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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 10/31/2011 2:54:21 PM

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Ah! Thanks for explaining to the newbie!

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 10/31/2011 2:56:58 PM

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 10/31/2011 2:58:02 PM

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Hi, thanks for your welcome.

I would expect to have to sort through profiles to find one or some that may be a match for me, my main point is the difference between social and business relationships, it is easy to find a pro Domme online, it's not easy to find a dominant lady looking for a submissive partner. It would be nice if it could be assumed that anyone on cm was a genuine person looking to find someone to have a relationship with.

You have a very valid point about the resources needed to police this and the fact that cm is free, I think I need to bear that in mind!

Well, you see, if financial Dommes were prohibited here it may just drive them more underground, and they could pose as lifestyle Dommes, thereby making it harder to find a lifestyle Domme. In other words, just because something would be 'outlawed' so to speak, who says the people making up their profiles will be honest about what they put in there? People aren't honest now, in every category there are those who falsify what they're doing for their own personal gratification.

Plus there's the thing I brought up before - who says what you want is any less real than what anyone else wants? For some people business is social. If some guy is perfectly fine with a young girl jerking his chain, with threats and gift cards exchanging hands, who says that's any less real or fulfilling than the real life relationship that you want? You say it's easy to find a financial Domme and this place shouldn't be for them, but quite honestly who says you get to choose for everyone? It's a slippery road to start judging what is ok and what is not in this world especially. I can tell you for certain that Dommes wish there would be less time-wasting male submissives. You know those men who play with the idea of a being with a Domme and then disappear. You see, every category has their own little category of people they wish would be erased from the site. Do you think a male submissive who just wants a bit of conversation is going to say that in his profile? Who will talk to him if they know upfront that he just wants to wank off ?

I"m not without sympathy towards your plight, I just don't see how it can be solved in the manner you would like on a free site. Which is why everyone is suggesting you become comfortable with a lot of searching and blocking. There really isn't a solution, believe me, the topic has been done to death. Use the search feature on this page to look around some and see if I'm not right about that.

But hey, you seem like a decent guy, how about trying another thread and get to know the people here? There might be a Domme in the group that will be impressed with your equanimity and intelligence. You never know

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 10/31/2011 3:12:25 PM

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Just had a look at your profile, I love to see a sub who subs but doesn't take any shit! Respect.

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 10/31/2011 3:19:37 PM

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Ok, obviously this subject has been done to death, although you basically talk sense there are a couple of points in your post I would argue (ie debate) with you but as this subject is obviously old hat I won't.

Thanks for putting some input into my thread, it is nice to be a newbie but get some obviously genuine replies.

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 10/31/2011 4:06:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

Some women here are lifestyle, some are pro, some are both, some are into findom, some are not, some are male pretending to be female, and so on.

For anyone and everyone, it's a case of "click the next profile if this one doesn't interest you".

If you come across someone you don't want to see again, just BLOCK! DELETE!! NEXT!!! lol

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ORIGINAL: johnb81

There's no such thing as a truly dominant woman, and the vast majority of these profiles are fakes.

Pay no attention to this ^^^^^^ guy. He just whines cause he's been on here for two weeks and he hasn't gotten laid yet. hahaha He's actually more of a troll than anything.

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 10/31/2011 4:16:09 PM

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Then why does this part of the forum exist? http://www.collarchat.com/forumid_40/tt.htm

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ORIGINAL: ScotSubC
However, to come back to my original point, no harm in describing yourself as a pro if thats what you are, it's how you use the site, which I interperet as being intended for the meeting of like minded people on a purely social level, not business.

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 10/31/2011 4:24:21 PM

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YAY!! Now go work on all those married guys on the other side, looking for a fresh bint. They should be CLEARLY MARKED.

Clearly marked?

*gets branding iron out of the fire*

NEXT!!

ouch! doesnt sound good at all

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 10/31/2011 5:09:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

YAY!! Now go work on all those married guys on the other side, looking for a fresh bint. They should be CLEARLY MARKED.

Clearly marked?

*gets branding iron out of the fire*

NEXT!!

oooooo me first me first!

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 10/31/2011 5:28:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: rulemylife
Unfortunately, on this site almost every red profile wants money in some way.

Whether it is their Amazon wishlist, Paypal, or some other form of pay for play.

Okay, in all fairness, I'm a switch and part of a couple, so my profile is purple, not red. BUT, I am looking for a sub and I'm not looking for money, gifts, etc. I'm looking for a realtime relationship, and not for monetary remuneration, either directly or indirectly. It's unfair to say that almost every Dominant woman is looking for money in some way.

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 10/31/2011 5:37:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: Hisprettybaby

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ORIGINAL: rulemylife
Unfortunately, on this site almost every red profile wants money in some way.

Whether it is their Amazon wishlist, Paypal, or some other form of pay for play.

Okay, in all fairness, I'm a switch and part of a couple, so my profile is purple, not red. BUT, I am looking for a sub and I'm not looking for money, gifts, etc. I'm looking for a realtime relationship, and not for monetary remuneration, either directly or indirectly. It's unfair to say that almost every Dominant woman is looking for money in some way.

I agree. Geez look at all the awesome dominas who post here regularly!

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 10/31/2011 5:53:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: TheFireWithinMe

I agree. Geez look at all the awesome dominas who post here regularly!

I know, which is why I tried to encourage the OP to stick around and take a look.

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 10/31/2011 6:17:09 PM

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Make sure you put some specifics in your search, i.e. age, location, weight, height, keywords (relationship maybe?). Then spend a couple of days going through your search and hiding the profiles of those that are of no interest to you and when you are done, take a look at what is left.

If you are the public sort, you can also search to see what is available in the local scene to you.

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 10/31/2011 6:34:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: ScotSubC

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ORIGINAL: johnb81

There's no such thing as a truly dominant woman, and the vast majority of these profiles are fakes. Guys on this site are so fucking gullible I swear. If they aren't fakes then it's some ugly anime-fan insecure girl who needs online validation from equally pathetic men because they get no attention in real life. The pro's aren't dominant either, they are whores who've figured out that there are ways to get men off without taking off their clothes. Well, a lot of them still need to take off their clothes to pay the bills, they just use a different name.

Doesn't matter if its kinky sex, motorbikes, boats, diy, stamp collecting, there's at least one on every forum! :)

If ONLY there were just ONE....we should be so lucky....

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 11/1/2011 10:28:32 AM

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Thanks everyone for all your input on what's obviously a tired subject, and thanks for the pleasant welcome.

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 11/1/2011 10:44:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: MissKittyDeVine

It´s nice to know you think so highly of ProDommes (of which I am one, openly, out and proud), but why should we not be here? Any site will have skillions (love that word) of profiles that don´t fit what you´re looking for or are chancers (and there are as many of the latter under ´subs´ as there are under dominants). You´re an adult, instead of expecting all the profiles whose presence that you think inappropriate to be deleted, you take the initiative and as LadyHib says, hide the ones that you aren´t interested in.

Uh cuz we do it for pleasure. You do it to make money so sure you can be here but you should be like any other business and have to pay to be here <advertise>. Yep it's really that simple.

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 11/1/2011 10:53:15 AM

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Legal stuff. Don't whine/complain about my advice. First I don't care. 2nd Like it or not YOU asked for it!

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It´s nice to know you think so highly of ProDommes (of which I am one, openly, out and proud), but why should we not be here? Any site will have skillions (love that word) of profiles that don´t fit what you´re looking for or are chancers (and there are as many of the latter under ´subs´ as there are under dominants). You´re an adult, instead of expecting all the profiles whose presence that you think inappropriate to be deleted, you take the initiative and as LadyHib says, hide the ones that you aren´t interested in.

Uh cuz we do it for pleasure. You do it to make money so sure you can be here but you should be like any other business and have to pay to be here <advertise>. Yep it's really that simple.

BadOne

Doing something for money and doing it for pleasure are not mutually exclusive. If you can't/don't want to figure out how to combine business and pleasure, that sounds like a personal choice/issue.

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 11/1/2011 12:17:06 PM

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Legal stuff. Don't whine/complain about my advice. First I don't care. 2nd Like it or not YOU asked for it!

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

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ORIGINAL: MissKittyDeVine

It´s nice to know you think so highly of ProDommes (of which I am one, openly, out and proud), but why should we not be here? Any site will have skillions (love that word) of profiles that don´t fit what you´re looking for or are chancers (and there are as many of the latter under ´subs´ as there are under dominants). You´re an adult, instead of expecting all the profiles whose presence that you think inappropriate to be deleted, you take the initiative and as LadyHib says, hide the ones that you aren´t interested in.

Uh cuz we do it for pleasure. You do it to make money so sure you can be here but you should be like any other business and have to pay to be here <advertise>. Yep it's really that simple.

BadOne

Doing something for money and doing it for pleasure are not mutually exclusive. If you can't/don't want to figure out how to combine business and pleasure, that sounds like a personal choice/issue.

I didnt say it was. What I said was they as in the pros should pay to have there profiles listed with those of us that do it for pleasure. The reason being they make money at it. I dare say that it's prolly a cash biz so I suspect they are under reporting their income as well. So they are not paying share in both instances. <read in other words my tax dollars are supporting their deadbeat asses> Something I prefer not to do.

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 11/1/2011 12:29:22 PM

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Your profile is genuine and unambiguous, which is appreciated, it is more those such as [censored] that I really have a problem with.

I appreciate the honesty in that unambiguous findomme profile. It is so easy for you to Hide.

I would like more honesty in married cheater profiles.

/signs up for the branding brigade/

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RE: Pro/tribute Dommes - 11/1/2011 12:42:12 PM

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I didnt say it was. What I said was they as in the pros should pay to have there profiles listed with those of us that do it for pleasure. The reason being they make money at it. I dare say that it's prolly a cash biz so I suspect they are under reporting their income as well. So they are not paying share in both instances. Something I prefer not to do.

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

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ORIGINAL: obsequence

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Legal stuff. Don't whine/complain about my advice. First I don't care. 2nd Like it or not YOU asked for it!

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

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ORIGINAL: MissKittyDeVine

It´s nice to know you think so highly of ProDommes (of which I am one, openly, out and proud), but why should we not be here? Any site will have skillions (love that word) of profiles that don´t fit what you´re looking for or are chancers (and there are as many of the latter under ´subs´ as there are under dominants). You´re an adult, instead of expecting all the profiles whose presence that you think inappropriate to be deleted, you take the initiative and as LadyHib says, hide the ones that you aren´t interested in.

Uh cuz we do it for pleasure. You do it to make money so sure you can be here but you should be like any other business and have to pay to be here <advertise>. Yep it's really that simple.

BadOne

Doing something for money and doing it for pleasure are not mutually exclusive. If you can't/don't want to figure out how to combine business and pleasure, that sounds like a personal choice/issue.

I didnt say it was. What I said was they as in the pros should pay to have there profiles listed with those of us that do it for pleasure. The reason being they make money at it. I dare say that it's prolly a cash biz so I suspect they are under reporting their income as well. So they are not paying share in both instances. <read in other words my tax dollars are supporting their deadbeat asses> Something I prefer not to do.

BadOne

I think you missed the point. If they aren't mutually exclusive then you can't accuse a "pro" of not also doing it for "pleasure." Involving currency doesn't change the act and feelings and the pleasure derived from them.

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