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towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 6:32:53 AM   
lifetimecuck


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i am a healthy man with a good sex drive but still know that chastity is one of the highest gift a slave can offer his Lady. especially in a cuckolding marriage. as this is what i am longing for i wonder what a realistic approach is towards permanent chastity, as i guess it would not work from one day to another. i have tried to find some information online. but it seems that this information is mostly wishful thinking of some horny fakes and loosers. i would appreciate a serious dialogue. kindest regards
bruno
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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 7:19:54 AM   
kalikshama


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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 7:21:31 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Guess what dude? You are WRONG. You have an awesome fantasy, but really? Don't second guess a dominant woman's desires. Don't come to her with YOUR ideal relationship all lined up and expect her to meet it.

Many men think they want cuck relationships. Few get them, for a variety of reasons. Cucking is a hot idea, but in reality, I consider it to be the most difficult thing to do consistently and long term. (by long term, I mean a period of years)

Stop putting the cart before the horse. Concentrate on finding a woman that you are compatible with. IF SHE WANTS YOUR CHASTITY SHE WILL HAVE IT. Read that sentence again. Keep reading it until you understand that YOU are not the one who is in charge. That you are willing to make sacrifices for your woman is a wonderful quality, and I salute you for that. Express that willingness WITHOUT attaching your directives to it.

Good luck! (mean that sincerely!)

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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 8:31:51 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		It is ideas like this that make me glad I am not dominant. I really don't see a need to share my life with someone who might as well be my gardener.


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but still know that chastity is one of the highest gift a slave can offer his Lady.



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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 8:34:15 AM   
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Surgical removal of the offending member



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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 8:51:37 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 9:04:44 AM   
MistressLilliana


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Status: offline 		Personally and this may be TMI but I love penis and won't deny myself so chastity on my slave (if done) would be short term. For me it is much more satisfying for me to know that my slave has submitted to the point of not pleasuring ones self because I've told them not to than to have a device that prevents it. To have the control of their orgasms is great too. BUT if you find a Woman who wants and allows you to be chastised for long periods or even "permanently" you must make sure you know what your getting yourself into and realize that "permanent" isn't truly permanent unless you remove your penis entirely. There may be many factors as to why you might have to remove the device such as restriction, skin problems that may occur, infection if not cleaned properly, swelling, not to mention the effects it could have on you mentally because it can cause depression. Make sure you know how to clean the device effectively to avoid infection and irritation. Make sure the device is not too tight (there have been people who have had to get the device cut off at the ER due to swelling). Do your research and talk with others who have these devices and make sure (though I'd really hope) that the Woman you end up with is aware of these complications and will put your safety and health first and will remove the device if needed and don't try and hide problems from her if they occur, such as constant pain, irritation, and so on. To ignore a problem can cause further damage and I doubt that you or the Woman would want you permanently damaged.

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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 10:06:24 AM   
BotanicalMiss


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Status: offline 		First of all, you need to remember that fantasy doesn't always match up to the reality of an experience. Your profile says you are "curious" about cuckolding which says to me that you have no experience with it yet. There are plenty of dominant women who are into chastity and/or cuckolding, and many who are not. I would suggest finding a woman who has that fetish so you can explore it before deciding that's how you want to spend the rest of your life, especially if you are interested in using chastity devices, which take time to adapt to both physically and mentally.

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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 10:15:30 AM   
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but still know that chastity is one of the highest gift a slave can offer his Lady.
why the fuck would you think that? why the fuck would i put up with a man around the place if he wasn't going to be ramming his cock up my fuck holes on a regular basis? you think we actually want to talk to you fuckers? fuck no, that's what girlfriends are for. to cuddle? not a fucking chance, that's why cats were invented.

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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 1:14:59 PM   
Hillwilliam


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Status: offline 		I was thinking Godiva chocolates and roses were a nice gift to present to a woman. DAMN, I've been doing it all wrong.

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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 2:08:22 PM   
Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: lifetimecuck
i am a healthy man with a good sex drive but still know that chastity is one of the highest gift a slave can offer his Lady. especially in a cuckolding marriage.


Hi Bruno.  Welcome to CollarMe.

It sounds like you've fantasized about chastity, but haven't actually had the opportunity to try it.  With that in mind, let me share a few thoughts.

Firstly, I have quite a bit of experience with forced chastity.  Many Dommes enjoy placing their subs into forced chastity.  However, I don't know many who are looking for it as a permanent part of their relationship. 

In my experience, the Dommes who placed me into chastity were usually more anxious to remove the chastity device than I was.  Believe it or not, most straight women like having a nice stiff one inside of them from time to time.  So they tended to feel like they were denying themselves by keeping my penis on lockdown.  With that in mind, why would a woman want to deny herself permanently?

Secondly, if you plan to be in a marriage where you are kept in permanent chastity, then why would the woman want you?  I don't know many women who desire a husband that she NEVER has sex with.  If sex is not a part of the relationship, then why would she marry you?

Place yourself in the woman's shoes.  If she kept you in permanent chastity, and fulfilled her sexual needs with some other guy, then why wouldn't she just marry the other guy instead of you? 

It's a nice fantasy, but it has quite a few flaws in reality.  Since sex would not be a pert of your marriage, you would probably have to have some other extraordinary quality that would make it worth her while to have you as her husband.  For example, if you are a millionaire and would provide her with a lifestyle that is beyond her wildest dreams, there are probably some women who would accept that arrangement.  Particularly since you want to be cuckolded.  She could have you as her rich husband, and also have an outside lover.  That would be a win/win situation for both of you.  But if you're not extremely rich, what does she get out of the deal?

Even if she enjoys humiliating her sub, you wouldn't be a viable candidate.  The chastity and cuckolding wouldn't qualify as humiliation, since you're actually requesting it.  So a typical Humiliatrix would reject your offer as well.

See the problems with your fantasy?  I'm not trying to discourage you.  Frankly, I hope you find what you're looking for.  But you need to look at it from the perspective of your potential partner.  When she asks "What's in it for me?", you have to have a good answer.  If you're actually Donald Trump, you should have no problem.  But if you're not ridiculously rich, you may have difficulty finding what you're looking for.

Good luck.

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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 2:45:32 PM   
MistressJezebel9


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressLilliana

Personally and this may be TMI but I love penis and won't deny myself so chastity on my slave (if done) would be short term. For me it is much more satisfying for me to know that my slave has submitted to the point of not pleasuring ones self because I've told them not to than to have a device that prevents it. To have the control of their orgasms is great too. BUT if you find a Woman who wants and allows you to be chastised for long periods or even "permanently" you must make sure you know what your getting yourself into and realize that "permanent" isn't truly permanent unless you remove your penis entirely. There may be many factors as to why you might have to remove the device such as restriction, skin problems that may occur, infection if not cleaned properly, swelling, not to mention the effects it could have on you mentally because it can cause depression. Make sure you know how to clean the device effectively to avoid infection and irritation. Make sure the device is not too tight (there have been people who have had to get the device cut off at the ER due to swelling). Do your research and talk with others who have these devices and make sure (though I'd really hope) that the Woman you end up with is aware of these complications and will put your safety and health first and will remove the device if needed and don't try and hide problems from her if they occur, such as constant pain, irritation, and so on. To ignore a problem can cause further damage and I doubt that you or the Woman would want you permanently damaged.



Very well said. I agree 100 percent.

Also, it is very RARE to find a Mistress who will want you chaste permanently. They are out there but many of the Dommes I personally know use it as punishments for small-semi longish[Made up word :P] amounts of time


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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 2:55:06 PM   
Hisprettybaby


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lifetimecuck

hello,
i am a healthy man with a good sex drive but still know that chastity is one of the highest gift a slave can offer his Lady. especially in a cuckolding marriage. as this is what i am longing for i wonder what a realistic approach is towards permanent chastity, as i guess it would not work from one day to another. i have tried to find some information online. but it seems that this information is mostly wishful thinking of some horny fakes and loosers. i would appreciate a serious dialogue. kindest regards
bruno

I would think that, unless SHE wanted it, lifetime chastity would be an unfortunate waste of time.

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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 5:56:21 PM   
hangemhigh1953


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hello,
i am a healthy man with a good sex drive but still know that chastity is one of the highest gift a slave can offer his Lady.

And what makes you say that? Has every woman you've ever known told you that they want nothing more than for you to never get off?

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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 6:37:16 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I'm thinking from his screenname that his wife probably wants him chaste because she has more than enough sexual partners to satisfy her and she gets off knowing her husband can't and won't be that guy. That would be my guess from what I've ever heard of cuck marriage relationships.



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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 7:35:00 PM   
MasterSlaveLA


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...chastity is one of the highest gift a slave can offer his Lady.



Not true... diamonds and oral sex are.



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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 7:37:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA

quote:

ORIGINAL: lifetimecuck

...chastity is one of the highest gift a slave can offer his Lady.



Not true... diamonds and oral sex are.




Quoted for truth

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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/19/2011 7:50:42 PM   
Lockit


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lifetimecuck

hello,
i am a healthy man with a good sex drive but still know that chastity is one of the highest gift a slave can offer his Lady. especially in a cuckolding marriage. as this is what i am longing for i wonder what a realistic approach is towards permanent chastity, as i guess it would not work from one day to another. i have tried to find some information online. but it seems that this information is mostly wishful thinking of some horny fakes and loosers. i would appreciate a serious dialogue. kindest regards
bruno


Since you have not lived this out and think that the gift you offer is far better than what those wishful thinking-horny-fakes and losers offer in their wishful thinking, I must ask, what makes your desires any different and what makes you so much better? You state in your profile that most that seek chastity are impotent. You are very wrong about this too.

Get off your high-better-than-most-horse until you have lived it and proven you are more than a wishful thinking and speaking man and any different than the others out there.

When a submissive comes across as if he is better than the rest... I tend to disagree, because to bring himself up, he has disrespected many he doesn't know and has no clue how real/realistic they are or how a dominant might think of them.

To the right woman... you may offer a gift, but until you do live it day in and out, I doubt you will know how perfect the gift you give, is.


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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/21/2011 3:14:38 AM   
Arienos


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Status: offline 		Good morning Bruno, just a brief comment to add to the wisdom Locket shared with you.
There are those, male and female that view chastity as a tool just like other tools or toys but one that can be creatively used in a wider variety of mental/emotional applications then say a single tale or flogger.
Your search for permanency is a preference; it has nothing at all to do with a gift, in fact, it’s being a preference makes it exactly the opposite from a gift.
Bruno I have played with varying different chastity devices in what I believe to be well thought out creatively arousing situations that for me enhanced the intimate moments I shared with the woman creating that mind fuck. It is an amazing tool when used by a woman that enjoys using it and if you will take a moment and give it some thought you too will see the operative words are, “ A woman that enjoys using it.”

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RE: towards Permanent Chastity - 10/21/2011 4:39:23 AM   
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i am a healthy man with a good sex drive but still know that chastity is one of the highest gift a slave can offer his Lady.


Hey Bruno,

The highest gift a slave can offer his Lady, is the thing she values most highly. For some this might be your chastity, for others it might be simply your obedience.

If chastity is important to you, you just need to find a Lady who'd place the gift of your chastity in the "highest" category, but if service and obedience are important, you may need to discover what specific thing a potential mistress values most.

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