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Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 3:06:37 PM   
blkswitch


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Status: offline 		So, Monday night I met up with a guy from collarme who is visiting the stl from kansas city, mo, white guy, 48, 6', slender and he thinks he looks like George Clooney.
Well, I'm no George Clooney fan, but I met the guy anyway, tall and rugged looking but not handsome, heavy eye bags, not attractive at all, but not hard to look at. Nice dresser though. His head was kinda long...ODD (never thought a person could have such a long head) ..i think he was meant to be taller.
Any who, this man and I had a long convo on the phone, we decided to meet with the intention of just getting out for the night and maybe fucking. When he saw me and I saw him he was dumb struck and for the life of him, he found it very difficult to look at me. (ODD)
We walked from his hotel in Clayton to a local upscale bar/eatery and proceeded to continue the small chatter and we both divulged a little more about ourselves, careers, etc. Fascinating man. We sat at the bar, side by side, laughing, chit chatting when I decided to ask the bartender if I could sample some of the various liquids.
What an awesome bartender...since he had some time and was happy to do something else besides wait for the next drink order, we sampled various potions/spirits from various regions. We giggled, made faces, drank water, sniffed and drank more water to try and get some of the horrible tasting liquids down.
Then we got up, he paid and we went to the next bar. With some help from the bartender and the hostess, they gave us info about our next stop. The next stop, the one's his STL friends recommended was a BOMB. So, we walked in, walked around and right back out the door and back into his nice, luxury SUV.
We swung out of the lot and on to the next spot to my fave hangout...the Central West End and walked (in the mist) so he could see a few spots. His eyes were dancing and he was smiling and talking more and said that he REALLY LIKED this part of town, reminded him of parts of K.C. and Virginia...it was more HIM.
We went into a cigar bar and had another drink and he opened up a bit more and told me about his wife, 3 children and how he's not really divorced yet but getting a divorce, how hurt he is, how he JUST contacted a lawyer before he and I met ....
When a guy says they are divorced...I hold my breath (if its an online thing)...then he kept talking about he wanted me to suck his dick, how he didn't have an unlimited credit card budget, how he doesn't like to lick pussy....THAT's WHEN I KNEW it wasn't gonna happen!
NO PUSSY LICKING, NO DICK SUCKIN'
He mentioned he doesn't pay for sex (when he mentioned strip clubs) and I told him that TONIGHT he really needed to pay for someone to fuck him (not in those words) but he got the hint and replied....I'm buying the drinks so I am paying for something.
So, I bought him a cigar of his choice!
Back in the vehicle and back to the hotel where he dropped me off.
He talked about European women all night long and how some female he met gave the best head of his life and loved suckin' dick.
WOW...this guy wouldn't stop YET he couldn't look at me for longer than 1 second. WOW
That's a dick wad and the type of jerks I meet.
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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 3:19:30 PM   
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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 3:30:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		It sounds like he got pretty rude. The part that made me wonder most was saying he didn't have an unlimited budget on a date? wtf. It's almost as if he were throwing out the things most likely to piss you off.

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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 3:54:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		funnily enough.. reading this made me think you two might be made for one another.. but perhaps I read too quickly...

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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 4:02:32 PM   
AdorkableAiley


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Status: offline 		Sounds like he got more obnoxious the more he drank but... why was he driving and didn't you guys walk?

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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 4:04:45 PM   
BonesFromAsh


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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

funnily enough.. reading this made me think you two might be made for one another.. but perhaps I read too quickly...


Good call.

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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 4:29:12 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: blkswitch
That's a dick wad and the type of jerks I meet.


I don't see any evidence in this long winded story of yours to conclude he was a jerk.
You said you both decided to meet to just get out for the night and that maybe
there would be some sex.

It sounds like you actually had a very enjoyable evening, except there was no sex.
You didn't find him attractive, and apparently he didn't find you physically appealing
either, since he could hardly look at you, and had no interest in licking you.

I don't understand why the discussion of money for sex ever came up though,
unless of course you intended to get some money from him for your services?
Perhaps that is the reason for your disappointement?

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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 4:32:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sounds like her problem was the (i assume) before unknown wife and kids.Though that would be a night ender right that moment for me.


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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 4:52:10 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I'm confused on why you got in his car in the first place and why you both were drinking. Sounds like the more he drank the more honest he became.

Personally when I was still meeting men, I never ever had one drop of alcohol and never got in their vehicle. Personally the moment he started talking about dick and pussy I would have just said, "thanks for the drinks but I don't think this is gonna work" and I would have up and left...but that's me. It sounds to me like you weren't all that disturbed by him if you got in his vehicle the second time.



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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 5:19:23 PM   
ProlificNeeds


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Status: offline 		Sounds like it was a good night up till the point someone had one too many. I'd also be very disturbed by the fact there was driving involved while drinking.

I don't require a guy to lick me, then again, I also don't suggest there might be sex on the first date. Sort of like telling a kid "Hey maybe we'll go get ice cream!" then trying to tell them you've changed your mind.

I'd say the biggest problem however was the amount of alcohol involved, I mean who divests their divorce specifics on a first date? Talk about bringing your baggage to the showroom.

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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 7:36:43 PM   
Delilya


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Status: offline 		Got you beat. Mine was all about praying. Not that I mind a prayer. However we prayed for a safe drive to the restaurant. We prayed for arriving safe. He took me to KFC where he did the ordering, a chicken meal for him and a chicken biscuit for me. We prayed for our meal. We prayed for a safe trip home. We prayed again for safe arrival. As he walked me to my door he informed me that his prayers had been answered and that God told him we should have sex and we should have a prayer thanks. I prayed him right off the property.

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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 8:01:49 PM   
Kaliko


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ORIGINAL: Delilya

As he walked me to my door he informed me that his prayers had been answered and that God told him we should have sex and we should have a prayer thanks.



LOL - Wow! I have not heard that one before!

God must be very wise.

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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 8:12:58 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		I never meet dick-wads like that. If you did, in this situation, its your own damned fault. At least you didn't meet a married-raping type dick-wad. Count your blessings you didn't have to fight someone off after drinking. You agreed to meet and maybe fuck a bit ahead of time eh? Sounds like he pretty much figured this one was in the bag as long as he was engaging.. he was... for a while.

By describing the man and what he drives... here in KC... it wouldn't be too hard to figure out who you're talking about. I guess you got even eh? Now, do we get to hear his side of the story?




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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 8:26:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Delilya

Got you beat. Mine was all about praying. Not that I mind a prayer. However we prayed for a safe drive to the restaurant. We prayed for arriving safe. He took me to KFC where he did the ordering, a chicken meal for him and a chicken biscuit for me. We prayed for our meal. We prayed for a safe trip home. We prayed again for safe arrival. As he walked me to my door he informed me that his prayers had been answered and that God told him we should have sex and we should have a prayer thanks. I prayed him right off the property.


WOW.  I think this wins.  That may be the worst date ever.  (and I thought I've dated some nutjobs!)
I don't really know what's worse....the assumption that you were going to sleep with him.....the praying..... or the KFC.  All three deal breakers for me.  

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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 8:27:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		No offense, but you sound like you need dating 101. You dont seem to have a clue as to what might be appropriate behaviour and/or expectations on a first date. I surmise you knew little or nothing about this man, and anyone who is "visiting" the area and wants to basically hook up ( and this had all the earmarks of a hookup that did not happen) stands a good chance of being married, unless you dont give a crap about married versus not married. While I am not defending his behavior, I have met men who have poor eye contact, and that often means their social skills suck, as his did, and it sounds like yours did too, hence the comment, as I understand it, that the two of you might be exactly right for one another. You're all over the place, I suggest you focus. excessive drinking on a first "date" with someone you know next to nothing about, is just not very smart.

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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 8:28:37 PM   
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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 9:23:08 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Delilya

As he walked me to my door he informed me that his prayers had been answered and that God told him we should have sex and we should have a prayer thanks. I prayed him right off the property.




Did you say: God told me to tell you this: ?

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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 9:55:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		LOL so him being married wasn't a deal breaker, even though he lied about it, but the fact he didn't want to lick your pussy was?



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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 10:11:37 PM   
Epytropos


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Status: offline 		Ok I may have missed something because I became certain early on that reading this in any detail was going to cause my skull to implode, but didn't she say he was divorced? Divorced is different from married. I would go as far as to say it's the opposite of married, in fact.

Anyway, this story lacks the ring of truth. I suspect you had a far greater hand in the devolution of things than you say, since the conversation doesn't actually make sense as you've relayed it. In short, I suspect this guy dodged a bullet. As a rule, though, meeting someone for sex and then being indignant when they expect sex is more than enough to put you in the 'crazy' category, even if you weren't prone to lying about people you barely know to strangers on the internet..

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RE: Sort of a date? - What not to do - 10/19/2011 10:13:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		I *think* he told her he was divorced but as they proceeded on the date he came out with he's in the process of divorce. (which he probably isn't anyway)
But yeah, it would be interesting to hear both sides for sure.

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