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How to find dom/subbie. - 5/22/2006 6:57:14 PM

cillydom

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Take two pieces of paper. On th first write a description of the person you want.

On the second piece of paper with much thought write a description of the relationship you desire.

Take the first sheet of paper and tear it up.

Take the second sheet of paper and go find him/her.

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/22/2006 7:07:17 PM

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Good plan cilly. I think we do sometimes confuse the two...or perhaps I should say we don't prioritize properly.

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/22/2006 7:21:58 PM

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You can't always get what you want, but if you try real hard you might get what you need... The sage words of the Rolling Stones ....Man when looking for a dom those were the words that kept me going...smiles

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/22/2006 8:20:49 PM

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That makes so much sense it is scary.

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/22/2006 8:22:19 PM

littlesarbonn

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Or tear up both sheets of paper and call an escort service.

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/22/2006 8:23:15 PM

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~Very thoughtful, Cillydom, ty.~

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/22/2006 9:16:29 PM

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i respectfully agree. AND, i wish i had seen/listened to that a couple of years ago.

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/23/2006 5:08:58 AM

KennelDeSade2

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Good method!

Boys are told that happiness comes from having a girl that all others envy.
But as adults, they are unhappy, because they never compare what they where told they wanted as children, with what they know will make them happy as adults.

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/23/2006 5:12:46 AM

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You mean I cant buy one on ebay?

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/23/2006 7:05:36 AM

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You mean I cant buy one on ebay?

Course you can , you can buy anything on ebay...lol

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/23/2006 7:08:02 AM

Aileen68

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The Walmart by me sells them.
They're on the shelf right next to all of the cleaning products.
Must be service oriented subs.

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/23/2006 7:18:49 AM

sublace

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I would love to know how to find a dom/domme. I'm a sub that is eager to please, yet I can't find anyone local to please. I would love all the help I can get.

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/23/2006 7:39:39 AM

NikkiAnn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sublace

I would love to know how to find a dom/domme. I'm a sub that is eager to please, yet I can't find anyone local to please. I would love all the help I can get.

sublace

Go back and read Post #1 by Cillydom. Good Luck

Nikki Ann

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/23/2006 8:10:00 AM

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Neither piece of paper matters here in Podunk. I walk out the door and all I see for miles is cows, cornfields, and toothless drunk rednecks.
Slim pickin's makes any search futile.

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/23/2006 8:29:30 AM

VikingHouse

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For some odd reasoning, I don't feel as if Oshkosh is a prime locale for discovering a Dom' . The reactions found in like towns is usually not conducive to being able to practice those things that fulfill you without ridicule from the cumps, punks and braindead of our species. your manner of dress might very well clash with the employers standards and expectations o that they've been programmed to accept.
Without apology, I've had the good fortune of being able to travel, to every State in this fragile Union .I'll admit that most of it was from the airseat of a 'Large Car', as well as the custom Bates solo seat that, I preferred over stocksnot. Harleys. Both of those modes of transport have provided numerous opportunities for My continuing education, and after much study, I finally received My Doctorate in Delicious Deviance. Having the imperative to empower My intellect with further studies, I decided that there are areas of this country that should be avoided by thinking kinksters.
Finding a hot throat or slightly chilled strapon for use is hardly a difficult task if that's all that one is interested in. Fortunately for My "rosebud", I've never encountered anything but a slender female finger, a hot tongue or three, An elongated camers for a colonoscopy (I believe in preventative medicine practices, including extensive physical exams for the members of Viking House), male and female fingers that probed for My prostrate gland, but no Hooka's or gerbils. lol
What, I'm attempting to segue into is the probable need for you to either relocate or import a Dominant from elsewhere. Being realistic about what's actually available out here might shorten your search parameters.
Gentry

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/23/2006 9:04:57 AM

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On a pure level, I would agree---however, when this is posted here, it is on a BDSM level and more fantasies abound than M&M's--so I would add some words of caution--(as I wrap in My special flame gear)--

The book cover renditions of the adoring slave and Her handsome Master--are marvelous--hot, sexy--open the book---uh oh, there are bills to pay, careers to manage, children some where that need to be raised--grass to be cut, groceries to be purchased--oh yes and those pesky outside interests--oh and wait--limits? No limits? What do you mean no family? Wait--you mean there are still vanilla things to do?

MMMM the magazine shows Her--shapely, stilletto heeled, whip firmly in hand--luscious red lips, licking them with that come on look--walking seductively toward the bed--the kids scream as the dog howls--the phone rings--what? its time to go to work? What? you don't wear stilettos? what do you mean you are a real person with a life?

please, I am not making fun of variations on a theme--the point I am making is that one needs to remove the fantasy from thought--OR if the fantasy is all you seek, then do your search from that path----but 99% of the time---people are human, and life intervenes---and the stories and books are just that---look at the face of reality when you seek.

(edited because I hit the send button too fast)

< Message edited by MHOO314 -- 5/23/2006 9:08:05 AM >

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/23/2006 9:34:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: cillydom

Take two pieces of paper. On th first write a description of the person you want.

On the second piece of paper with much thought write a description of the relationship you desire.

Take the first sheet of paper and tear it up.

Take the second sheet of paper and go find him/her.

Patience and dumb luck are highly underrated when it comes to looking for a partner.

Relationships are 'built' not found and you can't start building them until you find someone in whom you are interested enough to make the attempt.

Celeste

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/23/2006 9:41:58 AM

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i think some might disagree, but i think you find the right person when you aren't even looking

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/23/2006 9:45:07 AM

Bearlee

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

Patience and dumb luck are highly underrated when it comes to looking for a partner.

Relationships are 'built' not found and you can't start building them until you find someone in whom you are interested enough to make the attempt.

Celeste

Well said (again), Celeste! So...what that means is...get out there and MEET people! If you meet them online first...meet them in person SOON. Go to munches and clubs and demos when you can and meet face to face.

It's a numbers game, too...

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RE: How to find dom/subbie. - 5/23/2006 9:59:18 AM

TallDarkAndWitty

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I think you should throw both away and begin a third list. On this list you should write down the things you enjoy doing that do not require anyone else. Write down all the things you do that make you a happy, productive, and well-rounded person. Now go out and do those things and live a happy life.

Or, if you really must "search", you can create another list. On this list, write down twelve things that make for an ideal sub/slave/top/bottom/whatever you want to be. Take one thing on that list and spend a month working towards improving yourself to be more like your ideal. After the first month, pick the next thing on the list, and work on that. Spend a year doing this.

Most importantly, enjoy your life...don't wait for someone to make it enjoyable.

Taggard

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