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PeonForHer -> RE: Yet ANOTHER Pro Domme post (10/12/2011 4:45:45 PM)
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OP: Any sub at all somehow has to square a) the feeling of being controlled with b) the fact that he or she has the power to give that control to someone else, or not. It's a paradox, and one which can be quite difficult to resolve. Me, I'm at the opposite end of the spectrum from your 'troublesome client' (shall we call him). A pro-Domme session couldn't work for me partly because I could never get past the idea that I'd paid the pro-Domme in question *for services* - which makes her, albeit temporarily, a 'servant' to me.
However, following from that, I could (just about) imagine a client who's resolved that paradox in quite a different way. Instead of relinquishing control, he gets off on controlling the ways in which he's being controlled. He simply does enjoy both, illogical though that may seem.
Or perhaps not. Another possibility is that he's very, very reserved about relinquishing control and is too scared to do anything but 'script every word of the play'. But I'd suggest: ask him - get him to talk. I, for one, would be fascinated to learn how D/s works in his head. I'd also love to know how he'd respond to a comment like "You know, if you let yourself go, and let me take more power over you, you might enjoy these sessions more than you can imagine". If he refuses to talk - then I think you're likely to have the 'too scared to submit' type - and the prospects don't look good.
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