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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 10/18/2004 8:06:45 PM

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I still need to get my idea for a fetish petting zoo in play. Rows of pets in cages with the well dressed Doms and Dommes drinking martinis on the outside.

I'll be having the Grey Goose martini, stirred, dry, 3 olives please ;)

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 10/18/2004 8:59:01 PM

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I still need to get my idea for a fetish petting zoo in play. Rows of pets in cages with the well dressed Doms and Dommes drinking martinis on the outside.

http://www.zumanity.com/ I havent seen it yet, but I am sure they call it The Human Zoo for a reason.

Hit the link. Interesting but not what W/we are talking about here. Sexual and character driven interpretive dance. Another side of Cirque du Soleil. But cool link for anyone who wants to hit it.

That aside, I do have boys who think they wish to be caged. A cage can be handy, for punishment, for head games. And it is a good way to get a boy out of your hair if he is getting under your feet and you have things to do and want him out of your way. Also, if one is caged all the time, who is going to get My tea, make My dinner, do My dishes, wash My undies?
But not 24/7. And I would never cage a slave and leave the house. What if there was a fire???
Now this fetish petting zoo...I can picture that!

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 10/19/2004 9:06:09 AM

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As a newcomer dom here (and to the scene in general), I notice so many of the women who identify as subs or slaves checking the option "being caged at all times."

*tongue in cheek mode activated*

Think about it for a second, it is truly Topping from the bottom.

While the submissive is enjoying him/herself watching Oprah or Nascar and masturbating from the safety of the cage, his/her poor Dom/Domme is cleaning the house, cooking the dinner, ironing the laundry, doing the dishes, washing the laundry, putting gas in the car, paying the bills, working for a living, maintaining all their communications with everybody, filling out tax forms, applying for bill consolidation loans, defending the homeland from Al Qaeda, etc.

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 10/20/2004 6:22:27 PM

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I truly have no grasp of this mindset whatsoever. Is it the symbolism more so than the fact? Is it really "at all times?"

I wouldnt want to be caged really at all times. I didnt even notice that it was saying at all times before I checked the box for that kink! (Over all I think those choises and kinks are a bit to wide to be describing what the person really likes, perhaps get a commentbox after that is optional to fill in?)

I think it is more symbolic though...

And what it is about... for me, as a submissive... A feeling of being safe and helpless, controlled and just a real turn on...

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 10/21/2004 4:47:17 AM

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*tongue in cheek mode activated*

Think about it for a second, it is truly Topping from the bottom.

I'm not sure topping from the bottom applies in every case but yes, while the sub is in her cage, unless there is a second "maid" sub, then the dominant is stuck being the one doing everything else.

In my opinion, *caged all the time* it is most definitely a way to avoid responsibility, I agree (which is what I’m starting to realise is the grounds for the dynamic of some very hard core 24/7 relationships)

Besides, you have to get them out for some exercise otherwise they will stop fitting in their cages ;)

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 2/27/2005 7:52:37 AM

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While the submissive is enjoying him/herself watching Oprah or Nascar and masturbating from the safety of the cage, his/her poor Dom/Domme is cleaning the house, cooking the dinner, ironing the laundry, doing the dishes, washing the laundry, putting gas in the car, paying the bills, working for a living, maintaining all their communications with everybody, filling out tax forms, applying for bill consolidation loans, defending the homeland from Al Qaeda, etc.

All of the above except I defend the homeland from my creative tax dep. who is still in elmentary school...yeah this fantasy works for me...now back to reality.

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 2/27/2005 9:24:09 AM

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I also think that perhaps it's a fantasy or perhaps a metaphore to actually be caged, physically. I would not be against having a cage to use as a punishment but if the slave/sub liked it, would that be a punishment..hmm. I have seen at play parties and such where a slave is put into a cage however, but I think it is more as a play prop, then as a constraint to keep them from going anywhere. But that's just my thoughts, I am sure there are some who would think it's cool to be caged up so they would lose that ability to move about as they please. Nice thing about "us", we allow anyone to do as they please, if it's their "kick" and it doesn't hurt anyone else.

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 2/27/2005 12:46:40 PM

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I think you need to bear in mind that for some reason, the option of being willing/interested in being caged or penned occasionally is not available. So if it is something that a sub likes the idea of or is willing to have done at all, the nearest they can do is declare it 24/7 which is really just not practical.

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 2/27/2005 2:21:53 PM

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I confess, I didn't read all the responses and someone else may have already pointed this out, but...

It's the only option the CollarMe profile-builder thingy gives for ANY caging at all. So, yes, I enjoy being caged. No, I'm not interested (even in fantasy) in being caged 24/7. Since the only way I could indicate my fondness for cages resulted in "enjoys being kept in a cage at all times" popping up on my profile, well, I figured most people a) knew about the site bug, or b) would take it with a grain of salt, even if they didn't. *grin*

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 2/28/2005 4:34:02 PM

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I just read through most of the posts in this discussion and I'd like to throw my opinion out here, for what it's worth. I was in a 3 year relationship where I was kept caged the majority of the time. Whenever there wasn't anything for me to do, I was caged. For the most part, I slept in the cage and there was no watching TV, reading or playing video games. To be honest, I didn't do a lot of the cleaning, but He didn't either. He had someone else to do that.

I don't think that being in a cage is a way to avoid responsibility at all. I considered it complete subjugation. Perhaps this is more for people that enjoy pet play?? I was treated like an animal in that relationship (not being allowed on furniture, no eating at the table, etc.)

Anyway, lol.. just my opinion!

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 2/28/2005 5:13:36 PM

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But not 24/7. And I would never cage a slave and leave the house. What if there was a fire???

thats something i would be worried about maybe they can sleep in a cage at night? but not left alone in a locked cage

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 3/1/2005 5:52:50 PM

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I don't know about 24/7... that's damaging IMNSHO. However, for the slave that I may soon be taking into our Householidng, yes, we will be buying a cage. There are safety issues WRT caging subs. For one, ever leave a person caged and helpless when nobody is home!

I am going to choose a cage that is large enough that My new slave can lie down and sleep in it. He won't be in it every night, but it will always be an option.

That said, if I *did* leave him alone in the cage while I was away, it would be with a key inside the cage, so he could get out if he needed to.

Wouldn't that be against the idea of him being helpless? *evil chuckle* Not really! I will fill a water balloon with red food coloring and water and drop the key inside! Tie it off and leave it where he can reach it! He he absolutely *has* to get out, there's physical evidence of his misdeed! If I come home and the balloon's intact, so much the better. If it's popped, there's red dye all over the place (washable) and the slave is sitting innocently in the cage ("Who? Me?"), then I know something's happened!

One thing I *will* add to the house when we get the cage is a carbon monoxide detector to go with the smoke detector we already have! We have fairly redundant safety precautions in Winterhaven Hall, and that will add to My peace of mind!

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 3/2/2005 9:54:50 PM

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being caged?
"i" as a male slave, have found several ads, from dommes stating They do indeed cage Their "property" at all times.
to me, it is scary as all get out.
"i" have heard horror stories of house fires and such.
not for me, no.
but it happens in real life.
there are the dominants that do it, sub/slaves that get into...(not a pun).

ah,..lifetsyle choices...huh?

just passing through
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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 10/4/2005 4:28:36 PM

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perhaps being caged a lot of the time, or being put into a cage every night to sleep might be nice ...

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 10/4/2005 4:42:20 PM

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As a newcomer dom here (and to the scene in general), I notice so many of the women who identify as subs or slaves checking the option "being caged at all times." I don't get it. What kind of life is that? What's the kick?

I truly have no grasp of this mindset whatsoever. Is it the symbolism more so than the fact? Is it really "at all times?"

Besides, I don't have room in my place for a cage -- will a cupboard do? One of those large animal transport things? Is this the real meaning of "willing to relocate?"

I'm being a bit droll here, but I'd really like to know why so many women want this? And what kind of pleasure is it supposed to give me?

It's highly impracticle and a serious fantasy. The most time I've ever done in a cage is a weekend. I'm sorry, but there is no dominant in the world that will make me want him enough for me to use a 'cat box' for more than 3 days. Sorry boys, but that's my limit.

Poolman, one thing you'll notice is that like you, there are a ton of 'novices' around CM. And a lot of people calling themselves Doms and subs who have never engaged in any type of real time activity in BDSM. It's just the lay of the land. And I've been around long enough and traveled in enough circles to be able to say honestly, I know not one single real time submissive who's caged at all times.

John Warren, do you know any?

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 10/4/2005 4:46:57 PM

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i often thought my daughter-in-law might want to cage and gag my son..lol.. but didn't suggest it..<g>

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I suggested that my son gag his wife and put her in a cage, but apparently it isn't his thing either.

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 10/4/2005 5:10:49 PM

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What may be a great fantasy (for some) would turn out to be a really crappy reality.

When professed as an objective in a profile, it says one of three things to me:

1. Novice

2. Online Role Player

3. Liar

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 10/4/2005 5:15:14 PM

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John Warren, do you know any?

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Nope. I'd also be hard pressed to understand the benefit to the dom (that sadly forgotten figure in so many fantasies). If I wanted a nice conversation piece for the living room, I'd buy sculpture. At least I wouldn't have to empty the catbox.

Putting someone in a cage is fun. Leaving them there is boring... and becomes smelly after a while.

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 10/4/2005 5:52:22 PM

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i also have a fantasy of my Master putting me in a cage but not 24/7, maybe for an hour before a scene to get my mind going about the events ahead that would be a real turn on mmmm

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RE: What is the deal with being caged at all times? - 10/4/2005 6:43:45 PM

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Caging is an interesting fetish on both sides of the door - and one that extends well outside of the BDSM community.

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I feel like if I am not good enough to share a bed with my Master then he can take a hike!

Obviously it is your right to feel that way - but obviously not everyone does. Neither of my girls is assured of a place in my bed - and due to their position in this house they are never going to be able to count on one. They have their places on the floor, and if that isn't good enough for them thats fine too - they can leave.

A good friend of mine has a girl who sleeps on the floor 99.9% of the time ( and they are together a number of years now) and another has, to my knowledge, never let the girls and boys in her service share her bed.

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Putting someone in a cage is fun. Leaving them there is boring... and becomes smelly after a while.

You know, I find it completely invigorating. Far from boring the knowledge that they are there is a source of amusement and positivity in the back of my mind every time I think about it. I find it ... luxurious. It's almost deliberately awsteful... and I dig it entirely.

editited for minor spelling touch up :)

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