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Blackbird90 -> Getting a Tattoo (9/17/2011 11:56:14 PM)

I am currently 21 years old and have been in the lifestyle for many years. I am interested in getting my first tattoo that would represent this without being extremely obvious. After taking into consideration my hopeful career path, I decided to get a tattoo of a chain around either one or both of my ankles, though I haven't gotten it yet. I spoke to a previous dom who told me that as a dom, he would never want to take me out to nicer places if he knew that the tattoo was there. Having never thought of that, I am curious to see if others here would agree before I get this tattoo.




littlewonder -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 12:02:09 AM)

I have quite a few tats and I've met guys who wanted nothing to do with me because I have them. I've met men who were fine with them as long as they were always covered. I've been with men who adored them.

I'm personally of the opinion that there's a time and a place for them. In certain settings I make sure they're always covered.

My concern I would have with them around your ankles and your age is when you get in the working career world. Many jobs don't allow any tats to be seen at all. Are you always going to wear pants so they're not seen and shoes that cover above the ankle?

Just some thoughts.





HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 12:30:48 AM)

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I spoke to a previous dom who told me that as a dom, he would never want to take me out to nicer places if he knew that the tattoo was there.
That's a really bizarre thing to say. What does it have to do with being a Dom?




sonofelborba -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 12:59:06 AM)

I'm very heavily tattooed, but it is all concealed - I was a merchant sailor for 20 years, and happen to count several of the world's top artists as friends, due to business activities in the tattoo industries.

1) Don't let anyone tell you what to get or not to get. EVER!!

2) If someone doesn't like you for your tattoos, then they're not the type of person you want to have as a friend.

I relished taking my last sub, who was 75% covered with STUNNING quality work, out with all of her tattoos on full display, to many of the best restaurants everywhere we traveled, and was always honored to be with such a beautiful woman. Nothing like a tattooed 6'3" female bodybuilder, wearing tight latex, to bring a really nice restaurant to a full stop [8D]




Arpig -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 1:03:11 AM)

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What does it have to do with being a Dom?
Nothing whatsoever, but saying "as a Dom" changes it from his personal opinion to an official pronouncement of Domliness. [8|]




LadyPact -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 1:18:06 AM)

I wouldn't have gone with the "as a Dom" bit, but as a person, there definitely are folks out there who don't like tattoos.  Kinky people are just like the rest of the population when it comes to opinions.  They vary and there's no universal acceptance on such subjects.  The person you were speaking with seems to be anti-tattoo.  Others might be pro-tattoo.  Do I think that's something you should consider before getting one?  Yes because it's part of the reality.




DeviantlyD -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 1:22:22 AM)

Don't do it! You'll regret it forever!!! Just say no.

There. I gave my opinion. :)




sonofelborba -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 1:44:21 AM)

I always say that any doubt or question means don't do it . .




GreedyTop -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 2:01:06 AM)

I recommend that any tat be somewhere that is easily covered by clothing, especially given your age and career ambition. perhaps small of the back? Upper thigh? I have 17 tats, and in a biz casual outfit, the only ones visible are the itty bitty one on my earlobe (when wearing earrings, hardly noticable.. well even without earrings, hardly noticable), and the small one on my ankle.




Focus50 -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 3:29:50 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Blackbird90

I am currently 21 years old and have been in the lifestyle for many years. I am interested in getting my first tattoo that would represent this without being extremely obvious. After taking into consideration my hopeful career path, I decided to get a tattoo of a chain around either one or both of my ankles, though I haven't gotten it yet. I spoke to a previous dom who told me that as a dom, he would never want to take me out to nicer places if he knew that the tattoo was there. Having never thought of that, I am curious to see if others here would agree before I get this tattoo.


I'd be another dom who hates tattoos with a passion. But I've never not dated someone because she has one (or more). The only thing my sub needs to accept is that, whether she has none or a hundred, she won't be getting any while she belongs to me.

If it's just you, it's reasonable to want what you want - but a chain around your ankle doesn't seem so subtle, if that's your goal. And tattoos are still forever and they do not age gracefully.

Good luck - and welcome to CM :)

Focus.




NocturnalStalker -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 3:58:43 AM)

I am another guy that dislikes tattoos on females.  It's like putting a voluntary blemish on your skin.  Plus I'm of the belief if you're going to ruin your skin you do it big.  I'm talking like, two snakes wrapping around your waist and biting at both sides of your throat.  




ProlificNeeds -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 4:22:16 AM)

If the tattoo was to be of something else important in your life, NOT your sexual/relationship preferences, would you still get a tattoo?

The problem with 'marking' yourself is that later on in life, you may not want to be marked as such, hell you may not even BE such. I started out as a purely submissive explorer in the world of kink, today I'm a switch with no desire to ever be someone's slave.

You're 21, let it simmer for a few years, if you still want one by 25, and of the same symbolism then go for it, but if your mind has changed by then, you'll be glad you waited.

My personal outlook on tat's, I like them if they are well done and tasteful, but I have no respect for tattoo's taken on whim or with short term sight. I'd admire a tattoo that still had meaning to the person 30 years later when it gets a little droopy, but not for an ink job that lacked meaning and had just been a 'fad'.

I also have a distinct dislike for people who feel they need to advertise their personal relationship/sexual preferences with outter markings such as jewelry, tattoos, ect. To my mind it's like making rude conversation, you don't walk around telling people how you like to fuck, it's not polite. Likewise passively advertising that same info on your person openly seems the same principle to me. You wear badgers of honor for organizations you support, duties you have done, or to show open admiration for someone/something. Those tell people something about you at a glance.... showing people your kink preferences at a glance may not really be the image you want to present when you hit a more mature age.




Iamsemisweet -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 8:20:25 AM)

The trick with tattoos is to spend the money for quality and most importantly, think carefully and don't get one that will embarrass you later in life. I have a tattoo on my calf that I really like, that. I got about 10 years ago. Even when I go to court, I never cover it up, and I have never had anyone say anything negative about it. That's because it is well done, not garish, and suits my personality. I don't know if anyone has ever rejected me because of it, but if so, who cares. On the other hand, I sometimes see younger people with badly done tattoos and really stupid designs (skulls and Disney fairies for example) and I can't help but think they will regret that someday. So, be careful, and just like everything else in life, choose wisely.




Buzzzz -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 8:58:32 AM)

Like some others say, I would go for a more "discreet" location. If you are in a "corporate environment" and have to wear heels with skirt, the chain around ankle would be very visible.

And like others say, it is about quality. Is that said chain is very thin and nicely done, it wouldn't be that visible , yet powerful enough to "make a statement".




Blackbird90 -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 9:47:06 AM)

As far as my career is concerned, I had always thought that with some nice pants and some small heels or flats, it would be covered if it was on my ankle. That being said, I thought it would be a great location. I hate the idea of a tattoo on my lower back, and the chain just seemed to fit so nicely assuming that the ankle would be a discreet location. The chain doesn't work quite as well on other places, the exception being on the wrist perhaps. But I'm not comfortable tattooing my wrist/arms.

This really isn't a fad for me, and I'm confident that because of the huge impact this has had on my life, if nothing else it represents such a huge portion of my life and all of the wonderful people it helped me meet.

Perhaps I should consider a tattoo more around my shoulder blade though. That would be easier to cover up (especially in an office setting). There's just something about the idea of a chain tattoo around my ankle that really appeals to me though. Especially if I have a lock on it in the shape of a heart, I think it could be cute and I don't think that everyone would think of s&m. Those who partake probably would, but I don't think that others would think of it.




GreedyTop -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 10:01:52 AM)

Try this?



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Blackbird90 -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 10:03:47 AM)

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Try this?



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It looks really cool, but I don't feel that I have much of an emotional connection to it. Thank you though!




Epytropos -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 10:10:34 AM)

Your ex is smoking crack. Just, so much crack. If you want a tattoo, and your current dom (if you have one) approves, then get one. It's your (or your Master's, depending on your status) body, and it isn't as if you're getting it on your face. If all else fails you can cover it with makeup before going out somewhere it would not be accepted. Honestly I rather like tattoos as long as it is something that is going to be easily hidden for formal occasions. Of course, if it's something ugly I would take that into consideration alongside all other aesthetic concerns when deciding whether to involve myself with someone, but that's purely opinion and you can't base your life on it since it will differ from person to person.




GreedyTop -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 10:14:54 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Blackbird90

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Try this?



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It looks really cool, but I don't feel that I have much of an emotional connection to it. Thank you though!

quote:

I am interested in getting my first tattoo that would represent this without being extremely obvious


I get that.. but by your own words:
quote:

I am interested in getting my first tattoo that would represent this without being extremely obvious


this would fit the bill, especially if you ditch the heart background... just attribute it to some version of "celt" ancestry (worked for others!!)




sonofelborba -> RE: Getting a Tattoo (9/18/2011 10:21:43 AM)

All good advice! - As a tattoo industry person, seeing this makes me happy [:D]




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