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New to the world of BDSM - 9/16/2011 3:23:22 AM

GoddessChanellov

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I am just exploring the world of BDSM with the man I have fallen in the love with, and I am looking for any helpful suggestions on sex play. I have quickly discovered that I have a strong inner Dom, any suggestions to keep him excited would be appreciated.

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RE: New to the world of BDSM - 9/16/2011 5:18:06 AM

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Welcome to the discussion side of CM, GoddessC.

This board get this kind of question a lot, and the answer so depends on what YOU like and what YOU want. And this is most especially true of the sexual side of things. I might love fucking a male sub in the ass, you may have zero desire to go there.

Take some time to review your sexual fantasies, especially those that have you taking a strongly dominant role, with a view of determining what YOU would like to act out.

Have your sub write out a few of his favorite sexual fantasies as well, not to provide you with a script but to see where your fantasies overlap and what his deepest desires are. Verbally tease him with the possibility of creating some of those fantasies. (Anticipation is everything,)

Get a BDSM checklist and go over with him, paying careful attention to how he reacts to various kinks. Does he get a little flustered at the idea of ball stretching or nipple piercing or wax play? This will not only help the two of your establish some initial limits, it opens up communication on some topics you may not have explored together, such as figging, or chastity devices, or bastinado. Plus, it's just fun.

Hope this helps, Chatte

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RE: New to the world of BDSM - 9/16/2011 5:39:10 AM

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Thanks for the advice My love ( sub) is very experienced with BDSM and has had many mistresses, as this is my first foray into the world I am anxious that the experiences are exciting, for both of us. . Everything he has introduced me to I like ( surprisingly). Being a Dom came so naturally. I like the idea of the checklist...I really want to get up to speed quickly

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RE: New to the world of BDSM - 9/16/2011 6:16:03 AM

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Agree with ChatteParfaitt - pay close attention to what excites YOU. If he's experienced, what will like turn him on is to be serving an aroused Dom.

Good luck -

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RE: New to the world of BDSM - 9/16/2011 6:55:11 AM

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Thank you

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RE: New to the world of BDSM - 9/16/2011 12:06:54 PM

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...any suggestions to keep him excited would be appreciated.

Blindfold 'em... tie 'em to a wall... smear bacon greese on his pink-thing... let the dog in the room... go watch re-runs of The Love Boat.

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RE: New to the world of BDSM - 9/16/2011 4:34:44 PM

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Claudia Varrin's books. Really.

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RE: New to the world of BDSM - 9/16/2011 4:38:37 PM

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