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Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over themselves? - 9/5/2011 5:16:17 PM   
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I have had problems in the past getting some gals to let themselves squirt. They think there going to pee so they get scared and dont want to go through with it. what can i do i make them understand its ok they will enjoy themselves other than putting them in the shower or restraining them down and forcing them to go through with it? i figure there some sub/slaves that have faced the same issues in the past so i want to know whats the best way to go about assuring them its ok. thanks
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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 5:19:50 PM   
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Um, fella, if you've got a lady that's afraid to squirt for whatever reason, restraining them and forcing them will ensure that you will never see her again.  And if you care about your local rep, you'd never do something stupid like push her to do something that's a limit with no concern for her.

Have you tried discussing it with her and gently working her into it?


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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 5:46:30 PM   
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I went through this exact thing with my former Master. He would try and I would pull away from it thinking I had to pee. He would make me go try to pee, only to find that I couldn't and then he'd try again. Each time I failed miserably at just letting go and allowing him to take that from me; to take me to that place.

UNTIL....

I was bound! (Which I found works wonders for me at breaking down walls)He finally got me to squirt by restraining me and playing with me in a typical type scene (Impact play) and then he began to play with me "there" and he did and did and did as he liked and then he started to do whatever that is that he did to make me squirt and THIS time I was so surrendered to everything that he wanted to do with me that I surrendered to the squirting too. It was amazing! (to say the least) Subsequently when he would have me bound, or close to it, and play with me that way I would ALWAYS squirt and just let it happen.

Since then I have been able to squirt a few small times, but nothing yet that was as intense as when I've been restrained.

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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 6:03:36 PM   
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Why not try getting her into water sports first, that way she won't be so worried about peeing. 

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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 6:07:59 PM   
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First, not everyone squirts. So get over that. I have only done i t once, and it was totally unexpected--like, why were ther no towels? But it's not urine that comes out, it's really like the normal fluids from sexual arousal. Get the lady familiar with what is REALLY happening with her body, and yes, TOWELS.

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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 6:28:31 PM   
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But it's not urine that comes out
I know that, I was just addressing the problem he said the women he was dealing with had that was stopping them.

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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 6:39:52 PM   
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I know YOU do, Heather! It's amazing how unaware of their bodies many people are.

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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 7:05:27 PM   
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I know YOU do, Heather! It's amazing how unaware of their bodies many people are.


That reminds me of a scene in Sex and the City where Charlotte admits to never seeing her lady bits up close and personal. ;)



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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 7:41:56 PM   
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Did you see "Fried Green Tomatoes"? That mirror scene? Yeah, the 70's. Good times!

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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 7:45:11 PM   
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Have her go to the bathroom before sex. She might relax, knowing she's emptied her bladder beforehand.




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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 7:50:05 PM   
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Or just encourage her to pee. Tell her that is what you want her to do, then do the gspot stimulation that typically leads to squirting and she may just let go.

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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 8:09:04 PM   
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You need to talk to her, if she is not completely comfortable with you having control of her, and doing anything for you at your whim, there is a breakdown of trust. It's a fear, perhaps of embarassment, or shame that you will judge her. It is also possible she might feel ashamed on a personal level, as if she is degraded in some way.

Only way to fix this is by having a very real, open discussion about her fears. Educate her on what squirting actually is, how it is caused, and the level of intensity that it will bring to her pleasure. Show her some videos, get a couple of slides off google, whatever it takes to help her see it as the normal bilogical response that it is.


Above all respect her vulnerability if it's a boundary issue. Encourage her to "pee" if she says she is going to. Let her know you want her to let go, that is your desire. If the trust is there, she will.


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Or just encourage her to pee. Tell her that is what you want her to do, then do the gspot stimulation that typically leads to squirting and she may just let go.



Boo your post beat mine. Meh.. I'm not plagiarizing i swear!!


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< Message edited by Endivius -- 9/5/2011 8:16:55 PM >


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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 8:11:45 PM   
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Squirting = Too much Laundry

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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 8:13:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Did you see "Fried Green Tomatoes"? That mirror scene? Yeah, the 70's. Good times!


*LOL* Actually I've never seen that movie. But I think it's in the $5 bin at Wal-Mart. I seem to recall seeing it there the last time. I'll have to check it out! :)

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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 8:23:27 PM   
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What you have to do is get one of those hospital thingies they put under patients.  No leakage through to the sheets.  They're not all that expensive and work much better than towels since they've got  a waterproofing underneath the cotton top part.  That's the reason I have one, have to admit I'm a squirter and a gusher, no stopping once I start, and no I'm not bragging, it's just a fact with me.  Hit the right spot and whooooooooooooosh.  Not everyone is comfortable with it, not everyone can do it. 

With me, it takes that special someone with whom I have a deep connection and trust implicitly or it's just not going to happen. 


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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 8:38:08 PM   
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First, make it about great sex and orgasms, not about BDSM: Here's my journal article on female ejaculation: and a reminder you can't feel the g-spot until you're really aroused, and eating her out as she's kneeling over you means gravity can help engorge the spot.

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The Good Man's Guide to a Queening G-spot

Every good straight man should strive to give his lover a G-spot orgasm.
Here's how.

Something they rarely put in the manuals is she has to be fully aroused for you to find the spot.

Something else that might not be mentioned is that both of you should have empty bladders and then each drink a couple of glasses of water. you don't want to interrupt her pleasure at a critical time to excuse yourself, and she needs to have confidence that all that can possibly be spurting out of her at high speed and higher volume is her ejaculate, and not prevent her pleasure being concerned about a sensation to pee which is actually the beginning of her G-spot orgasm.
And there's gonna be a LOT of panting, moaning and hyperventilating on both sides, so no one should be dehydrated.
I like strategically-placed acrylic fleece throw rugs better than a mere towel to catch the overflow; larger, softer and more sensual on the ass or knees, too.

So let's fast-forward a half-hour or so, when she is ready to crawl all over you from your kisses, throat nips, breast massages, nipple suckling, whatever she desires. you've gently, slowly removed all her clothing, you've started to pet her pussy, you've growled in her ear that you're going to eat her 'til she comes ALL over you, and you start your slow descent.

And there is her sexual core all nicely laid [hah!] out for you: her lips are swollen, parted, warm and glistening. And still you don't hurry. you tell her how beautiful she looks, and smells. you breathe your warm breath alllll over your buffet, as she tries to pull you in. you surrender gladly, and settle in for some bliss, and gently suck and lick until she's arching, but not bucking.

Suck and lick that clit, suck and lick those inner lips; lick the opening to her vagina, gently french-kiss it, and once she's lovely and wet, walk your lips back up and latch 'em back onto her clit while you dab a well-manicured and snag-free index finger in her juices, and GENTLY slide it under your chin and into her vagina, nail DOWN/fingerpad UP. you gently sweep the pad up/down, around, and side-to-side against the front third of her vagina an inch or two inside, WHILE STILL SUCKING/LICKING THAT CLIT, aiming up and to an angle behind her belly-button. you feel it! like a half-grape of firmer, rough tissue, that collars her urethra [tube from her bladder to the outside], just like your prostate gland.

Congratulations! start stroking, massaging and circling that G-spot, but DON'T STOP YOUR MOUTH-to-CLIT WORK! She may let you know exactly when you've found her G-spot, but some women don't recognise the sensation . . . yet! Keep licking and sucking, in a rhythm you can keep up for awhile, pausing only to tell her how aroused this makes you, how gorgeous she tastes, how she's going to sound when she comes alllllll over you, then latching quickly back on.

Is she coming yet? Yes? Perhaps her clit has retracted, and you feel the divine contractions begin against your smile? Don't stop! Keep going, 'cuz Here She Comes!!!!

Now, massage that g-spot, gently but firmly, in that 'come here' gesture, making appreciative and yummy noises. Some women prefer two fingers in a side-to-side alternating motion, and/or with some light in-but-not-completely-out pumping. Use your words, and encourage her to come ALLLLLLL over you. She'll feel a sensation of bearing down or urinating, but you both need to remember, it's not urine, it's clear, sweet nectar of the gods. Her breathing or moans may change from her usual come-cries into something more primal, deeper, urgent: whatever happens, DON'T STOP!!, otherwise she may clamp up and not be able to let go again.

If all is well, she's spurting alllllllll over you: THAR SHE BLOWS!!!!! she's still coming! Don't stop!! Her contractions may continue for some time; if they're starting to slacken, smile and stroke her anus with a spare smooth-nailed little finger, or spread some of that nectar and nudge your finger gently in and out of her ass in counterpoint to her spasms. If that doesn't increase the intensity of her come-cries and contractions . . . replace your little finger in her ass with your tonguetip and start humming, but just keep your finger on her G-spot and move your other hand over her clit to give her something to thrust against.

Never, ever leave her empty or thrusting against air. NEVER.

As her contractions fade, or once it's finally time to stop: as you know, aftercare is very important; you've come so far, don't harsh her buzz.
If you've done your job well, you should have been facefucked into her immobility. She may have hyperventilated to the point where she doesn't need to draw breath for many seconds; just smile smugly and feel her pulse against your face. If you've rimmed her, try to rinse and spit before you put your tongue anywhere important.
Otherwise, do whatever you do after giving oral pleasure: suavely wipe your dripping chin on her inner thighs, crawl up against her to nestle in her lap or arms [remember, she may be too weak to clasp you, so rearrange her limbs comfortably], kiss her UPPER lips, and tell her how amazing she is and how grateful you are she trusts you with her ultimate pleasure. She may just be able to murmur something incoherent before slipping into the unconsciousness of the well and truly fucked.

Feel free to feel smug, and change the throw rug.

My favourite is to having a Queening G-spot, while I'm hovering over his face and coming, groaning, spasming, alllllll over him, until, exhausted, my legs won't support me, and I turn on my side while he, good dog, stays in the saddle as I continue to spurt against his smiles and hand, both of us purring in bliss and satisfaction.

Female ejaculation. It's a good thing!

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Good luck, and enjoy!

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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 10:27:35 PM   
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If you have a good sex life, why insist on squirting? Most women do not. Most women will not, no matter what is done to them. It has nothing to do with relaxing. If you concentrate on squirting rather than having a good sexual encounter then you just may be setting yourselves up for constant failure. Failure to squirt while you want her to do so may just ruin her enjoyment of sex.

There are times i squirt. There are times I do not. I don't squirt as often as I used to. That's okay. To be very truthful, squirting orgasms are no different to me that non squirting ones. They feel the same, just one is messier than the other. I'm lucky to be with a man who is enjoys pleasure. He couldn't care less if there is squirting involved or not. I'm under no pressure to deliver and that makes our sex life marvelous.

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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 10:59:28 PM   
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I can squirt, with the right man. With someone I trust so much that I don't overly mind if this mess is part of sex.

However...I prefer not to. As Peppermint says, a squirting orgasm feels the same as an "ordinary" orgasm, but with a bit more mess. I can have a perfectly wonderful orgasm and not have to worry about cleaning up afterwards

Fortunately Master isn't particularly interested in squirting, so it's a non-issue.

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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/5/2011 11:10:34 PM   
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For me, orgasms feel much differently when squirting.  He loves the squirting, and he cleans up afterwards. I prefer not to squirt, but he prefers I do, so there ya go.

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RE: Squirting, gals have the fear of pee all over thems... - 9/6/2011 12:31:24 AM   
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thanks for the replys, some good and bad replys lol! i have had gal in the past use a towel so incase they feel the urge or feeling of pee there comfortable with it and they let themselves go although people here like me know its not pee to start with.
darksteven your an idiot, i guess you have never had a real sub/slave in your life lol.
making a slave do what you want is half there fun and yours! i guess when you realize that you have 17000 post here like a chronic masterbater lmao you have no real life!. tantriqua you sound like you have experience and not an idiot in the squirting/cumming time experience thanks!
sorry but i have not ever met a gal that couldnt squirt yet, i guess im just a real dom asshole, id say 90% never knew they could have an orgasm or squrit period that good and are happy to finally have a really nice squirting orgasm that i will lick clean and love it.

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