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um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/25/2006 1:04:21 PM

MstrssSatin

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I just had a male slave email me with an unusual request. he asked if I knew any Mistress who would be willing to treat him in the manner he has a fetish for. I am not the type he is seeking, I'm more sensual and erotic then gags and humiliation. I said I would check (I'm too nice sometimes), so I am checking. Ladies.....? His profile name is slavej and his is in Cadillac, MI.
*walking away to look for a green velvet pimp suit with matching hat with pink feather...or maybe just shower....I feel dirty*

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/25/2006 1:13:59 PM

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I was just contacted by a nice young gentleman from Nigeria looking for someone to give his millions to. I can't take them right now, but I told him I'd ask around.

Anyone interested?

Yours,

benji

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/25/2006 1:25:28 PM

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I Myself dont have a problem with sending submissives to someone I know is more their style.
I'd rather do that than try to live up to something I cant.

Not to mention that it shows Your not the type to be controlling of Your "Domain" and can admit when something doesnt suit you....Kudos to You.

LMFAO @ benji

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/25/2006 1:39:38 PM

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he sounds like a 'do me' & all the 'do me's' do is make it more difficult for a genuine person to be taken seriously.....

like my grandma used to say...
"good riddance to green gravy"

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/25/2006 1:48:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: composer83

he sounds like a 'do me' & all the 'do me's' do is make it more difficult for a genuine person to be taken seriously.....

like my grandma used to say...
"good riddance to green gravy"

~m

Care to explain how he's like a do-me, based on the above information, and how a genuine(for anyone keeping track, this one can go in with real and true) sub will have issues being taken seriously because of him?

I mean, even if he's the most horrible person ever, all you can do is look good by contrast. If he's obviously a do-me sub, and you are obviously not, any real lifestyler will be able to tell the difference and take you seriously, right?

But if it's very discreet, and only you noticed, then I will say, it will be tough to be taken seriously after this guy has contacted a Domme. Luckily your perception is amazing, and you can pick out the genuine Dommes and beat him to messaging them.

So either way, you're still better off.

Yours,

benji

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/25/2006 1:58:04 PM

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I think composer may have read the profile in question where slavej kindly tells the Dommes what they may do before having their way with him.

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/25/2006 2:05:27 PM

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MstrssSatin,
There is a local munch held in the traverse city, cadillac area. There is also a northern michigan lifestyle yahoo group as well. Being from Michigan myself I can tell you this...many of the people on here will never attend a munch, or event, or even meet someone after talking on-line.
There are many munches and get togethers in west michigan, but few people attend. They never get out and meet the others. I for one will not meet someone alone someplace else, without company. Too many weirdo's and I have my own personal reasons for me....but many I have talked too, will not even show up to talk and get to know someone else on a more personal level. Almost all of the local munches are held at normal everyday places, in everyday dress. So all it takes is the courage to walk through the door.
Munches to me are a first sign of trust. They are public and you get to meet face to face and see the person and also get a feel for them in a safe environment. If you feel you need to run it is easy to do so...you leave, or use the phone to call someone you trust to pick you up.

Koneko

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/25/2006 2:16:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

quote:

ORIGINAL: composer83

he sounds like a 'do me' & all the 'do me's' do is make it more difficult for a genuine person to be taken seriously.....

like my grandma used to say...
"good riddance to green gravy"

~m

Care to explain how he's like a do-me, based on the above information, and how a genuine(for anyone keeping track, this one can go in with real and true) sub will have issues being taken seriously because of him?

I mean, even if he's the most horrible person ever, all you can do is look good by contrast. If he's obviously a do-me sub, and you are obviously not, any real lifestyler will be able to tell the difference and take you seriously, right?

But if it's very discreet, and only you noticed, then I will say, it will be tough to be taken seriously after this guy has contacted a Domme. Luckily your perception is amazing, and you can pick out the genuine Dommes and beat him to messaging them.

So either way, you're still better off.

Yours,

benji

ok, i'll explain it to you.....
if the first thing on your mind is your concern with your certain fetishes....& in what manner & how hard & when.. ..then it is obviously a fantasy roleplay......specificially what i noticed in this post that clued me in to that was "...any Mistress who would be willing to treat him in the manner he has a fetish for..." obviously his concern lies in his own fetishes & not the pleasure of the Mistress...

furthermore.....it contributes to a general negative perspective the same way all the 'posers' & 'players' do to anyone trying to be genuine, real, true or honest on the internet......i dont ask to be compared to anyone for anything for any reason.....i let my own actions & words speak for themselves.....then judge, if you must...

i dont think you have to be overtly perceptive....just quick enough to read between the lines....

~m

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/25/2006 2:31:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrssSatin
I just had a male slave email me with an unusual request. he asked if I knew any Mistress who would be willing to treat him in the manner he has a fetish for. I am not the type he is seeking, I'm more sensual and erotic then gags and humiliation. I said I would check (I'm too nice sometimes), so I am checking. Ladies.....? His profile name is slavej and his is in Cadillac, MI.

I think you've just been pulled into advertising for someone else.
If he wants to find what he desires, then he needs to be out there actively searching for it, and determining who is/isn't a good match for him; not passing the buck to miscellaneous Mistresses to do his bidding for him.
If you don't mind being the dating service for him, then by all means, have at, but I don't know that the message boards are the appropriate place to go about it.
If he had contacted me, my response would have been "Sorry we're not compatible. Good luck in your search." I simply don't have the time to be Susie-Match-Maker for all the single subbies.
And these forums would get flooded quickly with 3rd party personal ads if we all took up that torch.

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/25/2006 2:41:40 PM

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Are we not all persuing our own fetishes? I love no strings housework, and while I certainly don't say which room I want to clean and how, I need to be useful, I need to serve. That is my fetish. I also need pain and humiliation. They are also fetishes. Does this make me a do-me sub?

I'll be honest. All those real/true/genuine words just rub me the wrong way. Whenever someone refers to one group (usually including themselves) as real/true/genuine, they are implying that the other group is not real/true/genuine. Granted, he's not for everyone, but neither am I, and neither are you (I'm assuming here)

So even if we can agree on a definition of a do-me sub (which I doubt) and this person falls within it, it's not a worse thing than being a painslut, gay, Dominant, or Hispanic (as 4 random things someone can be). It's different, but that doesn't make it worse.

I would like to add that his profile could also be interpreted as an attempt at erotica - suggestive comments to show some of his interests. Maybe, maybe not.

Just my opinion.

Yours,

benji

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/25/2006 2:52:46 PM

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lol....i love ruffling feathers....
tomato, tomato, potato, potato....
its real simple, man....if your primary concern is the activities that are done to you...then you are a do-me....if your interest lies in the actual act of submission......then you would be what i refferred to as someone who is genuine

dont get me wrong, you can be a 'genuine do me' those people are very real....but often pose as someone who is interested in service...

dont get offended....just ask yourself this question.......why is it erotic to you? because of the particular activity you are doing? (ie, does that mop really turn you on?) or is it the act of servitude & power exchange that appeals to you...?

food for thought

~m

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/25/2006 2:54:15 PM

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It seems that there's a little of both here. Everyone is advertising in one way or another, but everyone has some limits (any true "no-limits" types out there? If so, stay away from me).

I wouldn't be kissing feet (or whatever) if it did nothing for me.

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/25/2006 3:08:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: composer83

its real simple, man....if your primary concern is the activities that are done to you...then you are a do-me....if your interest lies in the actual act of submission......then you would be what i refferred to as someone who is genuine

dont get me wrong, you can be a 'genuine do me' those people are very real....but often pose as someone who is interested in service...

dont get offended....just ask yourself this question.......why is it erotic to you? because of the particular activity you are doing? (ie, does that mop really turn you on?) or is it the act of servitude & power exchange that appeals to you...?

Alright, we'll agree to disagree. I think a lot of terms in your message need defining, such as submission, "activities that are done to you" and such, despite the fact that we both assume their meaning is common sense. Also, feel free to look up threads about BDSM being about sex, and all aspects of it being erotic. You might be surprised to find that many people see cleaning a house as entirely non-erotic, but still very enjoyable in a submissive sense.

But I would like to say that I don't get offended. So don't even think of assuming that I am.

Food for thought.

Yours,

benji

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/25/2006 3:19:29 PM

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i dont know how i can simplify it for you any more, benji....
think about what you're saying......our points dont differ that greatly....

":many people see cleaning a house as entirely non-erotic, but still very enjoyable in a submissive sense.."

judging from your statement...its seems that it is the act of submitting ....doing something to please your Mistress........that you seem to find enjoyable....not necessarily cleaning the house....& i say well done good show....

think of it this way.......if someone petitioned your mistress Mistress & asked:

"oh yeh, are you gonna make me clean? oh thats good these dishes are soooo dirty....mmm...will you make me drink the mop water..." & so on & so forth.....would you think that they were interested in serving Her? or drinking the mopwater?

food for thought...i hope you're hungry

~m

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/26/2006 3:12:29 PM

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LOL Did you not imagine that any of us didn't have enough of this nonsense in our own email boxes? Why not just tell the boy no and to be a bit more careful in who he emails, being attentive to profiles and such. If he's worth his weight, he'll do the legwork to find the mistress that is right for him. Having one handed to him will not teach him any values at all.

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/26/2006 3:17:46 PM

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This boy has been busy; he emailed me with this introduction

quote:

Here is a scene for Your consideration...

As much as I would like to send a nice reply to anyone who emails me, presumptuous, arrogant, disrespectful assholes just bore and annoy me, so blocked he is. M

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/26/2006 3:26:25 PM

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IME&O any email that starts out

quote:

Here is a scene for Your consideration...

is most likely sent out as a blanket email, as well as only for his own edification and pleasure. He's attempting to impose his fantasy on you.

I also have this person as well as a few others on block for sending just the same email.

And to the OP, I think a few others have mentioned it as well as yourself, you've been conned into being a pimp for this guy.

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/26/2006 3:44:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

I was just contacted by a nice young gentleman from Nigeria looking for someone to give his millions to. I can't take them right now, but I told him I'd ask around.

Anyone interested?

Yours,

benji

benji, so glad you posted this.
Gets out My bullhorn. Cos this is a message from the emergency broadcast system.

The Nigerian scammers are damn real on here. The one who got me started out all cool and casual, acting like he lived in the good old US. Talked to him a few months before the poo hit the fan. Then he had to go away for some business (import/export). A shipment wasn't paid for. To make a long story short, he claimed to be in Nigeria, and he ran out of cash for the hotel, and the MONEY ORDERS he had they wouldn't cash, cos they weren't international. Told me he'd send them to me and then I could cash them, and wire him his money. Well, week and half goes by and no MOs.
Won't go on, but let's just say I got took for some $$$, these guys are slick as snot. Make sure you see your prospective partner on cam. Oh yes, he had tons of pics, and good looking too, but didn't have a cam. BE CAREFUL FOLKS!!

edited: I did get those MOs, and handed them over to the Post Office. Sure as can be, BOGUS money orders. I later had a friend trace his IP addresses. Let's say something was rotten in Africa.

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/26/2006 3:50:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

I was just contacted by a nice young gentleman from Nigeria looking for someone to give his millions to. I can't take them right now, but I told him I'd ask around.

Anyone interested?

Yeah, it would be nice to get some money from those Nigerians who tried to scam me on eBay. :-P

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RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies - 5/26/2006 4:02:34 PM

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quote:

Won't go on, but let's just say I got took for some $$$, these guys are slick as snot. Make sure you see your prospective partner on cam. Oh yes, he had tons of pics, and good looking too, but didn't have a cam. BE CAREFUL FOLKS!!

I'm sorry you were taken for money, but I honestly don't understand anyone would be so gullible as to send money to someone he/she has never met or spoken to on the phone regularly. I can understand that the net facilitates meetings. I can even understand that if one is seriously smitten with someone, money should not hinder a meeting from taking place, so that the only way I can fathom money being spent before meeting is to pay for airfare of someone with whom one has gotten close online and on the phone (to and from his/her home, work, and perhaps a family member or friend).

As for not trusting anyone unless he has a webcam, I disagree. I don't own a webcam, nor do I plan to own one in the future, so I cannot require it of someone else. What I do require (as I also provide), are different pictures and consistent communication that makes sense and doesn't raise a red flag in my brain/stomach, and than let the chips fall where they may.
Unfortunately people can be lying bastards to your face just as they can on the net, and you simply have to decide how much you can afford to risk every day and in each case. M

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