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LadyHibiscus -> RE: Is it taboo?? (9/19/2011 8:36:42 AM)


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ORIGINAL: oddlots347

Yes, it is completely an asexual act for me.



Thank you. While playing CAN be sexual to me, sadism is just a thing for me entirely separate from sex. We are in a minority, yanno!



oddlots347 -> RE: Is it taboo?? (9/21/2011 9:10:04 AM)

Thanks to all for there responses and different views.



LadyPact -> RE: Is it taboo?? (9/21/2011 7:30:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: oddlots347

Have noticed that many male dom's do not play with male sub's and seem to play only with female sub's. Is this just there personal preference?? I am a Str8 male dom, I know this may sound silly, but if I give CBT to a male sub does it have anything to do with me being str8 or not?

For what it's worth, I'd actually be more worried about you doing CBT while lacking a whole lot of experience rather than being concerned whether you were gay or not.

You know what trips your sexuality trigger.  If it's not sexual for you, then it's not.  What's the worst that can happen?  That other dudes think you're gay because you're playing with another guy?  That kind of screams that you're more worried about what other people think rather than you having fun doing whatever. 

I play with chicks all of the time.  When I do, I honestly don't care what observers think.  Whatever they create in their own head isn't My responsibility, nor is it My concern.  They aren't where My focus is anyway.



nameonhold -> RE: Is it taboo?? (9/21/2011 8:31:29 PM)

Let me come at this from the opposite perspective.

As a male who is willing to submit to cbt performed upon me by a woman, but not a male .....

First, it is NOT about the CBT as much as it is about the submission to a woman, and my demonstrating what horrible pain and suffering I am willing to endure for the pleasure of a woman who wishes to inflict it upon me.

Second, CBT is NOT a SEXUAL act !  Performed to the extent I am accustomed to receiving it, I can assure you absolutely that there will be no erections for a considerable period of time, perhaps days.  I frequently don't even want to think about my balls for several days because they are so swollen, aching and burning.  It frequently hurts to urinate for several days.  My cock and balls have been black-n-blue for several days, a week, maybe more.  THIS IS NOT ABOUT SEX. 



SailingBum -> RE: Is it taboo?? (9/22/2011 4:24:42 PM)


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ORIGINAL: nameonhold

Let me come at this from the opposite perspective.

As a male who is willing to submit to cbt performed upon me by a woman, but not a male .....

First, it is NOT about the CBT as much as it is about the submission to a woman, and my demonstrating what horrible pain and suffering I am willing to endure for the pleasure of a woman who wishes to inflict it upon me.

Second, CBT is NOT a SEXUAL act !  Performed to the extent I am accustomed to receiving it, I can assure you absolutely that there will be no erections for a considerable period of time, perhaps days.  I frequently don't even want to think about my balls for several days because they are so swollen, aching and burning.  It frequently hurts to urinate for several days.  My cock and balls have been black-n-blue for several days, a week, maybe more.  THIS IS NOT ABOUT SEX. 



For you maybe.

OP if you wanna play with another guys junk your gay in my book. Not that you should care what I think about it. Man up and do what you want and not be bothered with other ppls opinion about you.

When it comes to judging you remember. Your the one that asked a bunch of strangers if you gay or not so you opened the door. Geeze you don't even have the courage to say to yourself Im gonna go play with some guy be damned what others think. Think in terms of being a "man of your convictions".

BadOne



txurinal -> RE: Is it taboo?? (9/24/2011 10:32:52 AM)

i have been very fortunate to have been dominated by straight males. These sessions were chiefly about submission and domination. They were about TPE, BDSM, and generally giving control to a superior. These sessions were not about sex, they were about submission and dominance.

As a slave/submissive, even with gay dominants, sex is not the primary purpose of the scene. In fact i would go so far to say that the good thing about submitting to a straight guy is that you already know that sex is pretty much off the table

A MASTER is a MASTER whether HE has male or female slaves and slaves can be useful in so many ways besides sex. i think that i could even be happy owned by a straight MASTER



Kana -> RE: Is it taboo?? (9/25/2011 10:48:14 PM)

1-I don't play with guys cuz it does nothing for me. Never had the urge, and frankly the thought just kinda makes me go (since we're being all teenage and shit) eeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwww.
2-I do have a friend who's kinda hardline about things, especially BDSM. His perspective is that "Slaves are neither male nor female, they are just slaves." An interesting point of view.
3-I'm kinda siding with SB on this one. I might not go so far as to say that you're gay (Not that there's anything wrong with that:-)) if you play with another mans junk but you are in the zip code. (I tend to go with the Dice Mans definition, "If you suck dick, you're gay" Needless to say, this also includes taking it up da poopershooter)



Arturas -> RE: Is it taboo?? (9/27/2011 1:59:34 AM)


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ORIGINAL: oddlots347

Have noticed that many male dom's do not play with male sub's and seem to play only with female sub's. Is this just there personal preference?? I am a Str8 male dom, I know this may sound silly, but if I give CBT to a male sub does it have anything to do with me being str8 or not?


Yes.



Wolf2Bear -> RE: Is it taboo?? (9/27/2011 5:20:27 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: oddlots347

Have noticed that many male dom's do not play with male sub's and seem to play only with female sub's. Is this just there personal preference?? I am a Str8 male dom, I know this may sound silly, but if I give CBT to a male sub does it have anything to do with me being str8 or not?



My experience is many straight male doms don't wish nor have any desire to play with a male sub even on a non sexual basis. So yeah...that is their personal preference.  The few male doms I played with had no issue getting into any BDSM play with a male sub because they are able to separate the sexual aspect from the kink play. Their motivation is they enjoy acting on their sadistic nature and simply enjoy inflicting pain on another sub regardless of the sub's gender.



bostondom55 -> RE: Is it taboo?? (10/9/2011 9:48:13 PM)

In many cultures, present and past, men can play sexually with either gender, and it is not considered abnormal. but, yes, if you are str8 and play with another man's genitals in any way you are not str8 (I'm kidding, in case you can't tell)



bostondom55 -> RE: Is it taboo?? (10/21/2011 2:54:14 PM)

who cares if you are straight or not? I believe in ancient Rome it was expected that males would have sex with males and no stigma was attached to it. Wives/women were for having kids (okay, and fucking as well), and in fact, a truly straight man was considered to be somewhat odd...



toxic66 -> RE: Is it taboo?? (10/22/2011 12:25:40 PM)

I would think if you are playing with another man's equipment it is kinda gay. I saw a thread on another fet site where the question was asked if guys could cum just from CBT, and most of the guys said yes (in fact, most of them said they had). So if guys are getting off on it, and even climaxing from it, then it seems you would be providing them with sexual pleasure.



HannahLynn -> RE: Is it taboo?? (10/22/2011 1:04:39 PM)

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Yes, it is completely an asexual act for me.
fuck me. i guess it really does suck to be you.



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Is it taboo?? (10/22/2011 1:21:25 PM)

A great question, I think.

I have known dom males who don't even want to watch a BDSM session with a sub male, it squeaks them major. And then I have known those for whom it doesn't matter what your plumbing is, male or female, they are sessioning for less sexual and more sadistic or power driven reasons and the gender of their sub is secondary.

I'm sure there are those who would argue if that if a male tops a male, there is some "gayness" involved. I don't agree and think those who perceive it as gay are undercover homophobic. But, YMMV and all that.

As far as BDSM being sexual (or not), I think it is if you think it is a/o want it to be. It doesn't *have* to be. When it comes to sex and power exchange we are talking some extremely primal drives. So I don't think it's all that easy to make cut and dried statement about what a particular act, or a specific session "means."



MistressLilliana -> RE: Is it taboo?? (10/22/2011 4:11:27 PM)

I think it depends on the Dom. In my opinion play is usually done, maybe not as a sexual act or because it causes arousal, but with a sub/slave they are attracted to or use sexually other times. From what I've seen, Doms play with females because that is what they are attracted to and most Doms who play with male subs, it's because they are gay and are attracted to guys. Perhaps there are Doms who enjoy causing pain to males because it gives them more of a sense of power or control simply because it is a male and there are no sexual feelings towards it. If there is no arousal at all towards the male I would not say the Dom is gay or Bisexual...they just enjoy giving other males pain and torturing them.




star1897 -> RE: Is it taboo?? (10/26/2011 12:15:07 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

You should know if you are gay or
not. You said you don't get a sexual rush from sadism.



so right on



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Is it taboo?? (10/26/2011 9:20:28 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: oddlots347
Have noticed that many male dom's do not play with male sub's and seem to play only with female sub's. Is this just there personal preference?? I am a Str8 male dom, I know this may sound silly, but if I give CBT to a male sub does it have anything to do with me being str8 or not?

Hell if I know.. LOL



shepkat2000 -> RE: Is it taboo?? (10/29/2011 11:55:38 PM)

The same way you get sexual satisfaction being tortured by your Master. You are a masocist and you get to pleasure him by suffering for him. the same way he gets enjoyment by torturing you.



sissyboycindy -> RE: Is it taboo?? (3/31/2013 5:56:02 AM)

When I was married we were both slaves to Her Master.He loved to have me suck his cock in front of my wife but usually had other submissive men visit and he had them use me.



MistressDarkArt -> RE: Is it taboo?? (3/31/2013 6:12:04 PM)

Necro thread



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