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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 6:02:12 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: OTKkindaGirl
3) Be allowed to choose your sexual partners (option 2 would go with this choice to enhance your sluttiness)?

What impact do you think they would have on the relationship with your Dom/me and what do you think  the risks would be of falling for somebody else emotionally or intellectually?

In my past relationship, it was awesome. 

Oh and I DID fall for other people, and so did he.  We were open poly, it was fine and even expected that we would find other partners to form relationships with.  In fact it was part of the foundations of our relationship- we would NEVER be monogamous or expected to only be attached to eachother.

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 6:04:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am my Beloved's slut.  He can use me in any capacity that pleases him.  If that means that he wishes to see me serve another or to have another use me as a slut, then I will comply.  We have discussed that I do have some say in who else I may serve.  SD would never make me serve someone that I found repulsive or unhygenic.

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 7:06:07 AM   
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I love to be shared with others for my Owners enjoyment, and he loves to watch me with others.


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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 7:22:45 AM   
missgiveNTake


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Status: offline 		I would do what He wanted. I believe in honesty and openness, if He wants me as His and only His, it will be. If He wants to see me used and is looking after my safety, I will submit. As far as number 3, to me that is only and option if it is a poly relationship, but I do not feel that would be for me.

I do see sex and love as two totally different things and cannot fall for someone, if we have agreed it is a purely sexual encounter. That makes me lose respect for the other person, if they profess love because of sex.

Furthermore,I would not allow myself to even think of love with another, once I have given my heart to anyone. I am only capable of giving my heart to one at a time.

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 7:30:49 AM   
sublace


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Status: offline 		If my Dom/Domme wanted me to serve others, I would have no problem doing it.  It would be my pleasure.  I love being a slut, I just love pleasing anyone sexually and see a big smile on their face when I'm done!!  Just wish I had someone to do that for.

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 7:39:58 AM   
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What if he wants you to be slutty with others?


To be honest.. just for me personally.. the Master i have.. won't ask me to do those things in the first place.  i want Him to be as selfish with my body..as i am with His.

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 11:01:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		i have to say my first instinct is to go with 1...however, there is that recurring dream i keep having...

kidnapped, blindfolded, held by a group of men for who knows how long...<sigh>...


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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 12:42:10 PM   
akisha


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I like to be true to the one I'm with but I like sleeping with others as well. But not a large number of others. 2 or 3 well known, safe, d&d free people and I'm happy. Keeps the variety aspect alive with out the ick factor (for me) of sleeping with multiple random partners.

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 12:56:53 PM   
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kidnapped, blindfolded, held by a group of men for who knows how long...<sigh>...


  you slut..lol.. we have to continue this discussion tonight.  ; )        *kisses* sis

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 1:02:10 PM   
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 however, there is that recurring dream i keep having...

kidnapped, blindfolded, held by a group of men for who knows how long...<sigh>... 




I have that same dream!  Funny thing is about a year ago, before I went on a trip, my father dreamt the same thing about me!  He was horrified and tried to forbid me from going (yeah right I was 38!).  How could I tell him that he had not had a nightmare; he had just stumbled into one of my favorite fantasies while visiting the astral plane!!!!!!!

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 1:10:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: angelface183

quote:

 however, there is that recurring dream i keep having...

kidnapped, blindfolded, held by a group of men for who knows how long...<sigh>... 




I have that same dream!  Funny thing is about a year ago, before I went on a trip, my father dreamt the same thing about me!  He was horrified and tried to forbid me from going (yeah right I was 38!).  How could I tell him that he had not had a nightmare; he had just stumbled into one of my favorite fantasies while visiting the astral plane!!!!!!!



Hmmmm......          *writes two more invitations to Lokiwood.*

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 1:17:10 PM   
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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 1:20:41 PM   
Bearlee


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Well, that’s how I feel now….single and unattached.  I’ve done that ‘open marriage’ thang…and while I really, really intellectually LIKE the idea, it didn’t work for us.

I see ‘Polyamory’ as different however…but, there was no #4:  Remain chaste, save for your Dom/me and the few additional members of your ‘extended D/s family. 

<sigh>  There is a part of me that dreams of He and I and another woman, living, sleeping and playing together like a pile o’ puppies.

Sometimes I’m just BAD……but when I’m bad, I’m very, very good.   
<smiles sweetly>

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 1:23:51 PM   
spankmepink11


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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble



That said, I've always envisioned myself doing well in a commune with some close intimate friends (maybe 8 or 10 of them) of all orientations/genders ... sort of like an all you can eat buffet without gaining any weight for indulging.

Yeah.. I have that tiny little hedonist thing going on.

Celeste



I believe i would thrive in a communal situation as well.
 
That being said, i would be very comfortable with both options 1 and 2. As in most things with me.....context is very important.  This may be a bit of a polyanna type outlook, (ok very kinky polyanna) but i would never want it presented in such a way as to make me feel not valued by Him, but more like...."see this wonderful slutty toy i have?...lets play with it!!!!!

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 3:52:52 PM   
OTKkindaGirl


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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

No need to settle! If I ever get to live in a commune, you'll be the first one I call.


 You're the best!!! 

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 4:03:18 PM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		I'd submit to every one of you.  Even the subs.  Well, not the men, but the rest of you, pass me around.

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 4:28:07 PM   
OTKkindaGirl


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

In my past relationship, it was awesome. 

Oh and I DID fall for other people, and so did he.  We were open poly, it was fine and even expected that we would find other partners to form relationships with.  In fact it was part of the foundations of our relationship- we would NEVER be monogamous or expected to only be attached to eachother.


perhaps being so open is why you are no longer together for i certainly hope it isn't sadder circumstances that separate you two.  Either way, i do not mean to hurt or offend you. 

i have a deep overwhelming amount of love and deep sense of need in commitment but that isn't to say that i would expect that same kind of devotion, because i don't.... it would be wonderful but i have never seen or envisioned this for my destiny.  sometimes i am left feeling a bit alone and ambivalent by this thought.

i wouldn't  want to lose a Master because he fell for somebody else but hey it happens even in the vanilla world so why would this be any different.  i'm not suggesting this is what happened in your situation but rather me musing thoughtfully to the post.  thank you for your answer LA. 



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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 4:31:55 PM   
OTKkindaGirl


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you're such a good dawg, benji!

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 4:47:59 PM   
OTKkindaGirl


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ORIGINAL: missgiveNTake

I would do what He wanted. I believe in honesty and openness, if He wants me as His and only His, it will be. If He wants to see me used and is looking after my safety, I will submit. As far as number 3, to me that is only and option if it is a poly relationship, but I do not feel that would be for me.

I do see sex and love as two totally different things and cannot fall for someone, if we have agreed it is a purely sexual encounter. That makes me lose respect for the other person, if they profess love because of sex.

Furthermore,I would not allow myself to even think of love with another, once I have given my heart to anyone. I am only capable of giving my heart to one at a time.


i can completely agree with you here.  i learned a very long time ago the difference between sex and love... i feel sorry for those who haven't though.  But here is a good question, does being slutty prove your love any less than being chaste, if that is what your Dom/me wants?

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RE: Chaste or Slutty - 5/23/2006 4:55:00 PM   
OTKkindaGirl


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ORIGINAL: akisha

Can i do 1b? *smiles*

I like to be true to the one I'm with but I like sleeping with others as well. But not a large number of others. 2 or 3 well known, safe, d&d free people and I'm happy. Keeps the variety aspect alive with out the ick factor (for me) of sleeping with multiple random partners.


miss akisha, darlin' you can do anything you want as far as i'm concerned, just keep that head up and keep true to yourself.  when the dust settles and you find yourself suddenly collared, don't hide from yourself again. 

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