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Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 9:09:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		I met my Master in a RP enviroment and was a bit confused about BDSM and my Vanilla life. After chatting I finally found my Master/Sir. It was a great way to test my limits and for Sir to get to know me.
So now to the delema and what happened.
I made my Profile here on Collarme and as you can imagin being new was hit on hard. When I replied to a Masters question, He wanted me as his slave, and wanted me then and now!! Yes there are times when I do need to be spoken to in a manner of being taught. But this Sir was a bit harsh and Sared me into almost doing as he said.  :(
I told my Sir what  happened and thankfuly wasn't mad at me. I cried for days but was told it wasn't my fault. As a sub, and being spoken to harshly I guess I crumbled. I would also like to state i'm not a "SLAVE". And if I was Sir would most likely not be interested in me.
Matters were taken out of my hands by a Misstress to help protect my Masters Property. But this particular Master in question as said in no uncertain terms he will find and make me his.
Isn't this wrong? Yes I am new or should I say finally out of my Vanilla mind and where I was ment to be. Why is this Master so hell bent on taking someone elses Property? And intimidating me into Submission for his own personal uses.
Please explain what would make him intimidate me in such a way as to make me cave to his type of slavery and not go by the code of Dom's. My master finds this funny that I was so scared and almost stolen but has entrusted my safety till he gets home to me, in a misstress that I trust as well as one he does trust too.
Someplace in here is the question I seek an answer for. Please help me to understand.
Would also like to say I have 2 pitbulls to protect me and hes nuts if he thinks he can get past them. (yes i do mean DOGS) Hell if they bit my husband just think what they would do to this Sir, if I was "SCARED"
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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 9:16:39 AM   
darq


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and your point?

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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 9:17:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		Report the stalker to the site, if they don't do anything, report him to the cyber-division of your local police department or FBI since the threats can be considered cyber-terrorism and threats. I have received emails like that before {more than a few few so I speak from expereince}, I write down the handle, date,time of the email or chat request. DO NOT open ANY emails form this stalker, it will only make things worse. Leave them unopened and let them expire in your email box, it takes 2 months, but at that point he should get the hint. You can also change your profile and make it VERY blunt that you are NOT LOOKING.
Also, run a search for 'stalkers' in the forums, their is a few threads going on right now as well that may help.

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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 9:18:35 AM   
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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 9:44:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		thank you thank you. And yes this is all what my Master said, so I have done this. He lives not far from me and thats what scares me the most. Sir says I have a wonderful mind and we are partners out in the open. So we enjoy our time with one another. But why do some think its ok to bully, to get what they want? Even if they know your not there for the taken?
My Master also instucked me at the time to give his name to the other person so he can have a word with him. But still nothing. And thats fine with me as long as i'm safe. Misstress is coming to check on me and to make sure I am safe. I do feel safe but I am also holding up in my house. (locked all the doors and Dogs are at my side) *sighs*

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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 9:44:55 AM   
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uhhhhhhhh... nevermind.  (...bites tongue hard!)

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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 9:53:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Released

thank you thank you. And yes this is all what my Master said, so I have done this. He lives not far from me and thats what scares me the most. Sir says I have a wonderful mind and we are partners out in the open. So we enjoy our time with one another. But why do some think its ok to bully, to get what they want? Even if they know your not there for the taken?
My Master also instucked me at the time to give his name to the other person so he can have a word with him. But still nothing. And thats fine with me as long as i'm safe. Misstress is coming to check on me and to make sure I am safe. I do feel safe but I am also holding up in my house. (locked all the doors and Dogs are at my side) *sighs*


Let me see if I have this straight.  You had a working BDSM relationship in the real world but you went into a chat room, and because you are feeling bullied by someone who, to you, is just letters on a screen, chose to submit to someone you didn't know to the extent that you've given him your real name and address?

[sad shake of head] Contact the Darwin Award's committee and get one of their applications.

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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 9:56:33 AM   
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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 10:13:18 AM   
Najakcharmer


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Status: offline 		Um....so if I typed, "U WILL SUBMITE 2 ME RITE NOW SLAVE, GET ON UR KNEES & SEND ME ALL UR MONEYS" it would make you feel like you actually had to do it, instead of laughing at the silliness of some weirdo on the Internet trying to get you to do things you know are stupid? 

Ouch.  You do realize that there are some Very Bad People out there on the Internet.  Some of them will actually kill you.
http://www.mayhem.net/Crime/robinson.html

Not cool.  Very very not cool.  Please take steps to protect yourself, emotionally and psychologically as well as physically.

BDSM and D/s can be safe and healthy activities - but it takes more skills, more safety awareness, deeper self-knowledge, more emotional strength and stability in order to stay safe and healthy.  If your heart is already wounded, if you have fundamental and serious issues of emotional health, it may be wiser to focus on your own healing before jumping out into this arena.  I compare it to someone with torn knee ligaments and a bad head cold wanting to enter a marathon bike race.  If you are not fit and strong, it is probably better to focus on yourself and your own healing and to become fitter and stronger and healthier before engaging in advanced, strenuous activities.  BDSM is definitely an advanced activity, and it does require a base level of health, strength and emotional stability to do safely.



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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 10:14:22 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

Let me tell you a secret, if I rip through your chest cage and pull your heart out and eat it online, you will probably survive.


Mmm, cannibal snuff scenes.  Very sexy. 

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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 10:22:56 AM   
kittensmailbox


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Status: offline 		Is this letter about some on line bully????

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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 10:32:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sorry to say NO Sir you have it wrong. Was not in  a chat room, and no never gave an address. that would be nuts. I am new to the world and as my name states "RELEASED" (from the chains of a Vanilla world) But sometimes some ppl do have ways of finding you no matter what you do to protect yourself. And from the way he talked, he knew just how to do this. I tried to tell him that this was going to fast, but he wouldn't listen to a word I said and that I was to be his slave. To me thats being a bully. And yes I would be stupid to not be scared out of my mind. I sent a copy of the original e-mails to my Master and he agreed this person has steped over the line and was trying to scare me to do what he wanted. To some, they are not words on a paper and not to always be taken lightly. I would be stupid if I did. All I want to understand is "WHY"... Why he wanted to do this to me and make me be something my profile clearly said I wasn't. I have changed my Profile since and have not heard from him in anyway at all with him being blocked from chatting with me. Hope this clears some things up for you all that think I am a mindless twit and shouldn't be scared. If my Master says I should be careful, then I believe him. I trust him to know whats best.

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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 10:34:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		YES!! .

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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 10:39:56 AM   
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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 10:41:15 AM   
champagnewishes


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Status: offline 		I am not sure i know what you need help with understanding by your post.

***The fact that some use intimidation in order to get what they want? 
***The fact that some have no morals and will steal another's property? 
***The fact that some lack the self confidence and self awareness and are seeminly too naive to put the kibosh on someone's ill meaning attempts to gain their attention? 

Before we put ourselves in a position to run with the big dogs, we need to know what we are doing and how to handle.

edited to add....I understand that you may have been in these chat rooms to gain more awareness and understanding.  It may have been best if you had asked your Master first so he could have given you a lesson on how to handle certain situations that are sure to arise by such actions.



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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 11:29:30 AM   
darq


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Released

I met my Master in a RP enviroment and was a bit confused about BDSM and my Vanilla life. After chatting I finally found my Master/Sir. It was a great way to test my limits and for Sir to get to know me.
So now to the delema and what happened.

You met your Master in a RP room so that tells me you are at least somewhat aware that there are bullies online ... There are bullies everywhere.

I made my Profile here on Collarme and as you can imagin being new was hit on hard. When I replied to a Masters question, He wanted me as his slave, and wanted me then and now!! Yes there are times when I do need to be spoken to in a manner of being taught. But this Sir was a bit harsh and Sared me into almost doing as he said.  :(
I told my Sir what  happened and thankfuly wasn't mad at me. I cried for days but was told it wasn't my fault. As a sub, and being spoken to harshly I guess I crumbled. I would also like to state i'm not a "SLAVE". And if I was Sir would most likely not be interested in me.

Wait a minute, how would you know that newbies tend to get hit on hard? Most newbies ask everyone else if its normal to receive so much email. You seem to have expected it ... Are you, possibly, not as new as you claim to be? Hmm ... Just a thought.

Also, does being submissive suddenly mean you loose all ability to control yourself?

Matters were taken out of my hands by a Misstress to help protect my Masters Property. But this particular Master in question as said in no uncertain terms he will find and make me his.

I repeat the question above ... You've chosen to submit to your Master and now suddenly you lack all ability to control yourself and your own destiny regarding your submission to others?

Isn't this wrong? Yes I am new or should I say finally out of my Vanilla mind and where I was ment to be. Why is this Master so hell bent on taking someone elses Property? And intimidating me into Submission for his own personal uses.

Uhm is which part wrong? It seems to me that you're trying to manipulate others into feeling sorry for you, poor delicate thing that you are. You're 42 years old ... You're new to submission but you're not new to living as an adult in the real world.
 
Yes, bullies are bad and nasty but we learn how to deal with them in grade school. Ignore them and they go away ... If they don't go away, take it to higher authorities.
 
Some dominants lack honor. They find it easier to 'steal' someone else's toys rather than get their own. The thing is, you may be property but you still retain the ability to think and make decisions for yourself. YOU DON'T HAVE TO SUBMIT TO HIM. Newsflash ... You don't have to submit to ANYONE if you don't want to.

Please explain what would make him intimidate me in such a way as to make me cave to his type of slavery and not go by the code of Dom's. My master finds this funny that I was so scared and almost stolen but has entrusted my safety till he gets home to me, in a misstress that I trust as well as one he does trust too.

He probably lacks in self esteem, confidence or maybe he's new too and thinks this is the way 'true' Masters do things. Regardless, it is funny that you're so scared and were almost stolen. I mean, for lord's sake ... Was this guy literally standing in front of you with a whip in one hand and a collar in the other? If not, then you're being kind of silly about the whole thing.

Someplace in here is the question I seek an answer for. Please help me to understand.

Would also like to say I have 2 pitbulls to protect me and hes nuts if he thinks he can get past them. (yes i do mean DOGS) Hell if they bit my husband just think what they would do to this Sir, if I was "SCARED"

Well, to be perfectly honest, dogs aren't that hard to disable. I'm sure they're a great comfort to you as mine are to me but if it came down to it and someone was actually trying to harm me (beating on my door, trying to get into my home) I'd call the police and take my dogs and hide with them ...


*sighs* This kind of stuff is just ... I mean really. Its like if you get killed in RP, are you really dead? No ... Its words on a screen. People online have as much power as you give them.
 
edited to make my stuff purple for ease of reading

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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 12:34:40 PM   
JohnWarren


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ORIGINAL: Released

Sorry to say NO Sir you have it wrong. Was not in  a chat room, and no never gave an address. that would be nuts. I am new to the world and as my name states "RELEASED" (from the chains of a Vanilla world) But sometimes some ppl do have ways of finding you no matter what you do to protect yourself. And from the way he talked, he knew just how to do this. I tried to tell him that this was going to fast, but he wouldn't listen to a word I said and that I was to be his slave. To me thats being a bully. And yes I would be stupid to not be scared out of my mind. I sent a copy of the original e-mails to my Master and he agreed this person has steped over the line and was trying to scare me to do what he wanted. To some, they are not words on a paper and not to always be taken lightly. I would be stupid if I did. All I want to understand is "WHY"... Why he wanted to do this to me and make me be something my profile clearly said I wasn't. I have changed my Profile since and have not heard from him in anyway at all with him being blocked from chatting with me. Hope this clears some things up for you all that think I am a mindless twit and shouldn't be scared. If my Master says I should be careful, then I believe him. I trust him to know whats best.


You weren't in a chat room?  Were you at a munch or event?  Have you told the organizers that this happened? 

If it was all online....

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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 12:39:05 PM   
JohnWarren


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quote:

ORIGINAL: darq

*sighs* This kind of stuff is just ... I mean really. Its like if you get killed in RP, are you really dead? No ... Its words on a screen. People online have as much power as you give them.


Frankly, I'd be a lot more nervous being locked up with two pitbulls that seem to be unable to determine friend/foe boundaries.

Still, the bad guy may be a Orc with 151 hitpoints and a spell of location.

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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 12:40:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		well i see this is leading no where. i didn't ask you to feel sorry for me or anything in them lines... i also didn't ask for your judgement on the matter., but i can tell you my Master asked me to come to this sight to learn. What I have learned is that some ppl in this place truely are more stupid then and uncareing then in other places. I was replying to your comments and stoped. I really don't care what you think.. but i must tell you your reading abilities are a bit sluggish. and you must not understand english well.
Also the point of the question is WHY???  Why would someone care so little for other. having said my peice. I think i shall leave this place and delete my profile compleatly and just trust my Master and his teachings. He hasn't been wrong yet and he sure as hell hasn't been wrong now. Maybe my life has been sheltered, or just not in the lines your used too. but i can tell you i am very smart and think for myself. but if someone seems fit to scare me into thinking they can find me i will take actions to protect me and mine. and silly lady my dogs are and will be feared by most. and i know they will rip the hearts out of anyone who dares to harm me or mine. i would do anything to protect my kids. but that means doing things i may not want to, to ensure there safety at times. maybe if you take the time to reread you will see i was not looking for you to feel sorry for me but to just answer one quetion.

Special thanks go out to the ones who can read and understand...:slaverosebeauty, BitaTruble, mnottertail, .. thank you all for your time.

This has been a test of the Emergency broadcast system. Most of you failed..

Dig deeper into your own thoughts..

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RE: Was Scared into almost Submission - 5/24/2006 12:48:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not sure the problem is your respondents having a hard time reading clearly. I think perhaps it may be you having a hard time writing clearly. :)

That said, your last post seems pretty clear: why do people act like jerks online? My answer is that they act like jerks online because they are jerks in real life too. Possibly the guy isn't stalking you, just attempting to intimidate you because that's what he thinks "twoo masters" do. Possibly you said something in your profile that led him to believe you wanted to be told what to do. Perhaps you, like me, had a profile up that said very clearly "not looking for play partners" and he, like many of the people who email me, didn't read the profile. Perhaps this is not that big a deal.

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