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Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 1:38:05 AM   
ControlImYours


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Status: offline 		Not sure if anyone has spoken about this before? I have been a submissive man for a long time. In that time I have met many people in the lifestyle. But even though I have met lots of dominant women. I have also met a lot of submissive women. In meeting them and chatting to them i have never thought of them as submissive. I have always considered a woman to be superior to me no matter what. No matter how submissive they are. I always consider myself beneath all women. Am I alone in this?


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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 1:46:19 AM   
NocturnalStalker


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Status: offline 		I doubt it.  Many men out there take their adulation of a female beyond that of the normal scope and in situations such as yours transitions nicely into a submissive state.  While there are those that appreciate beauty and wish to "own it" there is nothing foreign/strange about another male that wishes to to bow to a woman's will. 

Whether you fit under the label of submissive or slave is a possibility that I can't provide much definition with due to my inexperience at present time.

Hope that shed light/made sense for you in some capacity. 


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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 1:49:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sounds like a submissive to me.

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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 3:07:54 AM   
Mr4sg


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I find females feeling themselves inferior perfectly normal behaviour. I not sure its because of my awe*ness or not.
I suppose you could be experiencing a mirror of sorts to that.



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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 3:12:00 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ControlImYours

Am I alone in this?



Yes




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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 3:38:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		There are certain submissive men that I automatically feel are superior to me.   

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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 3:39:21 AM   
ControlImYours


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quote:

ORIGINAL: myotherself


quote:

ORIGINAL: ControlImYours

Am I alone in this?



Yes



bugger :/



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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 5:44:05 AM   
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There are certain submissive men that I automatically feel are superior to me.
I have yet to meet a man I feel is superior to me, and the more sure a man is of his superiority, the more powerful that feeling is.

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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 5:47:49 AM   
tolovetolaugh


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Status: offline 		As a sub I don't feel inferior to anyone dominance wise. Out of a BDSM context I know my strength of will could take them all down. 
And even when I submit to the rare person who draws it out of me, I am not inferior in my mind. I am simply not the one in control.
Equal but different.


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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 6:04:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		I've been thinking about what I said and I'd like to amend it. Replace "man" with "person". I don't feel in any way inferior to anybody, not even Hanners.  She's not superior to me, it just turns me on to obey her. It also turns me on to obey a few others as well, but that's not a universal reaction, basically I have to be in love with or seriously respect the person. Other than that I actually feel sort of superior to most people.

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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 7:07:21 AM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: ControlImYours

Not sure if anyone has spoken about this before? I have been a submissive man for a long time. In that time I have met many people in the lifestyle. But even though I have met lots of dominant women. I have also met a lot of submissive women. In meeting them and chatting to them i have never thought of them as submissive. I have always considered a woman to be superior to me no matter what. No matter how submissive they are. I always consider myself beneath all women. Am I alone in this?



As a generality, I do not see either gender as superiour. All individuals have the tools to be awesome. Whether they utilize those tools or not...that is a different story.

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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 7:11:34 AM   
ProlificNeeds


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Status: offline 		I don't think it's uncommon for people to tie in self-worth or their self-image with their sexuality. Often times when you go against the grain of what popular media and culture tell us is 'normal' or 'desirable' you get that 'am I a nutty freak?' feeling. Just go to a different culture and hang with the other nutty freaks, and you feel less out of place. I don't think anyone should base their worth on their gender or their sexual inclinations, your self confidence is built off your successes in life, and you can be successful while being different or submissive or purple or whatever.

You might consider also though, some women don't want to be involved in power exchange or seen as superior, they just want normal interaction of an equal human being. Try to keep that in mind too.

Feeling inferior and feeling submissive are two different things to my mind, being submissive is good, having self-wirth issues is generally bad.

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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 10:04:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ControlImYours

I have always considered a woman to be superior to me no matter what. No matter how submissive they are. I always consider myself beneath all women. Am I alone in this?



I'm somewhat similar. I've been in awe of women for as long as I can remember and it just feels "right" to submit to them. I can't quite say that I consider myself beneath all women though. She has to have a brain because I can't feel submissive to someone who comes across as dumb. I could play with them, but I wouldn't be feeling it.

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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 10:39:39 AM   
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I've never spent much of my time comparing my worthiness against others.
To do so doesn't heighten my value, nor does it diminish it.

However, there are times where I have felt intimidated by some men.
For example, someone sent me a random email recently, and while I didn't
question if I was worthy of receiving it, there was an initial sharp intake of breath.
Yikes! Is this normal?

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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 10:42:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't feel inferior to anyone.

If you feel that way, you should do something about it.

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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 11:47:29 AM   
littlewonder


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Naive? Imo, yes.

Then again it's not a kink or fetish that I share so therefore not something I completely understand or to be honest, want to.



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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 12:29:01 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		I no longer feel inferior to anyone. I spent a great deal of my life feeling inferior to others, but praise be to me those days are all gone!!!

I, like many others, feel a sense of submission that comes from a person who displays amazing attributes and prefer not to interact in submission based on shame, inadequacy or inferiority today.

Kali

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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 9:16:24 PM   
dominlosangeles


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ControlImYours

Not sure if anyone has spoken about this before? I have been a submissive man for a long time. In that time I have met many people in the lifestyle. But even though I have met lots of dominant women. I have also met a lot of submissive women. In meeting them and chatting to them i have never thought of them as submissive. I have always considered a woman to be superior to me no matter what. No matter how submissive they are. I always consider myself beneath all women. Am I alone in this?




I am submissive, but I don't at all consider myself beneath all women or think all women are superior to me. People are a mix bag, and while I have met many wonderful women, I've also met women who were boring, stupid, etc.

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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 9:25:55 PM   
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I truly don't feel inferior to any men even if I allow one to be my Dominant. That only means I find a man that is my dominant partner and certainly not superior to me, how foolish.  


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RE: Inferiority complex - 9/11/2011 11:07:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've been made to feel inferior by men and women over the years, some so-called friends.  I now recognize it, and will no longer allow someone to make me feel that way.  I have self-worth and am no better and no worse than anyone else.  

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