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explain collaring - 10/8/2011 8:57:30 PM

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I am new to CM can someone explain the importance of a collar between a sub and her dom?

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RE: explain collaring - 10/8/2011 9:04:04 PM

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you're going to hear a hundred different answers.

For us it simply meant I am his property. I belong to him.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/8/2011 9:08:30 PM

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It's symbolism much like a wedding ring or a prized necklace. Some people use it to express their devotion to another. Then there are those like me that simply think a collar around a woman's neck looks very fitting.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/8/2011 9:15:27 PM

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Here ya go. As is often said in these forums - Google can be your friend. :D

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Collar_%28BDSM%29

Now if you're looking for personal meanings, that's a different story. But that story is not the one you asked for.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/8/2011 9:21:39 PM

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Well for me there's the collar in play, and the collar in a collaring ceremony.

In play it emphasises my subservience, the gentle pressure around the neck like a hug leaving comfort in that you are no longer in charge of yourself - of course I allowed the collar to be put on so it's fantasy, but a lot of fun.

Then there's a collaring ceremony, which is like a commitment ceremony, a sign of devotion between the two involved. I've only ever been to the one, but it was beautiful. The Domme got down on one knee and asked the sub to be hers forever, offering a custom metal collar.

And from there it's down to the two involved, whether it's a 24/7 D/s, occasional play or whatever.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/8/2011 9:43:34 PM

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Its meaning is likely to be slightly different for everyone, so you will probably hear many different answers. I'll give you mine. My collar is a symbol of our relationship and commitment to each other (much like a wedding ring.) The collar dictates that I am his property, pet, and slave. It is a symbolic contract between us; something that has a lot of significance to both me and my Master.

It also has practical application, although I won't get into that.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/9/2011 12:11:21 AM

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the importance of a collar? in reality, sweet fuck all. in the minds of the people involved, whatever the fuck they want it to be. it means nothing really, its just a fucking symbol that some people use to mean all sorts of shit.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/9/2011 12:22:59 AM

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it means whatever the people in the relationship decide it means.
from my own point of view, the collar meant that i was his. he made it for me for valentine's day as kind of a way to solidify things between us.

for some people, it's like an engagement ring.
for some people, it's just like a collar you put on a pet.
for some people, it has no significance and is just worn as a restraint during play.

some people care more about "mental collaring" -- even before i had a physical collar, i felt like i was his. the collar was mental before it ever became physical. and that physical collar wasn't even meant to be worn day-to-day. what i wore every day was a handcuff that blended in with all my other bracelets. =p

some collars are nylon web collars from Petsmart, some collars are toe rings, some collars are jingly ankle bracelets, some collars come from Vad Farkas. =p
a collar can be and can mean anything people want it to be/mean.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/9/2011 1:46:11 AM

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For some people a collar means sweet fuck all, for others it has genuine, real, and deep significance, while for others it's simply a convenient label, and for others it's used to mark a change in the dynamic.

So at one end of the spectrum it really is analogous to a wedding ring, while at the other end it's a symbol that carries no meaning (although, it the word "symbol" is used then by definition it has to mean something).

Personally, in the context of my relationships, it has relatively little meaning. But that doesn't mean that I respect people for whom it has importance any less. I've only ever been to one collaring ceremony, and it was a beautiful, profound thing to be a part of.

So the key is to decide what it means to you and your partner.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/9/2011 4:11:50 AM

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They make fashionable accessories when in your fet gear? *Shrugs* Some people treat them as outward markers or physical symbolisms of their relationship. Sort of like a gold star for being a good sub! or even as serious as a wedding band.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/9/2011 2:32:26 PM

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It's symbolism much like a wedding ring or a prized necklace. Some people use it to express their devotion to another. Then there are those like me that simply think a collar around a woman's neck looks very fitting.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/9/2011 2:46:17 PM

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You might also do a search for the word collar, or collaring as you'll find several other lengthy threads on the subject.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/9/2011 3:27:17 PM

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To me a collor is a link like a ring but means much more that i leave my life in the hands of another

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RE: explain collaring - 10/9/2011 4:34:01 PM

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The collar is symbolic of your lower status. A physical collar can be used during a play session to temporarily reduce you to that desirable level, or it can refer to a long-term situation sort of like a wedding band.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/10/2011 10:48:41 AM

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My collar is an outward symbol to others that i belong totaly to my Master, He has total control of my body.
i wear it at all times except when at work buut that's only because the rules don't allow it.
i felt complete when Master placed the steel collar around my neck and locked it an i am so proud to wear it.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/10/2011 10:49:59 AM

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An oversized ring.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/10/2011 3:07:55 PM

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I view it as a solid commitment on both parts that are legally non binding.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/10/2011 5:53:35 PM

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Collar : The rope, chain, or leather strap you hang a submissive by.

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RE: explain collaring - 10/10/2011 6:36:06 PM

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I kind of like the explanation here :)

http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/sub_collars.php3

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RE: explain collaring - 10/12/2011 5:38:48 AM

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It's a handy place to attach a leash.

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