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Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 1:25:33 PM

tolovetolaugh

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Lots of anger and hate as usual, how bout something more fun that takes a bit of the stress off?

I love to cuddle. Anywhere, any time, drunk or sober I don't need a reason but will use an excuse. Family, friends, random animals, and friendly looking strangers all get RAOC's.
I will take a one night cuddle over a one night stand any day!

How do you feel about cuddling? Of course in a commited relationship no one sees anything wrong with it, but outside of that you can be looked at negatively for cuddling with anyone but a significant other.

Do you feel its ok to cuddle with friends of the same or opposite sex?

Lets get fuzzy!

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 2:16:38 PM

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In 1976 I won the first and only Cuddle Cup over in Riga, Latvia.

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 5:48:24 PM

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I wrote a long reply but it wasn't warm and fuzzy so I erased it. Then I thought about the hugs I got from my youngest son and I will agree, cuddles were the best. I would take that again over any other type of relationship.

I don't cuddle friends or females, but men have a bit more leeway even if they are just friends.

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 5:50:04 PM

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This got to me today. sent me crying. Sad day tomorrow...think we all need it

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ElzITGC1LCg

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 6:15:05 PM

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I am an indiscriminate hugger. I'll leave these here for whoever may need one.

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 6:16:50 PM

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I'll take a dose of those :)

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 6:33:29 PM

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I only like to cuddle with the person I'm in a serious relationship with and I may give the occasional hug to my daughter but other than that...no thanks. I'm aloof. When someone tries to hug or touch me in some way I usually stand back so they understand there's an invisible space there that they don't cross.

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 7:39:28 PM

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I'm very, very cuddly with my daughter, somewhat cuddly with partner, and otherwise not so cuddly at all. I am, though, a toucher. I will often put my hand on someone's arm at least once during a conversation. Just for a moment, but it pretty much always happens.

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 8:30:24 PM

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Cuddling is for no. It takes far less convincing for me to fuck someone than to cuddle with them, especially if they expect us to sleep together (by which I mean actually sleep). There's only been one person I've cuddled with in my life that I wasn't in a relationship with at the time, and she and I have a very odd relationship which doesn't really adhere to my traditional boundaries. With kids it's even weirder - my cousins will try to cuddle up with me on the couch when we watch tv and it's an absolute no. Really that applies to most forms of physical contact. People who hug me too early (too early being defined as 'within the first year of knowing me' more or less) have been known to get ostracized from my life without warning, as well. Maybe I have intimacy issues, but there you have it.

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 8:32:46 PM

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How does everyone feel about someone else cuddling with others outside of a relationship? Purely no sex, just cuddling.

I am trying to consider the social stigmatization of being a cuddleslut. If it indeed leads others to believe you are a slut.

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 8:37:49 PM

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It's not something I accept in a closed relationship. If a girl is 100% straight I'm willing to uneasily accept same-sex cuddling, though I don't understand it, but if not cuddling is limited to kids animals and family members. I don't know that I would call it slutty, per se, but it is an intimacy not to be shared wantonly while in a closed relationship in my opinion. As with anything, if others do it differently more power to them, but I'm not comfortable with it so my dynamics operate accordingly.

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 8:39:11 PM

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What would I think if a female cuddled me and it was only that?

"Teasing bitch."

But seriously, I think it may lead to a lot of mixed signals which could cause more harm.

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 8:41:12 PM

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NocturnalStalker makes a good point - I know one girl who cuddles with everyone she meets and it has led to all sorts of heartbreak. People assume it means she has a thing for them, and when someone fills them in that she does that with literally everyone who will stand still long enough everything gets awkward and they never turn up again.

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 9:46:03 PM

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I personally would feel uncomfortable if I saw Master cuddling up with someone else. To me cuddling is something you reserve for intimacy with your partner and children.

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 9:55:49 PM

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I am pretty much like littlewonder, I dont like anyone (of either sex) to come too close to me or touch me unless he is my boyfriend, and with him i would be a total cuddlebug. I do make an exception for cats however, I have a soft spot for them and love cuddlebug kitties.

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 10:02:05 PM

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I was raised to behave 'properly' so that often means a lack of 'inappropriate contact', of course as I went into the world, became a woman and learned to do nasty things that would make most of my family faint, I come to realize I really LIKE physical contact. Maybe not intimate cuddling, but a hug, a rub to the back, someone touching my hair? If it's someone I know and like, it makes me feel good, connected, and even cared for. I also am incapable of saying no to a shoulder rub.

I'd be okay with my partner hugging/patting/playing with hair ect, as long as his lap is reserved for me and I can 'cut in' on any hug in progress and make it a hug orgy. I have had small cuddle orgies before, only with close friends though, but it did involve my BF at the time, a best friend, and two other girls we were all close with.

I do think that if one individual is 'cuddley' publicly with people it may be construed as overly flirtatious if the observers don't know that person. However I'm also not a fan of 'limiting' my affection to friends just because other people might sniff and turn up their noses. I do have a certain respect for any male who is in a relationship though, it's not just about showing my friend affection, it's about not pissing off his chosen partner too. As such I'm usually more affectionate with girl friends, since it's less likely to be seen as something to be jealous of or whispered about.

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 10:09:14 PM

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I LOVE cuddling and will cuddle with any friend whos willing!

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/10/2011 11:30:00 PM

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When I'm in a long dry spell, I find cuddling to be enjoyable. It relieves the "skin hunger".

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/11/2011 2:48:08 AM

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Of course it's okay! :) :)

I would definitely place myself in the cuddleslut camp. ;)

I wouldn't cuddle strangers, but almost anyone I know, if they're receptive to it, I will. (Except my boss! *LOL*)

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RE: Cuddleslutting - 9/11/2011 2:50:15 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Epytropos

Cuddling is for no. It takes far less convincing for me to fuck someone than to cuddle with them, especially if they expect us to sleep together (by which I mean actually sleep). There's only been one person I've cuddled with in my life that I wasn't in a relationship with at the time, and she and I have a very odd relationship which doesn't really adhere to my traditional boundaries. With kids it's even weirder - my cousins will try to cuddle up with me on the couch when we watch tv and it's an absolute no. Really that applies to most forms of physical contact. People who hug me too early (too early being defined as 'within the first year of knowing me' more or less) have been known to get ostracized from my life without warning, as well. Maybe I have intimacy issues, but there you have it.

Dang! No cuddling??? *crosses Epytropos of my list*

You are missin' out. It's a great opportunity to do some groping! :D

And....well....I hate to say it, but I'd say yes, you DO have intimacy issues. No offense, but geez....no cuddling?? *shakes head*

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ORIGINAL: tolovetolaugh

How does everyone feel about someone else cuddling with others outside of a relationship? Purely no sex, just cuddling.

I am trying to consider the social stigmatization of being a cuddleslut. If it indeed leads others to believe you are a slut.

I don't view cuddling as slutty behaviour. It's...hmmm...how to explain it. Cuddling gives comfort...it gives intimacy in a non-sexual way - unless you use it as an excuse to grope! :D - and it just makes you feel as though you mean something to that other person and that can be a powerful thing.

< Message edited by DeviantlyD -- 9/11/2011 3:02:22 AM >

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