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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/25/2011 10:45:27 PM

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On the other hand, we occasionally have threads about the reasons people have the BDSM orientations that they do, and it seems the consensus is usually, nobody knows for sure.

really? i would have thought it was fucking obvious why?

we're fucking sick bastards, we're all fucked in the head, that's why.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/25/2011 10:46:19 PM

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On the other hand, we occasionally have threads about the reasons people have the BDSM orientations that they do, and it seems the consensus is usually, nobody knows for sure.
really? i would have thought it was fucking obvious why?

we're fucking sick bastards, we're all fucked in the head, that's why.

Well, okay. That was obvious. ETA: But WHY are we sick fucked up bastards?

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/25/2011 10:47:21 PM

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/25/2011 11:03:19 PM

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I must admit some curiosity as to how many of the Twiggy camp men are over checking out the bodacious boobies thread.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 3:11:45 AM

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Nocturnal...that's not my point of concern...my point...any health concern an overweight person brings to the doctor...the doctor automatically puts overweight making it look like that overweight people are the reason for the healthcare problems...I used cancer as an example. I am aware that cancer is 20-30% of overweight individuals, this tells me that the other percentages of cancer isn't overweight people...but I wonder what that is? I could not find one stitch of information or stats on the other reasons.

Emily you are also correct a European study found it was only 4%

If I was overweight, I'd be VERY pissed off if my GP missed that fact. I'd be pissed off if he missed that I'm asthmatic too.

He's meant to be aware of everything that might affect my overall health. That's his job.

Being overweight affects lots of stuff, of course it should be noted. Who cares what it *makes* anything look like.?

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This. It's called taking a patient history and yup it includes - or SHOULD include - the fact that the patient is overweight. It's just another fact girls it's nothing personal.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 4:11:02 AM

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The medical profession sees fat first, and often goes no further. A dear friend died of cancer that was never diagnosed. His doctors saw a fat man, and looked for fat man things. My 400 pound friend has perfect bloodwork. I won't try to tell you that she has no issues due to her wight, but she is not not at risk for diabetes, heart disease, or stroke.

First of all I want to say that I don't know your friend's situation so I won't comment directly on that. What I WILL say is that when a person is severely overweight it is POSSIBLE to miss a tumor simply because of the fat and the small size of the tumor. If that person does not display symptoms that point to cancer such as sudden unexplained weight loss, yes it CAN be missed. In the case of the person showing symptoms of other diseases yes the doctor will look for other causes first, it's the right thing to do. Tragically because of this the diagnosis of cancer can be delayed or even missed. It's sad and tragic but doctors are only human and yes they make mistakes.

I'm not blaming the person for being fat, I'm not blaming ANYONE, I'm simply saying that mistakes do happen and yes the person being overweight can contribute to that.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 4:53:31 AM

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I believe the underlying reason has been brought up, that they are willing to submit to humiliation or subservience because of low self esteem

Ya, I'd like to see some stats for that theory. As I said, *I* like BDSM because it makes my pussy wet. Vanilla sex bores me.

ps - like other women on this thread, when I first discovered BDSM, I was not overweight. Like most Americans, I gained it over time.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 5:30:39 AM

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Hmm, ya know, I weigh 196 pounds, I'm 5ft2, and I have a figure, hourglass type, an 40 DDD boobs. I have no trouble attracting attention.

On the other hand, who haz extra popcorn, I've not watched a good fat thread in awhile.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 5:31:53 AM

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I must admit some curiosity as to how many of the Twiggy camp men are over checking out the bodacious boobies thread.

Lol, me too, my boobies is over there!

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 5:58:52 AM

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I must admit some curiosity as to how many of the Twiggy camp men are over checking out the bodacious boobies thread.

Lol, me too, my boobies is over there!

And what lovely boobies they are. Out of popcorn but have some of my "special" brownies to offer around.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 6:09:28 AM

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ooo, pass some my way!

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 6:24:29 AM

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Wow this thread continues. I have been away sorry for my disappearance I guess. I really don't have time to go back and read 18 pages of replies and respond to those which were directed at me. Not all were. But some. Since my post It has made me think about the audience here of my post. I also don't have time to view each individual profile but would consider all the attacking defensive replies may fit into the body type I described. Is some slender attractive woman going to care what somebody says about heavy set women? Probably not. Doesn't really pertain to her. Maybe some here and there but as a whole no. It's kind of like going down by the Mexico border trying to tell people why they don't need to come to America, walking into police station and trying to convince officers of the law they violate citizens rights all the time even when there is proof all over the country every day. Your not going to win. So I have realized no group of BBWs, overweight, whatever term you prefer isnt going to just agree. I think a lot of things I said were taken out of context. I never said a big woman can't get anyone. I never said a big woman has no chance of being raped. I never said psychological problems. Everything was twisted around to the worst way it could be. Apparently mine wasnt the first post of this nature. I'm sure it won't be the last.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 7:00:41 AM

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Is some slender attractive woman going to care what somebody says about heavy set women? Probably not. Doesn't really pertain to her. Maybe some here and there but as a whole no.

sure I care... it gives me info about the person that I need to know to assess whether or not theyre a douchebag.

You sir are a douchebag.
Congrats!!

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 7:06:18 AM

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again, absolutely no consideration that you might just be INCORRECT.

nooooo it's totally a bunch of emotional defensive females. *eye roll*
you really are a piece of work.
do you think all midgets work in the circus, and all black people are gangbangers? you throw out masses of stereotypes, disguised as a desire to "discuss" but what you really want is validation of your incorrect assertions, and anyone who disagrees with you isn't doing it because !(omigosh you might be wrong)! but because they're just so defensive. =p

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 7:08:55 AM

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So I have realized no group of BBWs, overweight, whatever term you prefer isnt going to just agree.

If you had bothered to read the replies you would have seen slim women disagreeing with you as well.

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I never said a big woman has no chance of being raped. I never said psychological problems. Everything was twisted around to the worst way it could be.

You might want to chose your words more carefully. From your OP:

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Just kinda wonder if there's something psychological there. A lot of women here have those force/rape fantasies. In everyday life in general a woman around 200 pounds isn't going to draw much attention from anyone who would actually force someone. is that part of it? Is it more of a fantasy to submit because its unlikely it would ever happen in real life.

So what exactly did you mean by that, since so many of us apparently took you out of context?

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 7:28:49 AM

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Psychologically I meant believed by professionals to be a cause or a factor. Wasnt stating as a fact but as a possibility. Who stands up for the kid being bullied? Not many because it's not them being harassed. I will say there are probably just as many overweight men as women here. I think had this been any other thread directed at a group of people like lesbians, gay men,underweight, bisexual, the other fetishes that are more common then most of you wouldn't have replied. Since you fit the topic you object. I have had multiple members of both sexes message me they didnt want to become part of the attacking fest but that they notice the trend too etc

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 7:43:40 AM

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So you admit that you were being a bully. At least you have that much insight.
Here's the thing. It might be possible to have a discussion about weight and BDSM, I don't know. But each time someone starts a post about the subject, it is obvious that they aren't trying to have an intellectual discussion, they are just wanting to insult other people. How stupid are you, stating that this site is full of fat people that no one could possibly want, ON THE SITE FULL OF FAT PEOPLE! If you weren't deliberately trying to be provocative, then you were just being stupid. I think people took your comments in exactly the spirit they were intended.
My brother died a horrible death, largely because he was morbidly obese. I work hard to control my weight. I am not a fan of obesity, but I don't acknowledged that you are anyone else has a right to insult someone else, just because they are overweight. Don't date them, but don't be cruel about it. Jerk.

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Psychologically I meant believed by professionals to be a cause or a factor. Wasnt stating as a fact but as a possibility. Who stands up for the kid being bullied?

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 7:52:17 AM

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Is some slender attractive woman going to care what somebody says about heavy set women? Probably not.

Wrong. I have several slim, fit, attractive women who I have showed your post to. They said they wouldn't be attracted to someone who attempted to diagnose people based on their size. They found your behavior boorish. The character of a man is shown in how he treats people who are not more powerful than he is.

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Doesn't really pertain to her.

At the moment, no, but that doesn't mean she doesn't make a judgement call on a man's character by how he portrays himself or how he treats others. Looks change and fade. Any woman who wants a man for a lifetime wants to know that he will stand by her regardless.

Personally, I didn't find your post to be offensive, just clueless. Yes, I'm a BBW and not your cup of tea. So what? Frankly you aren't mine either so neither of us is at a loss.

I just wonder why you concerned yourself so much with the body type of people you have no interest in....

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 8:27:36 AM

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then most of you wouldn't have replied. Since you fit the topic you object. I have had multiple members of both sexes message me they didnt want to become part of the attacking fest

Negative.

I am thin and hot. I replied because, you dood ----> are as clueless as they get.
Please- go and educate yourself ... in ANYTHING.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/26/2011 8:29:42 AM

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The medical profession sees fat first, and often goes no further. A dear friend died of cancer that was never diagnosed. His doctors saw a fat man, and looked for fat man things. My 400 pound friend has perfect bloodwork. I won't try to tell you that she has no issues due to her wight, but she is not not at risk for diabetes, heart disease, or stroke.

First of all I want to say that I don't know your friend's situation so I won't comment directly on that. What I WILL say is that when a person is severely overweight it is POSSIBLE to miss a tumor simply because of the fat and the small size of the tumor. If that person does not display symptoms that point to cancer such as sudden unexplained weight loss, yes it CAN be missed. In the case of the person showing symptoms of other diseases yes the doctor will look for other causes first, it's the right thing to do. Tragically because of this the diagnosis of cancer can be delayed or even missed. It's sad and tragic but doctors are only human and yes they make mistakes.

I'm not blaming the person for being fat, I'm not blaming ANYONE, I'm simply saying that mistakes do happen and yes the person being overweight can contribute to that.

I so wish that were true... and it iS true that he had a very rare cancer that wouldnt have been detected more than likely, but when it had metastisized to his lungs FFS?? Yeah. He came in with shortness of breath, and was advised to stop smoking, when he had never smoked in his life. It was a total cluster.

If you are fat, the medical community will blame your fat for everything, and be astounded at your good health. Until you get old and are just a waste of space like the other old folks.

Ranty rant rant.

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