Lockit
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I've often had a comment on male chastity that doesn't always go into detail as I do think that stating that the condition or state of a cock (arousal) shouldn't indicate anything but arousal and fun times and isn't a statement on loyalty. Where Roch talks about the sacrifice or giving up for a domina, I can see and agree there is something there. However, the majority of males that seek chastity are not seeking to give anything up for her... but are seeking someone to put them in chastity without any relation or connection with a certain domina. They don't even present as seeking a personal relationship outside of chastity.
My reason for saying this is that the average male seeking chastity will want to talk about how horny he is, how his balls ache, how hard his cock is trying to get and this is what will monopolize the conversation and focus that the two will have. There is no sacrifice or suffering in silence to prove anything. They seek a keyholder before a domina... they don't seek a relationship or person that means so much that they would give something valuable up with. They seek someone to focus on the state or condition of their cock (arousal) to heighten their enjoyment. It isn't about her or a relationship... but about him. This is what is most lacking in the situation.
With my nick I get a lot of men seeking chastity. My nick means a couple of things.. not locking 'it'. Yet, I can see how it is perceived as locking 'it'. Men seeking a keyholder or chastity are always drawn to my nick... not to me... not to what I would want... but to what they want. All well and fine until they take me out of the equation and simply expect that for one interest and one only, I might do. They are ready to lock it within an email or so.. not because I am so awesome that they would love to be locked for me... but locked for whatever they get out of being locked up and that has nothing to do with me... submission, giving up or giving in or sacrificing anything.
Rarely have I run into someone that actually wants to have more than this and chastity being used as a result of what has evolved from two interacting and actually caring about one another.
Most often men are pointing out how much loyalty this chastity proves and they are trying far too hard to convince a woman of the wonders of it all and talk of how much control the domina will have by using chastity. They are often times not talking about anything other than kinky topics and if submission to them is all its about... fine for them... not fine for me.
Are we domina's so blind that we cannot see the loyalty or wonderful submission in a male willing to give something valuable to him up or the worth or even the fun of it? No, I think not because a number of us state it is fun. We just need the bigger picture and to know that he does this truly for us and shows submission in other areas. That we are not blind to and believe me, we can work that... but really don't have a desire to work it with someone that really doesn't get all chastity can mean outside of a focus on one aspect of it all.
'Pant, pant... my cock is so in need because I want and need that ever elusive cum that I cannot have because I have given it up for you mistress... all for you. See mistress, my cock in bondage for you? I will do anything, I am so horny... I want that cum so bad, I will do anything. See how faithful and loyal I am to you?' This type of communication or manipulation gives those that see the big picture, are submissive in many ways and who care to give it up for a particular woman a bigger challenge if they say they like chastity, because they by sheer numbers alone are included with the numbers of men not seeing the big picture and are a turn off to most dominas. If one of the first things a man brings up is chastity... you can bet that lock... is not about the domina or submission.
I see nothing but a horny man getting off to the denial, the chase and the need for a cum... not the need to please me whether he is aroused or not.
The intensity of a climax by gender is often an outdated view on the value of a woman's orgasm. Men feel more.. men need more than a woman. This is utter bull shit. It was often used to excuse a mans ruthless search for his needs met, all while not considering that a woman has needs and desires too. Men typically in times past thought jumping on and rutting until that cum was good enough and had little consideration for their partners needs and as things evolved and women had a voice, men had to be taught about a womans orgasm because these women weren't having them. It was all about the male, with all his rights to get what he wanted and needed and little attention was given to the woman. How was a woman to like sex or even know what it felt like to orgasm when a man typically jumped on and off at will? Once men valued women more, is when women were able to get what it was all about. I know these are typically of times past, but I'm older and have seen it all evolve. Men, to get it at all, had to put more into it.
I was a curious young lady, horny in all my ways and I asked the women older than me... what it was like for them. Most would rather do dishes. I can't say that is true for my generation and those that have followed. I am thankful for the sixties and seventies and the sexual revolution. lol
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