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JTreyL -> The Financial Domination Thing (9/18/2011 10:46:10 PM)
Well hello there there. Don't ask too many questions on these boards mostly do to the fact that I do not wish to upset or offend anyone with an utterly stupid question, but I figured a little clarification on this matter would help my knowledge in the community and help me to understand a little more. I have only recently joined the Collarme forums and community and while browsing through various profiles, I have noticed a trend among many female dominants. Not ALL mind you, but a good portion, list financial domination as one of their favorite kinks and actively take steps to milk any potential and active playmates for cash and gifts. While I can certainly understand this, (Who doesn't want to make a buck doing something they enjoy and get spoiled in the process, especially when there are enough submissive men out there ready to throw empty their wallets), I can't help but question the authenticity of such dommes. I can't help but feel it shows a domme is acting and is doing this MORE for money and privilege than from actual enjoyment. Same reason, and no offense to any of you ladies who are dominatrix's professionally, I could not ever bring myself to visit a dominatrix. There will always be that nagging thought in the back of my mind that ruins the experience for me, making me wonder, is this person TRULY enjoying this role, these actions, doing this to me, or is this just the best way they have discovered to make a buck. Than again though, I consider myself a true submissive but not an object or an ATM, I need my domme to care or atleast appreciate me atleast a quarter of the way I feel for them. I am sure I am wrong in my feelings, I just would like someone to spell it out to be, sincerely and help me to understand where you ladies are coming from. Thanks and much appreciation.

LadyPact -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 12:24:59 AM)
My suggestion to you is to see it in the same exact way as you do any other kink that you do not personally enjoy. It may not be something that trips your trigger, but it is something that other people have fun doing or want to engage in. Try to see it like this........ I just had a look at your profile. You have activities on that profile that I specify are things that I don't want in My life. Does that mean that I should tell you not to enjoy them? Of course not. It just means that we have different interests. We should each do the things that appeal to us.

JTreyL -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 12:29:09 AM)
I guess that is a good way of putting it, brief, but good way of putting it. XD I guess I need to re-arrange the question more to..what is the thrill behind it, where does it come from. An answer with a little introspection just to help me figure it out. And it's not that it doesn't flip my trigger so much so that I like the finances to have it flip my trigger. College doesn't pay well in the immediate. XD

LadyPact -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 12:39:25 AM)
Does the specific thrill behind it matter? The things that you enjoy give you a special zing, which is all that is really important. All you have to do is accept that other people get their special zings, too. Some people like having control, just like you enjoy being controlled. For others, it's power. For others still, it's sadism. Some people may just be doing it to make a buck, and that's ok, too.

JTreyL -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 12:50:18 AM)
I disagree on the making a buck thing but that's my own opinion. ANYWAY, anyone else mind fielding this one? Little insight?

mistressumber -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 12:56:48 AM)
I personally don't get off on financial domination but if someone wants to do kinky shit (very broad term) on cam, fuck it, I'm charging. I work as a cam girl so cam time for me is literally money. If someone doesn't want to make it worth it for me, that's fine. No cam time. Easy enough. Most people stop bothering with me when that comes up though.

MissImmortalPain -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 4:06:30 AM)
JTreyL. Are you asking what findoms are doing it for...the word financial should tip you off. Are you asking if they enjoy what they do, or are really only in it for the money < this varies from person to person. Are you asking if a pro domme enjoys what she is doing or is only in it for the money...again it varies from person to peson. I am 24/7 and pro. I do what I do because I enjoy it. A great man once said to truely be happy in life you must find the one thing that you are really good at and do it forever. I trust that he was right. I do what I do for a myriad of joyful reasons. With my pets there is a deepness and love that few can understand, much less reach. With clients yes I am in a manner pandering to what they want. They are paying for a service. But I have limits on what I will do for them, and I do not cross those limits. I also get to know them rather well. Many tell me things they won't tell their shrink. I only do what I enjoy so for me personally it is never only about the money. As for you being wrong about your feelings. Yes you are, bad boy, go eat a rock.....ok I'm lying. There is nothing wrong with your feelings. They are yours, and you have every right to them. If dealing with a pro isn't something you find interesting than don't do it.

DarkSteven -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 5:04:09 AM)
There are two kinds of Dommes, lifestyle and pro (although some Dommes do both). The pros do it for money, but I assume that if they don't like it, they'll soon quit.

lobodomslavery -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 6:07:26 AM)
Mate what 's really appalling is the amount the Pros charge , i mean i have no qualms about giving someone $30 for an hour or whatever but $200 come on that is just complete and utter extortion. my advice, stay away from the pros. they are just avaricious materialistic money minded exploitresses. they dont care about you they just want your money and to bleed you dry. Why else do they charge $200 an hour and some a lot more? Pure greed kevin

lobodomslavery -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 6:19:36 AM)
What women pros should really do is lower their prices to a recession reasonable rate. With so many out of work, the kinky guy will not in all probability be able to afford $200 but he would be able to afford $25 or $30 for an hours kink. the place where the kinky stuff is bought needs to LOWER their prices too, to take into account the worst recession in living memory and the disastrous consequences of same. And yet the gas thing is pros moan about not being able to get a sub and that there are so many fakes, the only thing fake is them and their ludicrously high prices. Get real Ladies, drop Your prices kevin

lobodomslavery -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 6:22:15 AM)
im with you mate. Why should Dommes be able to make a quick buck when so many are struggling to keep their heads above water, its just not right or fair kevin lover of Women but saddened at the exploitation by Pro Dommes of clients who without their assistance would put the Pro Domme out of business

Lockit -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 6:34:23 AM)
Kevin... go back to your own thread and don't take over this one. OP, I can't help you with understanding the motivations other than a personal opinion or two, which is really no assistance. Trying to understand it may not do much good as I am sure there are a number of reasons and not all are bad and it depends on the women involved. Why spend time trying to figure it out, when there are those that would fit you and you can spend your time more focused on them? [;)]

lobodomslavery -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 6:57:32 AM)
im not taking over this thread, im just expressing an opinion and giving a guy some helpful advice from someone who has been there and been burned and hoping that this guy wont make the same mistakes, i wish to god someone gave me the advice i now wish to pass on, is there anything wrong with that, we are all here to help each other kevin

Lockit -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 7:04:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery im not taking over this thread, im just expressing an opinion and giving a guy some helpful advice from someone who has been there and been burned and hoping that this guy wont make the same mistakes, i wish to god someone gave me the advice i now wish to pass on, is there anything wrong with that, we are all here to help each other kevin Kevin you are taking over this thread and this will be my last post to you here and I hope no one else allows you to ruin other threads, simply because it is fun to fuck with you. The OP has come not asking for advice from you or assistance. He has an interest in knowing what the interest is in women that charge money for services, etc. He is not in need of your warnings and opinions that are coming off more as off topic posts. He seems perfectly capable of taking care of himself and has said he doesn't pay. We can block you, not answer you and find other ways to deal with you, but if you intend to take over a lot of threads making the mistress forum your little playground of discontent, then expect some opposition as well as complaints about you to the CM staff. Go play on your own threads.

GreedyTop -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 7:06:58 AM)
adores Lockit

lobodomslavery -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 7:21:33 AM)
im with the OP kevin

myotherself -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 7:25:15 AM)
I would think that many of these women are supplying a demand. They wouldn't do it if there was no demand for it. I would assume that tribute dommes do it for the money. Hell, why not? If all you have to do is to order someone to buy you a gift or send you cash, I'm sure there are harder ways to make a living. I personally don't understand what kick anyone can get out of handing over their money to someone, but then again I don't understand the whole DaddyDom/babygirl thing, or service subs, or..or...or many other things that give others the buzz they're looking for. And it doesn't matter that I don't get it. But then again, I don't care. Whatever floats your boat! Pro-Dommes are a different kettle of fish. These ladies are kink delivery systems for people who can't or won't be part of a kink-based relationship. I don't envy them in the slightest....

lobodomslavery -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 7:27:25 AM)
How is it our problem if Women reject us as possible kink partners and only see us as capable money slaves, ie we are only good for the money we give them. its not my problem if Women see me as only good when im giving them money kevin

myotherself -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 7:31:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery How is it our problem if Women reject us as possible kink partners and only see us as capable money slaves, ie we are only good for the money we give them. its not my problem if Women see me as only good when im giving them money kevin It's YOUR problem because it's YOU that is being rejected. It is YOU that is only being seen as a money slave. It is ENTIRELY AND SOLELY YOUR PROBLEM that women only see you as a money delivery system. The common denominator in YOUR lack of success in finding a Domme is YOU. Until you start sorting it out, you will always be viewed as a customer or dupe, never a cherished sub.

Rochsub2009 -> RE: The Financial Domination Thing (9/19/2011 8:00:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JTreyL .what is the thrill behind it, where does it come from. An answer with a little introspection just to help me figure it out. I think you're on a futile quest here. It's pretty hard to understand why others enjoy something. It's like asking "Why do some people enjoy eating beets?" They simply do. Financial domination seems to garner questions like yours most often. I'm not sure why it's such a difficult kink for folks to wrap their mind around. But it's no different than any other kink. Why do some people enjoy scat? Why would someone enjoy shitting on someone else? Why would the other person enjoy being shit (shat?) upon? If you're not into it, then you'll probably never understand the source of their enjoyment. Frankly, I don't understand why someone would want to put a live rodent up their ass, but I don't waste my time pondering their motivations. Financial domination is not your kink. Since you've already figured that out, why give it any more thought?

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