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lizi -> RE: Pro/tribute Dommes (10/31/2011 2:58:02 PM)
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ORIGINAL: ScotSubC
Hi, thanks for your welcome.
I would expect to have to sort through profiles to find one or some that may be a match for me, my main point is the difference between social and business relationships, it is easy to find a pro Domme online, it's not easy to find a dominant lady looking for a submissive partner. It would be nice if it could be assumed that anyone on cm was a genuine person looking to find someone to have a relationship with.
You have a very valid point about the resources needed to police this and the fact that cm is free, I think I need to bear that in mind!
Well, you see, if financial Dommes were prohibited here it may just drive them more underground, and they could pose as lifestyle Dommes, thereby making it harder to find a lifestyle Domme. In other words, just because something would be 'outlawed' so to speak, who says the people making up their profiles will be honest about what they put in there? People aren't honest now, in every category there are those who falsify what they're doing for their own personal gratification.
Plus there's the thing I brought up before - who says what you want is any less real than what anyone else wants? For some people business is social. If some guy is perfectly fine with a young girl jerking his chain, with threats and gift cards exchanging hands, who says that's any less real or fulfilling than the real life relationship that you want? You say it's easy to find a financial Domme and this place shouldn't be for them, but quite honestly who says you get to choose for everyone? It's a slippery road to start judging what is ok and what is not in this world especially. I can tell you for certain that Dommes wish there would be less time-wasting male submissives. You know those men who play with the idea of a being with a Domme and then disappear. You see, every category has their own little category of people they wish would be erased from the site. Do you think a male submissive who just wants a bit of conversation is going to say that in his profile? Who will talk to him if they know upfront that he just wants to wank off ?
I"m not without sympathy towards your plight, I just don't see how it can be solved in the manner you would like on a free site. Which is why everyone is suggesting you become comfortable with a lot of searching and blocking. There really isn't a solution, believe me, the topic has been done to death. Use the search feature on this page to look around some and see if I'm not right about that.
But hey, you seem like a decent guy, how about trying another thread and get to know the people here? There might be a Domme in the group that will be impressed with your equanimity and intelligence. You never know [;)]
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