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first time - 10/12/2011 6:46:39 AM

interested2008

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would like to ask the mistresses about when they have a first time sbu, a virgin in both bdsm, and life?

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RE: first time - 10/12/2011 7:23:52 AM

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whats the question?

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RE: first time - 10/12/2011 9:58:52 AM

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first time with a complete fucking newb? well as a general rule, you don't break out the fucking scalpels and single tail or the blowtorch. but other than that you just have fun fucking with her and try not to scare the living fuck out of her or mark her up too bad.

it's not a bad idea to have discussed a bunch of the shit you are planning with her and let her ask whatever the fuck she wants, to put her a little at ease. you want the first time to be a major fucking rush, you want to leave her wanting more so don't fucking over do it.

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RE: first time - 10/12/2011 10:00:40 AM

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I dunno, I like to go the blowtorch and pipewrench route all the way, first time.

You wanna make sure your equipment can take it, before you go on a long journey with it.

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RE: first time - 10/12/2011 1:57:49 PM

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I don't do virgins, I've never met a virgin in my age group anyway. However at a younger age what would I have done if stumbling across one?

Well usually you learn to walk before you run, so I'm pretty sure I'd make sure the persone xperiences normal sex before throwing them into kinky sex, hell if they've never even had sex before they probably haven't got a sweet clue what they like yet.

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RE: first time - 10/12/2011 2:03:21 PM

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Here lies the body of Mary Lee
Lived to the age of 103.
For 16 years she kept her virginity.
Not a bad record, for this Vicinity.

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RE: first time - 10/12/2011 2:05:02 PM

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OAmUwy3ex9k&ob=av2n

or more like this?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hOFrGbuUqnQ

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RE: first time - 10/27/2011 1:29:07 AM

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Okay, to be serious..

A first timer with BDSM wouldn't be a problem, so long as they'd done their reading up and could hit all the 'SSC' specifications, and really knew that this was what they wanted.

A virgin is a bit different, because I'd feel like I was robbing them of something. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I still think that - if at all possible - a person's first time should be special.
(Not that mine was but whatever).

I do understand the 'I need to get it over with' mentality. Had that myself many years ago -and it lead to bitter disappointment (and yes, relief - but not of the sexual kind). So reconsider, if that's what your goal is. Getting it over with doesn't mean it'll be good, or that you'll be equipped to know what to do next time.

And I can understand how it would be easier to fight the fear if you could just be submissive, and have someone take over everything for you, and all you had to do was show up. But that's not what this is about. Many times BDSM will involve play, but not sex. And it wouldn't be up to you which it was, it'd be up to your Domme/Dom. Would you be prepared for that?

Honestly, if you are older, interested, and a virgin.. you should either consider looking into a pro, or accept that you're going to have to go through the same painful process of fumbling and rejection everyone else on the planet has had to go through. You can do it, we're all wired for it - it just takes courage.

Good luck.

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RE: first time - 10/27/2011 1:38:10 AM

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quote:

would like to ask the mistresses about when they have a first time sbu, a virgin in both bdsm, and life?

I still remember my first fondly. I loved the way the sun picked up the stripes on his shoulders and the sensual curve of his horns...

Oh sorry, I thought you said gnu, never mind.

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RE: first time - 10/27/2011 4:24:24 AM

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I've introduced several newbies to kink. I will spank them lightly, maybe put on nipple clamps briefly. My goal is to go relatively slow and make sure they don't freak out. As such, I'll communicate more than usual, and try to crack jokes to relieve the nerves.

As far as you being a virgin: if I was with a 36 year old woman who was a virgin, I'd make damn sure I knew why before proceeding.

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RE: first time - 10/27/2011 11:16:54 AM

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I'm still with GreedyTop in not understanding the question. OP, what are you asking?

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RE: first time - 10/27/2011 1:45:45 PM

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quote:

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would like to ask the mistresses about when they have a first time sbu, a virgin in both bdsm, and life?

I've never been with a virgin in either regard. In fact, for every partner I've had in my life I would have to say I've been closer to that definition than they. Regardless of age.

In retrospect.....apparently I have a thing for sluts!

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RE: first time - 10/28/2011 4:40:18 PM

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quote:

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would like to ask the mistresses about when they have a first time sbu, a virgin in both bdsm, and life?

English is a spectacular start.

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RE: first time - 11/3/2011 8:03:12 AM

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yea...creepy...

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RE: first time - 11/3/2011 8:07:58 AM

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The profile is even creepier.

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RE: first time - 11/4/2011 8:48:56 PM

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