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ORIGINAL: cinderella221972

i am a sub/slave (always depending on individual definitions) and have served One for the past many years who has always used a louder voice than the first i served and seems much quicker to reach the end of His fuse.  Being one who has always tended to consider all problems my fault (in all aspects of life), i find it difficult to figure out how to communicate everything to Him as i was taught by my late Master and as Master says He expects when things on my mind might upset Him. 

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

short fuses and louder voices indicate a lack of control -- when someone starts to yell, they've lost control; I walk away.

I don't raise my voice.

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We aren't feisty we're spunky

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ORIGINAL: barelynangel

To me, i don't like quiet people, i like people who show all of their emotions.  Some people do and some people don't. 

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ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather

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We aren't feisty we're spunky

Speak for yourself, nobody has spunked in, on, or around me.

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ORIGINAL: Epytropos
Why have a slave if you can't use them for catharsis?

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ORIGINAL: Epytropos

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I tend to be loud when I'm passionate about something, which is a lot, but actually getting angry is rather rare for me, and losing my temper with a sub has happened perhaps twice ever. That sort of loss of control, to me, is an unacceptable pattern in a dominant. It's bound to happen once in a great while, and as long as you walk away and don't take it out on your sub that's one thing, but if it happens to you a lot I have to wonder how well-suited you are to having total control over another human being.

Of course, if you're angry about something unrelated and opt to take it out on a subs tender areas that's just good fun . Why have a slave if you can't use them for catharsis?

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ORIGINAL: lupineEleven

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ORIGINAL: Epytropos

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I tend to be loud when I'm passionate about something, which is a lot, but actually getting angry is rather rare for me, and losing my temper with a sub has happened perhaps twice ever. That sort of loss of control, to me, is an unacceptable pattern in a dominant. It's bound to happen once in a great while, and as long as you walk away and don't take it out on your sub that's one thing, but if it happens to you a lot I have to wonder how well-suited you are to having total control over another human being.

Of course, if you're angry about something unrelated and opt to take it out on a subs tender areas that's just good fun . Why have a slave if you can't use them for catharsis?

I just had to bold that word, because I love that word.

Especially when it involves Master pacing back and forth waving his arms and giving a rather loud, boisterous speech about the difference between a Ghostbusters I proton pack versus a Ghostbusters II proton pack. Or how the camera angle needs to be a specific way in his films. Or all the pros and cons of being a Blues Brother. Or even telling the world how much it hates him when his car was totaled while parked, or when I've done a stupid and he's forcing the solution into my far too thick skull. I like wild, passionate things. I am a wild, passionate thing (though I'll admit I DO have a lack of emotional control sometimes, but it's not my job to control ;D -- I HAVE been working on it though, my friends blame the fact that I'm a Scorpio).

Sometimes yelling at a wall (or a consenting individual willing to be the beating block, as I have willfully done during some very stressful moments in Master's life) IS the therapy someone needs. I've always worried at a lot of quiet, emotionally contained people because the way they look is often the way I look when I bottle things up, and when I bottle things up I go *POP* eventually. I'm always an advocate of being in control so that you don't do anything stupid while angry, but to control your emotions to the point where they are literally dimmed down so as not to *seem* out of control... two very different things.