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Matildax21x -> Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 5:12:21 PM)
I'm coming across a lot of profiles where men and women of the dominant variety are stating things like, "All women know to submit to me." Or "All men should learn their place and bow down before me, a Goddess." Frankly, if find the lack of choice a bit disturbing. Are you saying that as a dominant woman I am not doing it right? Am I to assume that all dominant men should stop living by their sexual preferences? To me it is as ignorant and discriminating as someone saying, "Being gay is wrong." We, as a community, need to realize that there are dominent people and submissive people (using people because I believe that man/woman doesn't encompass all gender). Am I crazy?

Sherrr -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 5:13:53 PM)
Either they're being theatrical, or they're delusional. Either way, just ignore them if they bother you.

MissToYouRedux -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 5:26:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sherrr ... Either way, just ignore them if they bother you. Words to live by on the net. ;) ... and then we get the "Why don't I get a response?" threads. [:D]

Delilya -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 5:39:31 PM)
What they said

littlewonder -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 5:39:53 PM)
they aren't compatible with you. Click on the next profile and move on. Say this slowly...it.....is....just.....online.

kalikshama -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 5:48:04 PM)
quote: Either they're being theatrical, or they're delusional. Either way, just ignore them if they bother you. I like her. Can we keep her?

poise -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 5:54:24 PM)
I can't imagine how another persons modus operandi could possibly have any affect on you, so I would guess you are getting bent out of shape for no reason. Coincidentally, your profile read in almost the same manner prior to your recent edits. It even had you listed as a male dominant, which I'm sure was a simple mistake?

MistressLilliana -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 5:57:34 PM)
If I were a sub/slave my first thought would be that you aren't my Goddess or Master yet so why should I bow? As for respecting others, I do find those types of comments disrespectful of others because not all men should bow to a women and not all women should bow to men. The word ALL is what bothers me...even if they say all submissive ___ should bow to me it's still not right...the only one who should bow is the one they own. You aren't a fucking God/Goddess you are human so get over yourself! The day you turn the sky purple with blue and green spots, then maybe we'll talk but no guarantees.

Hillwilliam -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 5:59:36 PM)
There are a lot of delusional Dom(mes) out there who have never had a person kneel for them in rl. nuff said.

Matildax21x -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 6:00:09 PM)
Not only was I setting up my account, but I never said anything about all males should submit to me. I'm not worried about them hurting my feelings, I'm worried about the kind of stereotypes that persist in the BDSM community, especially about Dominant/submissive relationships.

Lucylastic -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 6:05:04 PM)
Sometimes you should just laugh, think it takes all sorts and move on... its their profile, their loss if people just laugh and move on:) have fun here

HannahLynn -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 6:17:31 PM)
yea i can see how somebody might get all bent the fuck out of shape by people asserting their dominance that way, especially if that person was just trying to make a quick fucking buck selling underwear.

LafayetteLady -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 6:24:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Matildax21x Not only was I setting up my account, but I never said anything about all males should submit to me. I'm not worried about them hurting my feelings, I'm worried about the kind of stereotypes that persist in the BDSM community, especially about Dominant/submissive relationships. Don't you wonder what kind of "relationships" involve people paying to be in them?

Lucylastic -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 6:44:19 PM)
oh fuck is this turning into another bitch at prodommes thread?

JanahX -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 7:05:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Matildax21x I'm coming across a lot of profiles where men and women of the dominant variety are stating things like, "All women know to submit to me." Or "All men should learn their place and bow down before me, a Goddess." Frankly, if find the lack of choice a bit disturbing. Are you saying that as a dominant woman I am not doing it right? Am I to assume that all dominant men should stop living by their sexual preferences? To me it is as ignorant and discriminating as someone saying, "Being gay is wrong." We, as a community, need to realize that there are dominent people and submissive people (using people because I believe that man/woman doesn't encompass all gender). Am I crazy? quote: Are you saying that as a dominant woman I am not doing it right? I dont think that they are saying anything to you personally. I think anyone can present how they would like to represent themselves to the audience that they would like to attract. Their profiles have nothing to do with you. quote: We, as a community, need to realize that there are dominent people and submissive people (using people because I believe that man/woman doesn't encompass all gender). I am not part of your community and I most likely do not practice nor follow any bdsm terms that you or anyone else here follows (execpt one >wink) What does the way someone attracts the type of person they are seeking in their profile have to do with the BDSM "COMMUNITY" realizing that there are dominant people and submissive people? That doesnt even make any sense... and so to answer your final question .. are you crazy? ... meh....

Hisprettybaby -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 7:16:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Matildax21x I'm coming across a lot of profiles where men and women of the dominant variety are stating things like, "All women know to submit to me." Or "All men should learn their place and bow down before me, a Goddess." They're just asshats that are totally full of themselves. No one owes them shit. They're "all that and more" only in their own minds. quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic oh fuck is this turning into another bitch at prodommes thread? Geez, I sure hope not. Only one person said anything about money.

PeonForHer -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 7:19:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HannahLynn yea i can see how somebody might get all bent the fuck out of shape by people asserting their dominance that way, especially if that person was just trying to make a quick fucking buck selling underwear. Bit of an aside but has anyone ever heard of a man selling his underwear to women? Far out. With that thought: it's my bedtime.

Endivius -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 7:27:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Matildax21x I'm coming across a lot of profiles where men and women of the dominant variety are stating things like, "All women know to submit to me." Or "All men should learn their place and bow down before me, a Goddess." Frankly, if find the lack of choice a bit disturbing. It is not your choice, you are not submissive. Ergo, don't worry about how other strangers present themselves to other strangers. quote: Are you saying that as a dominant woman I am not doing it right? How you present yourself to others is subject to the interpretation of the audience. The large majority of male and female dominants on this site are horny singles who have little to no experience. quote: Am I to assume that all dominant men should stop living by their sexual preferences? Don't assume things. Let people live thier lives as they see fit and don't worry about it. It isn't your place to dictate to people how to live thier lives, and I'm sure you'll find any attempt to do so rather one sided. quote: To me it is as ignorant and discriminating as someone saying, "Being gay is wrong." We, as a community, need to realize that there are dominent people and submissive people (using people because I believe that man/woman doesn't encompass all gender). Am I crazy? Crazy is a stretch. But since it's your first post I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. As for descriminating, the only discrimination here is your lack of tolerance. If a profile doesn't appeal to you by content or context, move on. Let the oblivious live in obscurity, it is nothing to concern yourself with, and a horrible waste of energy. Edit to fix quotes.

LafayetteLady -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 7:41:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic oh fuck is this turning into another bitch at prodommes thread? I hope not. But she is bitching about "sterotypes" and relationships. Her profile is one big ad to sell used underwear and socks. She's not looking for a relationship.

Hisprettybaby -> RE: Maybe I'm getting bent out of shape for no reason... (10/22/2011 7:49:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady But she is bitching about "sterotypes" and relationships. Her profile is one big ad to sell used underwear and socks. She's not looking for a relationship. Crap! You're right! And she bitches about the way OTHER people present themselves!? Advertising to sell her used underwear and/or socks would make her pretty full of herself. If I pay $15 for a pair of panties they damn well better be new, clean, and in my size. lol ~Hisprettybaby~

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