LadyPact
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I observe them and I see patterns develop otherwise I would not have commented on it.
In other words, you want to complain but not do anything positive.
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I hope you realize how flawed that is. "Oh we have a public forum for a web of interests related to BDSM but if you want to know something you have to send a member a private mail. Provided they know/like you enough to answer back." I would say with the typical activity that goes on here it is more than just "some" people.
I can't say how many do it. I know I do it for topics that are a bit more complicated. The reason for this is that a forum isn't the best venue to attempt to go too in depth about certain types of play. Frankly, I do trust some members of the forum to conduct their play safely because I know they are already familiar with similar types, so I don't have the same concerns.
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So your explanation for the repeating of questions is due to the high traffic this site generates?
High traffic? No. High turn over. There's a difference.
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I'm actually wondering how, with 500 people that on average join the site, why I only really see a handful of new posters that consistently post since I joined last December.
The use of the forums isn't why all people join this site. From what I've read about certain other social sites, only a small fraction of members use the forums in comparison to the total number. Alt was a pretty good example of this. They had forums, too, but they were rarely used.
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You would think with this much interest that the site gets there would be this gigantic influx of new people every day. Except what happens is they may go to "Introduce Yourself" get their welcoming message from Ashjor/DarkSteven, may ask a question that no matter how experienced it may sound is 9/10 times responded to with an unfunny line and the poster gets accused of random stuff or not being good enough to actually warrant an answer.
Out of curiosity, how many Intro threads have you responded to in hopes of making folks feel welcome around the place?
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Want to cut down on common questions that a complete newcomer would ask? Make an FAQ for this forum that addresses those questions. Somebody makes a topic without reading it? Have a moderator redirect them to that link/lock the topic. Such a simple solution.
Let Me know when you're the one willing to put the work in on that.
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Here is my crazy, idealistic way of handling that:
"Hi *Poster*,
I made a very thorough message on this *particular kink* before.
*Copy/paste of this detailed message*
If you'd like to read more thoughts on this subject, here is the original link where this discussion happened."
Which is basically the same thing as directing folks to the search feature, with the exception *I'm* not willing to do the research for them. If a person says that they've used the search feature or couldn't find something flipping through the first few pages of a forum, I'm more likely to attempt to help, because they have tried a little effort on their part.
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Not to mention thoughts, like the dictionary, are subject to change over time. Just because I made this great post on whatever a couple years ago doesn't mean I am the arbiter of all things related.
Different matter. If I know that My thoughts have stayed the same, or I still think that a book that I've referenced is still the one that I'd go to, there's no real need for Me to add to the content of a prior post. If other people have changed their minds on a certain kind of play (and that definitely has happened for some posters here) then they most likely wouldn't reference their prior post in the first place.
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I really dislike repeating myself, but as I said a couple of pages back: "despite any gimmicky posts I make, I don't know everything."
I think the more direct point is that you don't make contributions on the things you *do* know. Until you start doing that, you honestly don't have a leg to stand on to complain about the way anybody else answers these boards. Even on this thread, you haven't said anything about how you perceived the book, what parts you felt were helpful, or any reason that you might personally dislike the book. Instead, you've been trying to give people crap about their weight or their age.
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If I did know something about a subject, I would probably be criticized for my age and please do not attempt to deny that. I used to play a lot of European football in high school, and if a Grade 9 freshman told people how to play I, as the senior, would be a bit agitated.
Oddly enough, there are posters on the boards that are exactly your age who don't have that problem. The reason they don't is because of the content of their posts.
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My experiences have been strictly in bedroom/barely out of the vanilla mold. I am not delusional enough to convince myself that I have done something completely original enough to warrant me typing something that anybody past the age of 18 would know. I'm more interested in reading in what someone of your age/experience would have to say but it almost never comes to that point. Instead I have people of your age calling me a homosexual/douchecanoe. Not that I mind being called those names, but it just goes to show that some of the posters on here embarrass themselves.
Let's clear something up right now. You have *never* seen Me say that you were homosexual. I have said that I've seen some moments that have led Me to believe that you could bottom as well as top or take a submissive role in a dynamic rather than a Dominant one. That's not supposed to be a bad thing. It means I could see you exploring those ventures.
The times I've said you were a douchecanoe is most likely because you were being one at the time. You're a little late in the game to try to convince anyone that you're all goodness and light.
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Oh Heavens yes! I will ask a question for my current relationship that would inevitably have members needing to divulge something personal and be accused of needing "wank material!"
If you want My opinion, I think folks can craft such thread topics so that it doesn't come across that way. You can write. I've seen you do it.
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How about actually doing what the forums intend? Do that and I will no longer feel inclined to hijack/derail any topic because presently it is pretty strange how "hijack/derailing" comes to when you dare oppose a regular of this site.
I don't think the forums were intended to do what you seem to think they were. I couldn't even make a projection about if a person comes along and asks people to tell them everything they know about wax play how well that would go over. Frankly, I've got a number of posts out there on the subject, but I'm most likely not going to sit and type one reply that includes all of it. If I was willing to put that much effort into it all in one shot, I'd just write a book Myself.
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Ask me again in twenty years. Provided there is anything to actually learn which more and more I'm beginning to doubt.
That's your own interpretation. You've mentioned a couple of times on this thread that there are subjects you don't know about. Maybe you're just not looking at the bigger picture.
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