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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
you girls are just so darn smart, I hope the guys in your life recognise that

Probably a topic for a different thread.

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ORIGINAL: caitlyn

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
you girls are just so darn smart, I hope the guys in your life recognise that

Thanks for the kind comment ... but of course most guys really don't want a smart girl.
 
Probably a topic for a different thread.

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ORIGINAL: ScooterTrash

Nina,
It's the nature of a public forum board that on occasion, something will strike you wrong. For the most part, I think most folks just state their opinions and go on, but some do tend to come out as the resident experts and either directly or inadvertently, proclaim that their way is the only way...those tend to get me fired up. And of course there are those who will simply take a stance on the opposite side of the field, just because they can. There really are some people on the boards who simply like to debate and it's entertaining to them, so they will always throw fuel to the fire. I don't see it as bring too sensitive if some posts upset you, or even tick you off to a point...it is sometimes a good thing to have someone test your values and make you do a double take on your thought process, just to make you validate it in your own mind (even if you don't type what you are thinking). I have to admit I have had some rather heated discussions on these boards as well as some others, but I don't really hold anything personally against the poster actually, I just have to plan my next post with care and try to be convincing in an attempt to make them rethink their position. If you are passionate about the way you feel, it's easy, if you aren't so sure...hmmm, then maybe they have a point. They in turn have to make accurate counterpoints...we all learn something from the exchange. Does it always end in agreement? Rarely actually, but it does exercise the mind and even though you may have to get a tad "hard" in your statement of your points, I think everyone walks away gaining something just from the discussion. Perhaps don't let it get to you on a personal basis so much, but surely don't restrain yourself so far as to not have any mental reaction to it at all either. I look at the mind the same as any other muscle, the more you use it, the stronger it will be when you really need it.

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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

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I find it mildly piques my interest when I see a skinny person speak up when thinness is devalued. It kind of makes me want to say "Aha. Now you know how fat people feel almost every moment of every day when their weight is devalued routinely on television, magazines, playgrounds, nightclubs, and by society in general." 30 million fat jokes are ok, but 1 thin joke sends the skinny lassies running away in tears or vehemently defending themselves. It sucks to be in the person’s shoes who is being devalued based on physical attributes, but most people don’t notice any sort of "problem" with it until they are the one in those shoes.

 
I love this. I couldnt agree more. It amazes me for the same reason.

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ORIGINAL: MsIncognito

As a fat person I don't have a problem with the word fat. To me it's more about HOW the person says it than WHAT they say. The word "rubenesque" can be said with just as much hatred and derision as the word fat if that's what one intends. The only term that makes me bristle is BBW because in my experience the majority of overweight women who use this as a term of empowerment really don't feel all that good about themselves and seem to use it as a way to prop themselves up (just in my experience, I'm sure there are some out there who really do like themselves the way they are and aren't just trying to convince themselves of it). I have excess adipose tissue. That makes me fat. As a general rule I don't find that descriptor any more  offensive than any other.

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I don't like to use the word "fat." I don't know why, maybe it's like Proprietrix said, maybe it is an issue I have with myself. I am comfortable being underweight, but having to raise a child who was considered highly overweight genetically, and watching him struggle as an adolescent, and with all the bullying that he got, and all he really just tried so hard to fit in with the cool "thin" kids. It just really bothers me that someone could be labled as anything with such negativity behind it.

I agree the remarks were rude, but yes I also thought it even harder to read "my master hates fat ppl" posts. I'm just too sensitive for these kind of things.

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ORIGINAL: tasha_tart

I can sympathize with your feelings on this.  I too get the same reaction fairly regularly to posts I see here, kind of a "WTF is wrong with his/her head?"
 
Sometimes I will reply to it, but more often I either type out a reply and delete before posting, or wait till the urge to reply goes away.
 
I usually ask myself a few questions:

• will my post add anything to the discussion?  "I think you're an idiot!" is rarely a productive effort.
  
• is there any upside to this reply?  Sometimes one looks just as bad as the original post by gracing it with a reply.
  
• am I being too sensitive?  Just because I've had a button pushed, doesn't mean I have to vent that for the whole world to see.
  
• am I really trying to further debate? 

If I can't satisfy myself that my reply is worth the effort, and my burning desire to flame the offender into oblivion wanes as I type my rebuttal, I usually hit "Cancel."
 
If I haven't felt immediately moved to reply, I may think on it for a while.  Usually the feeling passes.
 
Tasha

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ORIGINAL: NINASHARP

Very well said, thanks Scooter for your response.  I have found that I'm learning alot by those who are doing exactly what you state here. You are one of them. Think I'll have to start utilizing that admirer list on CM and put myself on yours.
Nina