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New here, not sure where to start - 9/7/2011 7:54:40 AM

welshmaster84

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Hi everyone, I signed up on here a couple of weeks ago so I thought I should at least introduce myself. I'm 26 years old, white, single guy who lives in Wales, UK. I got curious about BDSM a while ago but I'm not sure where to start really, I'm a nice guy but do have a nasty and dominant side so I want to be a master and I would love to have a submissive woman but my situation at the moment means I can't really have one at this time cause I live with my parents and unemployed (I'm hoping it will change soon though). I am hoping that members on here will help me if I have questions. I guess if people want to know what my ultimate fantasy is when it comes to this will be having a massive house and have a few submissive women at the same time.

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RE: New here, not sure where to start - 9/7/2011 4:11:58 PM

Endivius

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Welcome to CM. If you would like advice on how to solve this riddle, let me offer the following:

1. Stop watching Porn, reality is nothing like the videos.

2. Stop watching porn, reality is nothing like the videos.

3. Get a job.

4. Move out of your parents house.

5. Start excersizing.

6. Once you have completed the above, come back to CM and read the forums, all of them.
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm this is a list of reading material to get you started. Keep in mind anything you read is not a "one true way" and many of the authors will differ in thier views, but reading is no substitute for real life.

7. Get to some munches. Munches are just vanilla meetings in the ordinary world with like minded people to get to know the people in your area, and learn from thier experience. There is no kinky games, special protocol, or playing done at munches (generally). To find a munch, start by looking http://www.collarchat.com/forumid_17/tt.htm. If you cannot find anything there, google your city, state/province, and the word MUNCH. If you still cannot find anything, head over to fetlife.com and make an account, there are lots of events listed there as well.

Good Luck.

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RE: New here, not sure where to start - 9/7/2011 7:15:07 PM

tiggerspoohbear

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Welcome to CM and the boards. Ditto on what Endivius wrote. You learned to crawl before you walked. Same thing here, you shouldn't aim for "Master" before you learn to master yourself. There's nothing wrong with being a Dominant, but be realistic in your wants and needs. Owning a submissive or slave is not the time to slap a Master banner on your ass. Best of luck. Juuuuuuuuuuuuuust sayin............

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RE: New here, not sure where to start - 9/7/2011 8:26:37 PM

MistressDarkArt

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Welcome OP. End and tig have given great advice. Follow it and you can't go wrong.

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RE: New here, not sure where to start - 9/8/2011 5:40:55 AM

GreedyTop

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welcome! and in the meantime, feel free to read the forums (ESPECIALLY THE FAQS at the head of each one..), and ask questions (AFTER READING THE FAQs!)

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RE: New here, not sure where to start - 9/8/2011 6:19:50 AM

ChatteParfaitt

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Welcome to the discussion side of CM.

And...what everyone else said (it's great advice).

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RE: New here, not sure where to start - 9/8/2011 9:22:01 AM

OohAahMrs

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Welcome, i like the idea of the "massive house and a few women," have that same thought ten years from now and see how far you've got!

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RE: New here, not sure where to start - 9/8/2011 10:16:21 AM

ashjor911

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Welcome To CM

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