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RE: slave OR just "kinky sex" slave and does ... - 5/26/2007 9:57:35 PM

WhiplashSmile

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: dogobedience

Yes, BDSM is a kink. However are you here only for EASY SEX ?!

Is your goal for today to see how many of your old threads you can revive?

Damn.. did he not get enough information a year ago? You'd think after a year he would have reached a new level of understanding or something...

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RE: slave OR just "kinky sex" slave and does ... - 5/27/2007 1:59:03 AM

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Until I can find someone who I want more than kinky sex from, I'll have to settle for the kinky sex.

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RE: slave OR just "kinky sex" slave and does ... - 5/27/2007 10:42:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I think everyone has a different idea of what 24-7 means. My idea of it might make me look like a "sexual submissive" to some, and like a TPE slave to others. So you would have to even define what you mean by 24-7 to everyone on this site to see if we are even on the same page.

I think of 24-7 as a mindset. It is in the minds of those doing it... I do not know what you mean by this term. So if you can define it for us perhaps we can answer the question... I certainly can't answer it as it is.

I couldn't agree anymore with Julia, she is dead on in my opinion.

Sexual contact is really the last thing on my mind when serving. Sure sex is great, but it's not great when the entire concept isn't there for me. I want 24/7 but it's not possible, so instead I try and justify what I do want, which is structure, rules etc...and of course the physical on occasion. Without having rules and structure with my Partner i just dont feel complete, for me it's more the mental aspect while having some physical....it's a combination that involves me staying in my place, and reminds me of where my place is with my Partner. Its not that I want a relationship, it's that I want a constant reminder somehow, someway that i am doing something for the One person I care more than anything about. ( i dont think this came out right but I tried)

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RE: slave OR just "kinky sex" slave and does ... - 5/27/2007 11:17:29 AM

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i'm definitely a full time, all the time slave...in the bedroom and out of it. As each day passes i find that it deepens.

As for the b.j. part, i didn't quite get where you were going with that one until twicehappy responded (and still i don't know if i got it right).....What i can say about the bj thing with my Master/Daddy is that it is something that i do for him that he only has to receive and do no work so it seems to increase his Dominance, or solidify it anyway...i give him something that the only thing i receive from it is knowing that i did the job well and made him happy.....Almost a totally selfless act.

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RE: slave OR just "kinky sex" slave and does ... - 5/27/2007 11:31:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: dogobedience

NOW MY QUESTION, how many of you all (it is ok to say that here in Texas!) both men and women are just here for KINKY SEX and pretend to want all that the lifestyle offers? Will I get lies from doms, and you are right from parttime slaves?

I often tell girls, give your guy 2-4 BJ's in a row (or as many as he can do in a short period) AND SEE HOW DOM HE IS THEN. If I never had sex again, I would still give up all I had to be with real property.......I bet few are here for that.prove me wrong!!!!!!! I hope I am wrong!!!!!!!!!

I LOVE this question !
Just yesterday I was told by Sir "you are a submissive snob."

He said this lovingly and with a voice that I knew I should listen too. He was gonna teach me something....
All submissives are NOT like me and I will NEVER say anything to open their eyes to the type of submissive I am. They dont want to be a "real" submissive.

I see many as bottoms, kinksters, demanding hard fucking control sex and really just confused horny females who have found something they want to identitfy with ... submissive. So in their profiles they write submissive or switch or i dont know my role.

This is so NOT me. Sir knows this and he finally told me to accept this.
Females cannot even tell you what slave or submissive means to them without talking about kinky sex first and foremost.

I think this question of yours, literally answers the question on one of your other threads...Girls, why did it fail?

I believe my Sir would give up his sexuality just to have me. Yes we love our sexuality and sensuality with each other.... but our relationship is so much deeper than just sex. So much deeper than "love." He proved that to me in ways yesterday that were/are beyond my comprehension.
He told me, and I still cry with knowing he told me this, becasue it is so humbling for me to have been told, "you make me want to be a better Dominant."
Now how blessed is He? I already know I am blessed.

Sir's chosen, cherished, adored, treasured and only property.

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RE: slave OR just "kinky sex" slave and does ... - 5/27/2007 12:50:41 PM

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This is probably the wrong venue to prove your assertation. The folks who choose to interact on the forum floor are, for the most part, fairly dedicated to what they do, or at least to the idea of it. There are a vast majority of bedroom players along with the trolls and HNGs on the other side of the site, who don't seem to hang out here.

Now, please keep in mind, while I enjoy the 24/7 thing, I see nothing wrong with the kinky sex variant. My position is and has been for a very long time now that it's all just roleplaying - then again, so is the vanilla variants of husband and wife or boyfriend and girlfirend (or girlfriend and girlfirend and boyfriend and boyfriend, et cetra). Clearly defining the role you want to play seems to do a world of good for the longevity of a relationship, if only because it makes sure everyone has the same script.

Not much help, I know, but buck up - you've found what you're looking for, and that's really what matters here. Search a large enough population, and anyone can find a mate (or even a plurality of mates) who matches their particular needs, wants, and desires.

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RE: slave OR just "kinky sex" slave and does ... - 5/27/2007 5:50:26 PM

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I would have to ask you to define 'kinky sex'.

I don't tie my girl up, I don't role play with her, we don't scene, I don't use 'toys' on her. Our sex life is as vanilla as they come. Yet, we manage to live a 24/7/365 M/s dynamic that is probably quite extreme to most.

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RE: slave OR just "kinky sex" slave and does ... - 5/27/2007 7:13:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: dogobedience

NOW MY QUESTION, how many of you all (it is ok to say that here in Texas!) both men and women are just here for KINKY SEX and pretend to want all that the lifestyle offers? Will I get lies from doms, and you are right from parttime slaves?

Permenent, 24/7 is how I like to live.

I've tried meeting three girls off of here before. All subs. Dated two. Nearly collared one. All wastes of time.

I will not contest that this can be a good place to meet people. But I'm going to have to be rather impressed to bother accepting another.

I'm not intersted in much older women (so far, I haven't dated over five years over my age). Many females my age are.. well, next time I want a pointless blow job, I'll humor one.

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RE: slave OR just "kinky sex" slave and does ... - 5/27/2007 7:55:26 PM

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Well we all seem to be expressing each of our desires or attitudes towards the OP's prompt, so I guess I can at least offer an opinion I haven't seen yet here...
I believe the term that most people (probably the lifestylers mainly) would use to describe me would be 'bedroom sub', however I think that's more from a lack of intermediate terms than because I'm 'just after kinky sex'. I wouldn't say no to it but I don't want [yet...?] the whole 24/7 shebang, and there's a good chance I may never.

So, it seems we're basically stuck with lifestyler at one end of the spectrum, this 'bedroom/parttime sub' thing in the middle, and 'just want kinky sex' at the other end.
I think, however, that instead of being a sliding scale, each of these is a layer on top of the others.
Which areas (or at least which of the three general groups) you fall into would depend on how often/much you want BDSM to be a constant part of your identity; which, in turn, is probably based on a hard-wired set of desires/inclinations that are unique to each of us.
When you think about it fundamentally, if you don't partake of the 24/7 lifestyle aspects all you really are doing is having kinky sex, that is unless you differentiate between BDSM and lifestyling. I feel that I stand somewhere in the middle because I anticipate a relationship wherein there is kinky sex in abundance, naturally, yet aspects of BDSM (but not neccesarily lifestyle) in large quantities too. Does it make a bit more sense now? I've pulled it into three categories: sex, bdsm, and lifestyle. One is what you do in bed, the other is what you do otherwise, and the third is how you incorporate that into your life and living arrangements.

When the god[des]([se]s) dropped the dart onto the proverbial map with me, they'd been at the mead a bit, and the hole through the paper was made right in the middle of the ocean, thus I cannot really say I am definitively one side or t'other ... but at the same time I don't want to fix myself down by saying what I want, because I don't know yet! For all I know I could find the perfect 24/7 relationship.

While I deeply desire to submit etc. etc., lack of experience and a general disinclination (that comes from I know not where) leads me to conclude that I would probably not be most optimally happy in a relationship expecting me to be subject to someone else all of the time. There are some parts of myself that I cannot give up, and I would have to retain some mote of independance to maintain these myself. I'll admit my ideas about a 24/7 relationship are probably far from complete, and it does sound rather enticing under certain conditions (e.g., not having to work, allowing one to literally be around only to please her, or if my wildest fantasies were to come true [btw to any dieties listening in, if we do decide on this course, she was a redhead, remember?]).

Again, I look at it like this:
The kinky sex is the kind of materialistic, hedonistic stuff -- "Ooohhh yes those are sexy, it'd be hot to have sex while you wear them" and so on.
OTOH you have BDSM which is very much more unworldly and is all about manipulating (for want of a better word) the other person into the weaker position and making them accept that this is how things will be, putting that dom/sub tendancy to good use, etc. Optionally encapsulates kinky sex.
Thirdly you have lifestyle aspects, which define how the dom[me]/sub interract 'the rest of the time'. Encapsulates BDSM.
So as you can see IMHO it's a three layered onion-like thing, and one's preferences towards hedonistic sex, or a deeper meaning, are essentially dictating how far from the centre of the 'onion' one is comfortable with living.

Thinking about this, it's a bit pointless, as I'm sure everyone was well aware of that anyway >_> Sorry.
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-x-

Now where was this going... ah yes. So yes I consider myself somewhere in the middle ground, and by my definitions at least of what plain 'kinky sex' and 'BDSM' are, it would seem that the vast majority of the people are also neither hither nor thither as regarding the OP's original "Sex or Lifestyle?" thing.

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RE: slave OR just "kinky sex" slave and does ... - 5/28/2007 2:22:27 AM

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if a slave has a good enuff ass i will take em on 24/7 as long as they arent some psycho... i like havin people wait on me

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