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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 10:35:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: mkma

But what the sub did was wrong, the ex-Master has every right to be angry... And the right to ask for a compensation? If the sub doesn't compensate and take responsibility of her actions the sub might not have any chance to get back into the BDSM-community because nobody wants an irresponsible sub like that.

That sounds a bit brainwashed- I am not sure how it is over there but at least over here, a female into BDSM can probably find someone, with or without a stigma of being a cheater.
Being punished by an ex just smacks of abuse and I would stay far away from that man and not believe anything he says to you about how the "community" will react.

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 10:39:56 AM

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And more to the point, why would you want to be part of such a community?

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 10:54:24 AM

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Look. Its like this. If I end a relationship, its over. If I cheated, and ended the relationship, its STILL over. I dont owe ANYONE jack squat. Whether he's my husband, boyfriend, Master, Dom, Bus Driver. If I say game over, GAME. OVER. I dare anyone to tell me that in order to seem responsible in the "community" that I have to let some angry little man whip me to avenge his manhood. Fuck the community. Fuck the butthurt little turd. I didnt get into this to be Dungeon Prom Queen. This isnt a popularity contest, and I refuse to play by those kinda rules. Let by gones be by gones. Be mad, cry, watch a movie, drink yourself stupid, vomit out the bad, breathe in the good, and mosey on back to happy town.

And drop this notion that people owe you anything in this life. It will help in the long run.

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 11:39:30 AM

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Yes, then go kill yourself.

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 12:08:26 PM

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I'm assuming this is towards the OP, not me?

I'm quite an old bunny and would make a reeeaaaalllly crappy pie

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 12:10:16 PM

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I have to admit. Over the years, I have seen some pretty stupid, idiotic, and ignorant questions posted on here. But this one...this one is golden

The scary part is that there are actually people in the world who think like this. All I can do is hope that they are not in a position of power, that they are not parents, that they do not care for others in any capacity....Hell, people like this are a waste of 'bad space'.

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 12:47:47 PM

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quote:

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quote:

can he reasonably demand that he should be able to whip the sub because he is mad about the breakup.
Oh yes absolutely. He has every right in the world to "demand" whatever he wants.

All of us have that right. Myself, I demand two BLT sandwiches and a Coke Zero, bring them to me immediately.

But won't the two blt's cancel out the Coke Zero resulting in the blt's owing you a beating of your choice, and if the sandwiches don't submit, the other subby sandwiches won't allow them in their club anymore?

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 1:16:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: Johannes

If a Master tells his ex-sub to go kill herself, can he reasonably demand that he should be able to whip the sub because he is mad about the breakup.

The question is idiotic but serious.

Fucking DUH!

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 1:36:01 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

quote:

ORIGINAL: Arpig

quote:

can he reasonably demand that he should be able to whip the sub because he is mad about the breakup.
Oh yes absolutely. He has every right in the world to "demand" whatever he wants.

All of us have that right. Myself, I demand two BLT sandwiches and a Coke Zero, bring them to me immediately.

But won't the two blt's cancel out the Coke Zero resulting in the blt's owing you a beating of your choice, and if the sandwiches don't submit, the other subby sandwiches won't allow them in their club anymore?

The other "subby sandwiches"? Like Subway Sandwiches?

Wait for it......

"in their club anymore"? Like "in a club sandwich"? BTW, Once you've got a BLT, you are pretty darn close to a Club Sandwich..... some turkey, another piece of bread..... LOL!

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 4:00:59 PM

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The only right a Master has is the right to do what a person will submit too. If she does not want to submit to a whipping you have no right to whip her. The closure part is called "moving on" something we all have to do from time to time.

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 4:13:55 PM

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quote:

Johannes:
If a Master tells his ex-sub to go kill herself, can he reasonably demand that he should be able to whip the sub because he is mad about the breakup.
The question is idiotic but serious.

If a guy tells his ex-girlfriend to go kill herself, can he reasonably demand that he should be able to fuck her because he is mad about the breakup?

How idiotic does that sound? D/s, vanilla, same general rules apply.

quote:

ORIGINAL: mkma
But. What if all that was a consequence of that the sub _betrayed_ the Master's trust by meeting another Master without telling him, and then the sub decided to leave the relationship and finally told her Master what she had been doing behind his back. Should the sub go back to her ex-Master for a session to get her punish for it, the punish that she deserves for being deceitful so that the whole thing could get a closure?

What if the wife betrayed her husband and cheated on him? Should the wife go back to her ex-husband to let him fuck her one more time, because she deserves to get fucked?

When relationships end, they END. Once the consent is gone (which a submissive does not submit without consent, at least not if she's smart) there are no "rights" over her. End of consent, end of relationship, end of play time. Duh. Doesn't matter how HOW nasty the sub/woman/man/person/boyfriend/girlfriend/WHOEVER was for cheating, he can't do anything about it but move on and make sure he doesn't make the same mistake twice.

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 4:39:08 PM

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You know op, I've never met anyone who fled to someone else's arms because he or she was in a good and fulfilling relationship. Maybe instead of stamping your feet, you ought to go do some soul searching of what you did that made her feel the only safe way for to proceed was not to talk to you about your problems, but getting out of Dodge.

Should she, in a more perfect world, have left you before dating others? Of course. Is it not extremely common, so as to be almost axiomatic, that verbally/emotionally abused people need first to find someone supportive before having the strength to leave the abusive relationship? Also a yes.

The only common relationship in all your relationships is you. I strongly suggest you get some help so as not to repeat this behavior in the future.

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 6:20:05 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Johannes

If a Master tells his ex-sub to go kill herself, can he reasonably demand that he should be able to whip the sub because he is mad about the breakup.

The question is idiotic but serious.

You can't be serious. I mean really. What part of being an ex don't you get? If she's his EX-sub, he has NO control over her anymore. It doesn't matter whether she left him or if he told her to go away, or what the reason is it ended. He has NO control over his EX. He can demand whatever he wants, but it does NOT mean he's going to get it. Who in her right mind would submit to someone she left already, just so he could whip her in a pissed off, revengeful rage? I know if I'm no longer with someone, he doesn't get to do shit to me. ANY shit. haha

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 6:20:55 PM

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If the sub doesn't compensate and take responsibility of her actions the sub might not have any chance to get back into the BDSM-community because nobody wants an irresponsible sub like that.

I think I watched this show on tv----'Slaves of our Lives'.

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 6:28:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: fragilepieces

quote:

If the sub doesn't compensate and take responsibility of her actions the sub might not have any chance to get back into the BDSM-community because nobody wants an irresponsible sub like that.

I think I watched this show on tv----'Slaves of our Lives'.

"Slaves of our Lives." Now that's funny. lol Now, seriously, why would a Dom/me want to have anything to do with a sub who cheated, whether or not s/he took responsibility for her/his actions anyway? History tends to repeat itself with cheaters and the new Dom/me would probably get cheated on too. Why take that chance? I know in my local community, word would get around pretty quickly if someone was found out to be cheating and s/he would be avoided. No one wants to be the next victim. If I knew a sub had cheated on his/her Dom/me, I sure wouldn't take the chance with them.

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 6:36:11 PM

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First, what's going on with two 25 year olds, male and female, in this thread. Gender fluidity?

quote:

ORIGINAL: Johannes

If a Master tells his ex-sub to go kill herself, can he reasonably demand that he should be able to whip the sub because he is mad about the breakup.

The question is idiotic but serious.

1. If some moron thinks he still controls a sub after a breakup, he is no Master but instead clueless.
2. The fact that he tells her to kill herself means nothing. I can order LadyHib or Lockit to cease being Dominant immediately and come here and be my sub, and it will have the same weight.
3. What is the purpose of telling someone to kill herself? If she does, he's a murderer. If not, he's just ineffectual.
4. The fact that he made one unreasonable demand does not entitle him to anything more than being made fun of.
5. Someone who is this clueless about how the D/s dynamic works is likely dangerous with a whip. If he has one, take it away until he's learned its use.
6. If he is angry, that's his issue. If he has so little self control that he demands to control someone no longer his, again, he is no Master.

Please revoke your Master card until such time that you have a clue as well as self-control.

Lemme see. The little twerp is so butthurt that he tells her to kill herslf

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 7:02:04 PM

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I love the "lolz" threads. They are the best.

No. That's the answer to the entire scenario.

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 7:02:24 PM

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Add to the fact that the OP wants to beat the ex while motivated by anger...sheesh.

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 8:01:52 PM

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This thread is called Dominant's rights. A Dominant has no rights towards any submissives that are not his or hers. Conversely, a Dominant must have a submissive to have rights towards another human being. The conclusion is that a Dominant that has no submissive, has no rights. End of lesson.

Once owned is meaningless when it comes to current claims on that person. If any Dominant I've known tried to come back and tell me that I was going to submit to him for whatever he wanted, sex, a beating, etc...I 'd laugh at him and walk away.

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RE: Dominant's rights - 9/12/2011 8:09:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Please revoke your Master card until such time that you have a clue as well as self-control.

Go ahead Steven..... Pull his license to dominate!!! LOL

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