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submissive here - 10/18/2011 12:03:09 PM

bitchdog4master

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There is a married sub. male who wants to get together with me to explor his Dom side. I just have the impression that b/c he is a sub. to his wife that he does not have a Dom. side.
Would love some input as I am hesitant and feel it will be a disaster. I do not wish to be a teacher to him.
Thank you kindly

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 12:04:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bitchdog4master

I do not wish to be a teacher to him.

you answered your own question

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 12:06:23 PM

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Just because someone is submissive to one person it doesn't mean they aren't dominant to others. There are plenty of switches on here who live happy lives with a dom/master and a sub/slave.

As long as his wife is happy for him to explore his dominant side, why not talk to her and see what she can suggest? I understand that you don't want to do any leading (I'd be uncomfortable with that too), but why not let him use what he's learned from being his wife's sub to be your dom?

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 12:06:57 PM

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Does his wife know?
However, in general, you can explore without teaching. If he's been submissive, then he's aware of what attracts him and what he would like to do. Nobody is born with all the tools of the trade. If he's observant, then you wouldn't have to teach him anything, he would be able to see from your reactions how best to proceed.

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 12:10:34 PM

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personally it wouldn't work for me but some people have no problems seeing switches. If you're ok with it then go for it. I would be wary if his wife doesn't know. If not then you face the consequences. Good luck.

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 12:11:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bitchdog4master

I do not wish to be a teacher to him.

you answered your own question

but let me add this....lol.....it might be better to listen to those who are more experienced than me and could offer better advice...*smiles*

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 12:41:57 PM

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If all women are born submissive... what the fuck did she marry if he isn't a dom?

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 12:48:02 PM

ChatteParfaitt

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My question as well.

If all females are submissive, then aren't all males dom?

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 2:37:00 PM

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Is your husband cool with you seeing another man?

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 5:48:41 PM

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You're married. He's married. What could possibly go wrong?

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 5:48:57 PM

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Only if she gets "gas" money...

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 6:39:43 PM

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Only if she gets "gas" money...

I don't really get why that is in quotes, if it’s really for gas then the quotes don’t belong and if it’s an innuendo... well this is an adult sex dating website, innuendos aren’t needed and seem kind of silly, no?

Ailey

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 6:40:08 PM

ChatteParfaitt

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I just want "gas" money.

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 6:41:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Only if she gets "gas" money...

I don't really get why that is in quotes, if it’s really for gas then the quotes don’t belong and if it’s an innuendo... well this is an adult sex dating website, innuendos aren’t needed and seem kind of silly, no?

Ailey

It's a wink at keeping it legal. (imo)

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 6:42:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

quote:

ORIGINAL: AdorkableAiley

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Only if she gets "gas" money...

I don't really get why that is in quotes, if it’s really for gas then the quotes don’t belong and if it’s an innuendo... well this is an adult sex dating website, innuendos aren’t needed and seem kind of silly, no?

Ailey

It's a wink at keeping it legal. (imo)

Just say you're a pro sub and charge per paddle lick...

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 6:57:05 PM

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Oh no. That'd be too easy. Plus then there couldn't be any sex involved.

ETA: You get a lot more gas money when there's rubbin' nubbins!!

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 8:02:15 PM

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Depends on the FW and the FM. A Free Companion may be submissive to the one she is FC'd to. That doesnt mean she will be submissive to all men. Some FW owned slaves, both male and female. Many held their own property, ran their own businesses... some even were heads of cities.

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 8:15:25 PM

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grins, actually, its very off. But you would have to understand how Goreans view the concept of being equal to understand why. That's why the thinking and assumptions about Goreans are wrong in this case.

angel

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 8:18:22 PM

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grins, actually, its very off. But you would have to understand how Goreans view the concept of being equal to understand why. That's why the thinking and assumptions of Goreans are wrong in this case.

angel

I don't know very much about gor, by my own choice, I admit.

Ailey

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 8:39:22 PM

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cry me a river

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