talibahh
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin On the other thread LA gave you some pretty great advice about pulling back from all intimate or sexual contact for a few months while you get your head straight. Seems pretty sound to me. Thanks Erin, appreciate that. The truth is, she's already likely sleeping with them both. The truth is, it doesn't matter who she sleeps with or how many people- she's avoiding just being an independent person. The truth is, it will be a miracle if she doesn't either fall back in with this other guy (only to have it re-destruct because nothing's changed from the reasons they ORIGINALLY ended the relationship) or for her to rush into the heady wonderful sub fuzzies without really establishing a solid foundation with someone else completely (again). Instead of doing the one thing that will save her a lot of heartache in the long term and be a major step towards becoming a truly mature adult- taking a few months hiatus to calm down and prioritize, explore without becoming committed, and taking the time to really form a solid foundation with someone based on mutual respect and not mutual need to just be with SOMEONE. LA... you give great advice respectfully, tali
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"It is a mistake to try to look too far ahead. The chain of destiny can only be grasped one link at a time" ~ Sir Winston Churchill in giving You my freedom, i gain the freedom to be me ... ~ tali ~
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