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RE: questioning..an outsider. - 9/22/2011 6:29:23 PM

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Neither of you are young kids who don't know better. You don't mention if you talked to him or his response to your concerns.

If you haven't spoken to him, shame on you. D/s or M/s doesn't mean you have no voice. While for many it means that the top makes the decisions, you still have the right to walk away from something that goes against the core of what you expected from the relationship.

If you have spoken to him and this is how he is taking your concerns into consideration, it's time for you to face the music. There already is a "backstabbing bitch" in your relationship and he's it. His contact with this woman has nothing to do with "finding a girlfriend for you." Regardless of the power dynamic between you, you should let him know this situation is unacceptable and if he proceeds, he is on his own.

Even in a poly situation, the top needs to consider how the bottoms will interact. Unless of course, "poly" is being bandied about so he can justify dipping his dick wherever he wants.

Another red flag? She is bringing a man she never met into her home to meet her children. Bad mothers are rarely good people.eptable and if he proceeds, he is on his own.

Even in a poly situation, the top needs to consider how the bottoms will interact. Unless of course, "poly" is being bandied about so he can justify dipping his dick wherever he wants.

Another red flag? She is bringing a man she never met into her home to meet her children. Bad mothers are rarely good people.

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RE: questioning..an outsider. - 9/22/2011 6:40:16 PM

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You have every right to be concerned.

He says this and that .. and that its your girlfriend, and your third for your threesomes .... and yet she has made it plain that she wants nothing to do with you.

He knows this..., knows that she is NOT going to be your girlfriend, and if he brings her into the bedroom - there is going to be animosity between you and her, thus the threesome is going to suck. - sounds like a recipe for a dish of resentment to me ....

Bottom line - he wants some pussy on the side, whether or not you agree with it. He could care LESS about your feelings. He is only interested in what HE wants. And he sees no reason to not do as he wants. Regardless of your feelings.

Sounds like youre in a fucked up relationship. Have fun with that.

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RE: Ask SimplyMichael - 9/22/2011 7:53:32 PM

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When conversation between a Master and his slave fails to garner the answers
the slave is hoping for...Start a thread about it using the couples account!

We can tell you a million times over that there are many red flags here, and
that you have every right to question this outsider. But in the long wrong, we
don't have the power to change your Masters intentions to meet this woman.
Perhaps he will read this post you made and that will open up the door to
further discussion about this. I hope it turns out for the best.

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 9/23/2011 7:21:40 AM

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She is either younger, thinner, or prettier, right?

Daaayyyyuuuuuuum son, spare her feelings, why dontcha :-)

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 9/23/2011 9:25:24 AM

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You said HE is going over her house. If she is supposed to be your GF you both should be going over her house. Sounds fishy to me. She is for you but you can't go meet her what is up with that. Why does he have to meet her alone the first time. It sounds like you Master is mor interestfedher then he lets you know. You should ask him if you can go to her house for the meet also and she what he says.

This sounds like a bad situation. iIwish you luck.

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RE: questioning..an outsider. - 9/23/2011 12:41:24 PM

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If you are supposed to be involved, and this is a girlfriend for you, why is he meeting her alone?

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RE: questioning..an outsider. - 9/23/2011 1:14:49 PM

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Go with him for dinner. After all, if he isn't planning on cheating on you then he shouldn't have any trouble with you meeting her also. If he is, then you know what value he puts on your relationship.

Additionally he wants the other woman to be a friend for you, just tell him you won't be friends with her because of how she's mistreated you by ignoring you and being rude to you.

Myself, I'd hand him the number of an escort agency from the paper and suggest he hire his twosome. Because I'd be busy packing up his stuff and leaving it on the driveway. Either both of you want the same person for a poly relationship or your relationship will not possibly last. He cannot order you to like and trust someone, which is what he's doing.

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RE: questioning..an outsider. - 9/23/2011 5:56:54 PM

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Well, the profile is gone now.....so I'm guessing he knows her feelings and our opinions.....

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RE: questioning..an outsider. - 9/23/2011 7:58:13 PM

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Yeah, I noticed that too.

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RE: questioning..an outsider. - 9/24/2011 10:40:43 AM

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quote:

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A bondage partner for us and a gf to me. someone that makes you happy and you can make happy. the two of you can do things together.

If that's the deal than under no circumstances should he be going anywhere with her alone unless/until you two females have become friends. Anything less is a recipe for disaster.

Yeah, that's what raises a big red flag for me. Supposedly she is for both of you but he's meeting (or by now has met) with her alone? I would think the meeting would be between the three of you to see if there is chemistry between the three of you. I suspect that the woman he's looking for is for him more than you and I would have a talk with him about this.

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