show them no problem. But someone having access ALL the time? I wouldn't like that. 

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RE: Daddy has access - 9/2/2011 11:24:46 PM   
LiveByYourNature


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Status: offline 		Uhm .. I wouldn't do it to my slaves and I certainly wouldn't have bought it for a second from a Master, when I served.
This site has a very nice function, for the Master who wants to know what his slave or sub is up to, and, it's called editing his profile to being a profile for a couple (him and you) and then dumping yours, altogether. Anything else sounds cheesy and suspicious. What is he up to, that he wants access to your profile without taking the responsibility of adding you to his?
Does he even give notice on his profile that you belong to him? Did he want you to put it on your profile? Or, is he just manipulating you, without public acknowledgement of ownership?
Those are rhetorical questions. I don't need to know the answers, but, you do!

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RE: Daddy has access - 9/3/2011 12:07:23 AM   
DeviantlyD


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ORIGINAL: LiveByYourNature

Uhm .. I wouldn't do it to my slaves and I certainly wouldn't have bought it for a second from a Master, when I served.
This site has a very nice function, for the Master who wants to know what his slave or sub is up to, and, it's called editing his profile to being a profile for a couple (him and you) and then dumping yours, altogether. Anything else sounds cheesy and suspicious. What is he up to, that he wants access to your profile without taking the responsibility of adding you to his?
Does he even give notice on his profile that you belong to him? Did he want you to put it on your profile? Or, is he just manipulating you, without public acknowledgement of ownership?
Those are rhetorical questions. I don't need to know the answers, but, you do!


The OP was referring to more than her CollarMe account. Speaking of, what's up with you? Every other week or so (sometimes more frequently) you create a new profile on CollarMe. Why? It makes no sense, unless you feel the need to have a profile that always sits at the top of the "new profiles" for your area. Very, very, very strange.

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RE: Daddy has access - 9/3/2011 12:57:00 AM   
phoenixmoonn13


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Status: offline 		he has access to anything he wants jsut doesn't want to he trusts me i also ahve access to all his and often he gives me his bank card if i need money. i know all he does on line and he knows mine. if we are online together ie secodnlife as we still have things there we do then i will ask even though hes sitting next to me if i can take private messages or log in out but that goes back to the time we were only on line

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RE: Daddy has access - 9/3/2011 6:37:08 AM   
Aileen1968


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quote:

ORIGINAL: nevaehangel

I was wanting to ask others, does your Dom/Domme have access to your profiles? email? ect? if they do do you have any problems with them having access?
I ask this because my Daddy has full access to everything I do online. He can access my CM as well as my other social networking sites. I gave him all of the passwords which he has changed to suit the reasoning for him having my passwords. I was wondering what your input is on them having full access to not only read what you do and say but to also respond under your profile names.


He has access to any account I have whether it's an online social site or a bank account. I also have access to some of his accounts.
He has posted as me in the past, usually to write a joke. It's rarely serious. I have no problem with that and no one has ever known that it wasn't me.

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RE: Daddy has access - 9/3/2011 10:01:28 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		You're joking, right?

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RE: Daddy has access - 9/3/2011 10:12:33 AM   
mistudeMM


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Status: offline 		My Master has access to my online profiles. I don't think he's ever once actually looked at them, but he'll ask me about them once in awhile. Other than that, we share everything else so we both have acess to everything else. It just kind of happened naturally, and so far it's come in handy a time or too, cause he's helped me out with a few creeps around here (and similar sites)

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RE: Daddy has access - 9/3/2011 1:12:46 PM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		We gave each other our passwords for CM and Fet, at a time when it just felt comfortable to do so.  We do not post as each other, but we can see each others activity.  We don't have each others personal email passwords or banking passwords, but it's only because neither of us feels a need for it.  Our computers are totally accessible to each other though, and our emails are usually up on them.

It's a trust thing. We've been together 2 1/2 years and are planning to live together in the next year or so.  I wasn't offering up passwords before we met, or when the relationship was still really new.


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RE: Daddy has access - 9/4/2011 7:27:32 AM   
heartcream


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD

The OP was referring to more than her CollarMe account. Speaking of, what's up with you? Every other week or so (sometimes more frequently) you create a new profile on CollarMe. Why? It makes no sense, unless you feel the need to have a profile that always sits at the top of the "new profiles" for your area. Very, very, very strange.


How are you aware of someone changing their profile all the time, I am curious to know how you can tell.

I wouldnt care if my partner had access to my stuff. I dont have anything to hide. I wouldnt care if he were to post as me either, I think it would be funny. Trust is very cool. Trusting the trustable is ace.


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RE: Daddy has access - 9/5/2011 1:04:13 AM   
foxling


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Status: offline 		I would hate that. I don't think I could do it. My online presence is not hidden, and he knows where I can be found. But to have the passwords would unsettle me far far too much. As quasarr said, I've been in situations where an ex hacked all of my online stuff and posted vile horrible things as 'me' and I think, even though I know D would never do that, the very idea of someone else being in my accounts makes me feel a bit sick. If it was really important to him then I guess we would have to talk about it, but I don't think it is and for that I am very very glad.

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RE: Daddy has access - 9/5/2011 8:41:23 AM   
LafayetteLady


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I see nothing wrong with couples sharing passwords if both are comfortable with the idea. In a D/s or M/s situation, that comfort and trust still needs to exist.

Responding under that person's name as that person is not appropriate unless the owner of the account has asked you to do so, regardless of the type of relationship. I could see someone asking their partner to send a simple response (as in "thanks for your interest, but I'm involved) as that person. Anything else is just dishonest and inappropriate.

His changing the OP's passwords is also not right. Sounds like he is denying the OP access to her own accounts. Sharing access so that one person can make changes at their whim goes beyond D/s and M/s and violates trust.

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RE: Daddy has access - 9/5/2011 9:49:47 AM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Master has never posted as me on the forums but he has used my c.com email to respond to hngs and play with them for awhile. He finds their emails to be just too funny not to toy with them for awhile like a cat with a ball of string. 




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RE: Daddy has access - 9/5/2011 10:41:30 AM   
fallon0627


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Status: offline 		He has control over my cm account with password. I cant change anything on my profile without his permission. My other sites like yahoo or fetlife he hasnt asked.

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RE: Daddy has access - 9/5/2011 10:46:21 AM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		do you have a problem with it? If so then you need to talk to him. 

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