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ElanSubdued -> RE: ideas on locks for male chastity belts (9/24/2011 12:02:32 PM)
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Dreamscaper27,
Regarding your question in the OP and the subsequent feelings you've expressed vis-a-vis embarrassment in a shop. I remember what it was like going into shops (even vanilla shops like Dom Depot... ah... I mean Home Depot) with the intent of buying items for kinky use. It can be unnerving because your mind plays tricks. Somehow it seems every clerk and customer in the store knows what you're buying and why you're buying it. The truth is nobody knows. And, at a place like Home Depot, there are so many ways to ask for items that you really don't need to be worried.
So... addressing your situation, if you (personally) want to buy the lock, here's what to do. Get the chastity device (or have your sub get it) and measure the size of the hole. Use a drill bit kit (which, if you don't have one, can be bought very inexpensively and comes in handy for other projects). Test successively larger bits in the hole until you find the one that fits perfectly. Look at the diameter on the side of the bit (or printed on the hole where you removed the bit from the kit), and that's the size of the hole. Now, go to Home Depot and pick a lock with this diameter or less.
I can't remember if small locks have their diameters printed, but just give the diameter to a clerk and they'll be clever enough, hopefully, to help you. There's no need to tell the clerk what the lock is for, but if you feel compelled to have a reason, you can say it's for a petty cash box, makeup kit, or a myriad other things that need small locks. I suggest buying two or more as I've found small locks have a habit of getting lost - not lost intentionally, just lost because they fall to the bottom of toy bags, hide under beds or in sheets, etc.
At the outset, using a lock can be exciting and hot. However, while I'm not discouraging you, over time, assuming you and your partner stay together, I think you'll both find locks become inconvenient with the rest of life. Ultimately, most BDSM agreements boil down to honesty and willingness. By all means enjoy the feeling of "locking someone up". This is usually a lot of fun for all involved. Recognize though that you may change your mind later as to how chastity works in your dynamic. Negotiating with your partner how you control his orgasms and when/how (ex: with your permission only) he has orgasms can be, and should be, a very effective "mechanism".
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