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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I think I just came from that thread.  

Yes, I call it play and I call it that because it's fun.  I tend to call it casual play so people know the difference between just S/m for a scene and something that is a more in-depth relationship or one that includes physical sex.  A scene to Me doesn't have to be about a serious commitment beyond engaging in the activity with someone that you trust and ensuring that no harm is going to come to the participants and others that might be affected.  It's not about love or sex.  It's about S/m and enjoying the experience.

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I noticed on one of the other catagories that the word "PLAY" often seems to bring up a negative response. More than a few times I saw people stating, we are in a relationship.
Ok..
Well, I have been in and out of relationships and for me at least, getting naked, tortured, strung up, beaten, bitten, tossed around, roughly fucked, forced, pinched, or having my mouth shoved down on a cock regardless of my need to breathe, that has been what I consider play.
Why? Because it was not washing dishes, laundry, or serving dinner. It was something that was apart from the day to day stuff that keeps a household running smoothly. Being called into the headspace of becoming a human toy is play for me. I also call it play when I am doing this with men with whom I am not in a committed relationship with, even though there is no sexual penetration in casual activity. In a relationship it may be more intense (it is), more meaningful (it is), but I still think of it as play.
I guess I am still a kid. For young ones play is fun learning. For me play is fun learning.

Is bdsm activity, in or out of a relationship play for you? Why or why not?

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
It's seen as sorta loose and cheap.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I think I just came from that thread.  

Yes, I call it play and I call it that because it's fun.  I tend to call it casual play so people know the difference between just S/m for a scene and something that is a more in-depth relationship or one that includes physical sex.  A scene to Me doesn't have to be about a serious commitment beyond engaging in the activity with someone that you trust and ensuring that no harm is going to come to the participants and others that might be affected.  It's not about love or sex.  It's about S/m and enjoying the experience.

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ORIGINAL: lizi

If we're naked and I'm getting hurt we're going to have sex so it seems weird to me to call it play when what it is here in my relationship is sex. I guess I say we have no 'play' to differentiate what we do from what others seem to do at times which is to have long drawn out sessions with each other that may not be sexual.

As you said Missokyst, it's not laundry, or dishes, or serving dinner...its sex. It seems disingenuous on my part to label it as anything else. Calling it play seems to me to be perhaps BDSM interaction for the sake of BDSM - the BDSM is the intent. We don't do that. We do BDSM with the intent of having sex. It's not like I'm disdaining the word play, its more like I"m calling a spade a spade, which seems important in a world where so many have different activities and intents to their interactions with each other. I hope that makes sense, it did in my head...

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ORIGINAL: RexDarcy
but the set of resposibilities along with the sadistic activities I enjoy moves those activities out of the realm of play in My mind.

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ORIGINAL: Focus50
it's the one one most people know and there's a lack of something better or more accurate.

As I ponder why this is in "Off Topic"....

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