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BluMac -> Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 12:54:55 AM)

Kind of noticed an anomaly here on collarme.com, I see that the majority of dom women have these statements in their profiles like "FEMALES ONLY - Contact me, read it again, Contact me - FEMALES ONLY". Now, I know that along with the BDSM lifestyle typically comes some homosexuality or bisexuality, but the proportions are way off, and how these doms (except the doms for pay) seek to keep away male subs is beyond me. My only theory on it is that there are too many males bombarding their inbox. Can someone explain this phenomenon to me? Do female doms receive more pleasure when they're with female subs than with men? What's going on?

Anyway, I've nearly given up looking for a dom in CO, they're just impossible to find and the ones you do find only want women, go figure. Now, I say this with all due respect, please understand that. I'm just trying to understand this scene a little better... and maybe give me some hope! lol

PS- Any of you other sub/switch/slave guys see what I'm talking about here?



LadyPact -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 1:37:39 AM)

I can't say anything about "most".  I do have reason to believe that it's a lot easier to find a male submissive than it is a female one and that might be why there is an imbalance in the numbers.

I don't know if you have tried this yet, but you can change your settings so that you will only see the profiles of those female Dominants who are seeking males.  Go to your home page.  There is a drop down box that says "they are seeking".  Select the category that you fit into (i.e. submissive males) and presto!  Only Dommes who are seeking male subs will come up.

Written by a female Dominant who used to live in CO, only sought males, but I'm betting I can guess what town you live in.


ETA - Yep.  I lived there for several years.



DeviantlyD -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 1:43:39 AM)

'Cause women are more fun to play with! :D

My guess is pretty much what LadyPact stated. It's my understanding that female dominants can easily get male dominants and need not advertise, whereas those female dominants who are interested in female submissives/slaves only, find the search is not as easy and so they "advertise".



FelineFae -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 2:54:19 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD

'Cause women are more fun to play with! :D

My guess is pretty much what LadyPact stated. It's my understanding that female dominants can easily get male dominants and need not advertise, whereas those female dominants who are interested in female submissives/slaves only, find the search is not as easy and so they "advertise".


Qthe whole thingFT.
but i like the first part best.[:D]



DarkSteven -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 4:50:37 AM)

Dude, I haven't noticed any such thing, but I haven't looked at Domme profiles much.

Google Celebration of Power. That's the local kink group in the Springs and the only game in town.  If ya wanna go to anything else, it's up here in Denver.



DeviantlyD -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 4:58:56 AM)

Oh frick! Major mess-up on my post. I meant to say female dominants can easily get male submissives/slaves, not male dominants. Although I think that happens more easily than the other way around. ;)



FelineFae -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 5:02:17 AM)

Don't feel bad, i didn't catch the typo, then went on to repost it. So, that just means another round of caffeine for the lot of us. [;)]



DeviantlyD -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 5:11:24 AM)

Ha, ha! It's like you were reading my mind. ;)



ProlificNeeds -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 5:31:34 AM)

It's true all the lesbo Dommes congregate online, you have to meet real life Dommes to get in line. [;)] The real living flesh ones are better anyway. I'd suggest going to local events.



SadisticMs2 -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 6:26:28 AM)

I think what you're seeing is the "big deal" that Dommes make about looking for a femsub....meaning that if you're on here and female, you get inundated with a ton of messages from men, no matter what your profile says. So women are are looking for women tend to put it NO MEN NO MEN in big bold letters to get the point across.

They'll still get a ton of email from men though. LOL...it's the nature of a kink site.



Rochsub2009 -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 6:59:53 AM)

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ORIGINAL: BluMac

Do female doms receive more pleasure when they're with female subs than with men? What's going on?



That's easy.  What are you seeking?  Women!  Me too.  Women are soft, and pretty, and they smell good.

Contrarily, men are hairy, they behave badly, smell bad, and fart too often.  No sane person would seek a man.  So why is it confusing to find that even Dommes prefer women?  [:D]



OttersSwim -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 7:07:36 AM)

psst....Roch....you're a guy...just sayin'  [;)]



Rochsub2009 -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 7:13:13 AM)

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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

psst....Roch....you're a guy...just sayin'  [;)]


And I'm hairy, behave badly, smell bad, and fart too often.  [:D]



OttersSwim -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 7:17:57 AM)

Girlie-boys for the WIN!  [:D]



DarkSteven -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 7:18:57 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

That's easy.  What are you seeking?  Women!  Me too.  Women are soft, and pretty, and they smell good.

Contrarily, men are hairy, they behave badly, smell bad, and fart too often.  No sane person would seek a man.  So why is it confusing to find that even Dommes prefer women?  [:D]



Women cannot live without us.  Sooner or later, they need someone to kill a spider.



myotherself -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 7:23:10 AM)

I pick spiders up and put them outside.

Master kills them with his farts [:'(]

I may have exaggerated that last sentence...but not by much...



GreedyTop -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 7:26:22 AM)

I kill my own spiders, TYVM!!!!

(well, usually.. unless they end up somewhere and I'm startled... then I scream like a girl and try to find someone else to kill them. usedta be roommates.. now it's the cats, and lemme tell ya... they SUCK at killing spiders!!)



ProlificNeeds -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 8:39:14 AM)


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

I kill my own spiders, TYVM!!!!

(well, usually.. unless they end up somewhere and I'm startled... then I scream like a girl and try to find someone else to kill them. usedta be roommates.. now it's the cats, and lemme tell ya... they SUCK at killing spiders!!)



I have this spider about as big as my palm sitting out in my garden shed... can I call you to go hunt it for me? Because I won't be caught dead out there, it could sever an artery or something! To make matters worse I think it's a mutant orb spider so it looks all big and hairy and tarantula like...



HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 8:39:44 AM)

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Can someone explain this phenomenon to me? Do female doms receive more pleasure when they're with female subs than with men? What's going on?
Look at the attached graphic carefully and tell me if you really need to ask this question.

[image]local://upfiles/1214164/7AFC4092913E458B885F9FC40E92EE04.jpg[/image]



GreedyTop -> RE: Why do most mistresses seek females? (9/20/2011 10:24:06 AM)

omg Heather!! DAMN YOU!! I am sending you a bill for the eye bleach...


PN.. sure.. cover my travel costs plus hazard pay *wink*



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