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dlbilly -> Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 7:55:50 PM)

If you don't like diapers, tell me why. If you do, tell me too.

As I look at female subs on collarme, I notice that nearly all list diapers as a hard limit. Even for subs who list humiliation as a 'Lives For' item. I find this confusing. As a Dom who particularly enjoys humiliation, I can think of little that is more humiliating than being put in diapers like a little girl who's been having 'accidents'. Taken out in public in a short skirt with a thick diaper barely covered, never knowing if someone might have noticed. Being constantly checked to see if she's 'wet', Being changed in the back seat of the car, etc.

Is it sometimes confusing diaper humiliation with infantilism? The fear that you may be expected to sit in a playpen and play with blocks all day.

I'd like to hear from those who are in relationships where there is diaper play and how the sub feels about it. Anything you want to share.

Any female subs reading this who are interested in diapers and would like to chat one on one with a Dom about it, I'm here too.

Master Bill



smartsub10 -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 8:00:54 PM)

In a word:  Yuck

But, to each his own.



dlbilly -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 8:04:09 PM)

Thanks for the reply but could you be more specific? What feels like yuck?



JanahX -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 8:08:42 PM)

There is also the problem of women getting UTI's from not wiping (from front to back) immediately after peeing.
Going to a physician and getting anti-biotics every time one sprouts up - not to mention the unpleasantness of the infection itself, can be costly and if not taken care of properly can lead to serious medical problems.




littlewonder -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 8:12:14 PM)

Not my thing. They feel gross but being a slave, if it's what Master ever wanted then that's what I'd do. Thankfully he's never brought up the idea and I can't really ever imagine him wanting to. I wouldn't find anything humiliating about them...I'd just think they'd feel gross.




lizi -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 8:20:22 PM)

Women in general tend to be more fastidious than men, we like to be clean, and we like to smell good. Girls are generally easier to potty train for that reason. Plus most adult women of a certain age have raised children and we're acquainted with diapers and bodily excretions all too well. It's not something we like to revisit after having had to deal with it endlessly while taking care of our kids. When you have been literally up to your ears in poop and pee it's never going to be hot or sexy.

I sincerely hope this isn't a wank thread and you aren't looking for titillation because you'll be sorely disappointed by the upcoming negative female response. I have never really seen a female on the boards say they're interested in this. Carry on though and do what you like, it's no skin off my nose. I will however never be voluntarily interested in this type of thing- it is indeed a hard limit and if anyone I was with asked for it they'd find themselves without a partner.



HannahLynHeather -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 8:24:00 PM)

quote:

I can think of little that is more humiliating than being put in diapers like a little girl who's been having 'accidents'.

myself, what i would find humiliating is that my dominant was into having me in fucking diapers.



peppermint -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 8:25:53 PM)

I don't do diapers. I don't enjoy or like humiliation. I am an adult and I do adult activities. I am not a baby or child and refuse to be treated as such. If the man I am with is not into adult activities, then we are not compatible.



Hisprettybaby -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 8:27:32 PM)

Hi dlbilly,

First, hello and welcome to the Message Boards. You live in the same city I do. If you are on Fetlife, the WHACK!!! group lists when the munches are in our area, if you're at all interested.

Secondly, UGH!! Yes, diapers are SO MUCH a Hard Limit of mine. Reasons: I am a Daddy's girl, but my "little" age is between 5 and 8 years old, well past the diaper stage.....I am not about to wet or dirty myself when I, in reality, have control over my bodily functions. Sitting in a wet or shitty diaper is....gross! Also, like JanahX said, the not wiping from front to back immediately after peeing possibly causing UTI's is not something I'm into.....to say nothing of, what if I'm not allowed to use the bathroom facilities and the diaper gets poo pooed in? That would really be a hygiene problem that could contribute to UTI's and vaginal infections. E. Coli in either the urethra or in the vagina can cause infections. ABDL squicks me out SOOOOOO much!!!

~Hisprettybaby~



RaspberryLemon -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 9:15:22 PM)

First of all I don't enjoy or take part in any humiliation. It's not my (nor my Master's) cup of tea, and to top it off it would be incredibly emotionally damaging to me.

On the topic of diapers specifically: Simply put, it's disgusting. In my opinion it has strong relations to both pedophilic AND excretory fetishes, neither of which are tolerable to me. I'd honestly be rather upset if having me in diapers was something that my Master was turned on by. If it came down to it I'd wear them for him if he ordered me to, but if he expected me to soil them I would have to refuse (as others have mentioned, that can cause medical problems for females.) Thankfully he wouldn't be caught dead participating in anything related to diaper fetishism. He enjoys me both clean AND acting/looking my age.



Hisprettybaby -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 9:21:18 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: RaspberryLemon
On the topic of diapers specifically: Simply put, it's disgusting. In my opinion it has strong relations to both pedophilic AND excretory fetishes, neither of which are tolerable to me.

Add these to the reasons I Hard Limit ABDL. [8|]



DarkSteven -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 9:22:23 PM)

I have raised two children through the diaper stage.  It strikes me as just hard, nasty, but necessary work.  I cannot imagine it being a fetish.

Lemme ask you something.  Did you ever change your own children's diapers?  I've heard a suggestion that the only ones into diaper play are those who never changed them as a parent.



Hisprettybaby -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 9:26:35 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
Lemme ask you something.  Did you ever change your own children's diapers?  I've heard a suggestion that the only ones into diaper play are those who never changed them as a parent.

I can believe that! The very thought of ABDL brings up the notion in my mind of those stinky diaper pails and all those diapers I had to wash incessantly many years ago. Thank God/dess my kids are grown!!!! Diapers are SO NOT sexy!!! And diapers were so fricking much work!

~Hisprettybaby~



devilsmuse -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 9:52:20 PM)

I can understand from your point of view how you would see this as humiliation, but honestly from my point of view it starts crossing the line from humiliating to taking away my ability to take care of myself. I could see MAYBE having this forced upon me as a punishment for ONE night (again BIG maybe as this does absolutely nothing for me, and honestly grosses me out). But the idea of wearing them on a regular basis, its doesn't stop at just the humiliation factor. Its the idea of constantly being dirty, unable to take care of my own basic bodily functions and hygiene there is a HUGE difference between being submissive and being helpless. I personally would start to feel more helpless than submissive and that is NOT anything like what I am looking for.

That is my personal reasons why I don't care for diapers. Good luck finding someone who does, I'm sure she is out there somewhere but it may take some time to find her.



Hisprettybaby -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 10:03:21 PM)

Fetlife actually has some groups geared specifically toward ABDL, maybe that would be a place for you to look for a gal into diapers..... I just used Fet's search function and put in ABDL and came up with 62, count 'em sixty two!, groups dedicated to ABDL.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 10:12:57 PM)


I don't have kids, but I have changed diapers many times, and I still like to wear and wet them. I would have no trouble playing care taker and letting them wet their diapers. Though I wont poop them or change poopy adults cause poop is nasty.
quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven



Lemme ask you something.  Did you ever change your own children's diapers?  I've heard a suggestion that the only ones into diaper play are those who never changed them as a parent.




BurntKitty -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 10:27:43 PM)

I'm not into diaper play or age play. I'm also not interested in humiliation or degradation.

Most have covered the medical/sanitary reasons already, as well as changing my son's diapers some 22 yrs ago. Thankfully I'm over that now. One other negative aspect no one mentioned, was caring for an elderly relative. I was my dad's caregiver when his health failed. Changing an adult's diaper when he is bedridden is no easy task. When that person is your father in declining health, it makes it all the more sadder.

No, OP, diapers are not something I'll use in play. Ever. I'm quite happy the sadist I'm in a relationship with has the same values and kinks that I do.



myotherself -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 10:55:52 PM)

I used to work in a retirement home when I was in my teens. There's nothing sadder than an elderly person who can't control their bladder or bowels, and is aware of it.

It could never be a fetish for me because it takes me to a negative place I'd really rather not go.



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/10/2011 11:38:44 PM)

I do like them. Not for poop though- only for pee.

If they fit nicely into the kink factors that drive each person involved, and are used conscientiously:

.... Humiliation factor times ten! :o)

(If you or your partner don't enjoy humiliation, see my list below of other motivations.)

To reiterate, as mentioned by others here: proper, careful hygiene is essential for good health.

Hell yeah- I'll stick my neck out. They're a yummy tool, when used judiciously. Control, ownership/servitude, surrender, obedience, objectification and humiliation are my major kinks, and adult disposable underwear ("diapers") address them all quite nicely.

YUM.

[:)]



risktaker9 -> RE: Question for female subs on Diapers Humiliation (10/11/2011 5:32:41 AM)

It'll never be an area that I find pleasureable, therefore I won't be having anything to do with it. Specifically I find it disgusting and unnecessary. I don't think women are confusing diapers with infantilism as you proposed, I think they're turned off by something they view as gross, and no longer being able to act like an adult- this is also what's been said by several so far.

I'd also buy DS's theory that perhaps you didn't need to do this with any progeny, if you've had any. Once you need to do it for anyone else, it stops being cute. Since you state in your profile that you are married, how does your wife feel about it, have you asked her?



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