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LL1aintbehavin -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 5:10:25 AM)

Fastlane.
i think my thoughts echo those of the others that have previously posted.  everyone has screwed up, we are all aware of that.  You had the misfortune of having Your screw up made public on a forum where others felt they had the right to judge You for Your actions.  i would imagine those that gave You a hard time would think twice about their actions if any of their mistakes were aired in a public manner for others to comment upon.
You are human, and those that have no clue what happened, and even those that do have a clue, should let it go and not be judgemental.  W/we all have skeletons that we prefer kept in the closet, having something bad aired is a terrible thing, but it makes you no better or worse than anyone else here, just human.
i also enjoy Your humour and wit and think very little of those that judge others in such a way.
aintbehavin



fastlane -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 5:39:25 AM)

Damn LL1   I hope you are wearing sunscreen! [:)]

To all that have replied....Thank you.
I seem to be, no, I am overly sensitive! One person will say something deragatory towards me or categorize me as something I'm not and go into a fricken frenzy wondering why, how to change their mind, what to do, what to say, who to contact......it's really silly and I realize it. However, sometimes it just hits me at the wrong time. Last night was one of those instances and I have over reacted. I vented and I should have just swallowed that "jagged little pill" and ignored the comment.
Fastlane shakes his head in disgust with himself.
Some of the people that have posted on this thread have really touched me with what they have said, I'm proud and honored to be considered as one of your friends and hope I don't ever do anything to change that.
Now, Fastlane rubs the sunscreen over his hands and motions for LL1 to come over here....this is for your own good darlin!   Winks, Kevin



twicehappy -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 5:49:28 AM)

No dear you are not a player; you are a human being who screwed up. If you kept repeating the mentioned behavior you would be a player, you did what you could to make it right and learned from your mistakes. That is all anyone can expect from you and more than most would have done.

You caught the dreaded Dom rot but appears to be cured now. Get over it, go forward and this time be a good Dom.

If people keep holding it against you chances are they have a few skeletons of their own in their closets.

Grin and tell them to go f&#* themselves.

Or if it will make you feel better bet there are a few Dommes who would cheerfully volunteer to beat you so you would feel punished and quit punishing yourself. WEFG............ 




LL1aintbehavin -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 6:02:42 AM)

lol fastlane - runs over quickly for the offered protection umm from the suns glare

aintbehavin



slavejali -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 6:06:46 AM)

We all screw up at times...now learning from our mistakes and changing, is a thing, fewer people do.

(btw I have no idea what you were talking about so thats just a genral comment that fits the occassion but true hey)



piscess -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 6:29:06 AM)

Hell we all screw up sometime!
 
Let the judgers make their judgements and you just move right past it.  You screwed up, tried to make things better, and paid the price.
 
I actually love your posts so please keep posting on!!
 
piscess



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 6:53:24 AM)

I'd post the link to the thread that had all the "original" drama on it, but my search function isn't working right now.

Fastlane- you had a big cyber blow up that was quite public and quite nasty.  Before that you had major cyber open flirting which simply fueled the fire and let everyone know who they players were when the drama broke out.

And since then, no one has seen much change in you- posts about going poly, wanting new people, not sure of where to go, as well as your clear pattern of 95% of the time posting only one liner humorous type posts that don't add anything but fluff.  You aren't really projecting an attitude of someone who knows what's going on, where he wants to go and how he's going to get there.

Even with all of that- no one would really care.  If I left this site tomorrow and came back in a month, maybe 3 people would notice and care.  A few would be happy.  But, no one is really THAT important online.  As you can see here, hardly anyone even remembers the original drama fest that you had going. 

You're the one who keeps bringing it up, you're the one who remains trapped by your habits.



LaTigresse -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 7:11:59 AM)

Everyyyyyyyyyyone screws up wether they want to admit it or not. Sounds like its time to close the door on it and let it die. I have ZERO clue what the drama actually is but I do know from past experience that you can only applogise so much before it starts sounding empty and worthless. Start behaving in a manner that gains you the attention you do want...if it is to be taken seriously and with respect......then behave in a manner that garners it. 



desertdancer -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 8:42:31 AM)

LA... I think maybe it's for the best that the search didn't work, for those of us who don't know the drama, it's better left unsaid..or unread.  I know I don't have to read it, but I wonder why one would want to re-post something that has upset other people and has left one person in a state of feeling so bad they publically say they are sorry.  I don't know you, as I'm new here and I don't want to pick on you, because I have enjoyed a lot of your posts and learned from them, but I wonder the intent of even thinking to search that out to post the link. Those of you who know what happened can stay educated and those of us who are new here, like quite a few of us who posted may be better off not knowing....

Meaning no disrespect,
dancer



Mercnbeth -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 9:11:49 AM)

well, Kevin, since YOU brought it up...
 
this slave doesn't believe there are many here who remember your chaos...as made obvious by some of the replies to this post...it appears you might even have the beginnings of a modest little fan club.  How about changing this thread's title to: "Stroking Fastlane's Ego"--that way, whenever you are feeling down about your rep, you could come here and bask in the admiration of your fans!!!
 
personally, this slave doesn't really understand why you attempted to justify what you did or why it had to (and still has to, obviously) be the topic of so many of your posts....just curious, but did you ever get any forgiveness from those who felt wronged by you and have you given a thought to forgiving your-own-self?

Jeez beth, have I been too much of an influence on you? you believe in consequence for behavior. you appreciate the motive behind subsequent apologies and self deprecation as a method of generating sympathy; the fertilizer for attracting the next victim. That's a very cynical, jaded, and judgmental post. Accurate - but still.

(Edited to add Merc's comments)



fastlane -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 10:39:31 AM)

Well, I have forgave myself, yes. As for being forgiven by the two, I don't know? I have apologized to them both privately and publicly and have wished them both well in their search for happiness. I have told them both that I did not intend to hurt either of them and I'm sorry for the way I handled the situation.
I had stated earlier on this thread that I was venting by something that was said towards me and probably should have just kept it to myself instead of spewing.
I don't consider myself as having a fan club and I don't need my EGO stroked either. I have some friends here and I enjoy very much posting here. Yes, many of my post are one liner's and meant to make people smile. What is wrong with that? I don't tend to pass judgement on to others, especially in a situation in which there are many sides and angles with only three people that know the truth. I have not seen or heard anyone come out and say how I made them a victim guys and I'm certainly not laying any groundwork as you may suggest?. My contacts here are very limited and I don't expect that to change. I'm not going to return to this thread again, but before I leave it I will say one thing that you have stated correctly. I could have let this thing die out and yet I revived it....again. Why, knowing that things like what you and LA have stated would be said? Well, I'll tell you why. It is my way of dealing with it. It is my way of dealing with something that still hurts, when things are assumed about me. It is my way of saying that what happened was unfortuneate but was blown way out of proportion. It's my way of seeing just how many "saints" we have on this board and how many people who are so quick to judge without revealing any of there on skeletons. It's my way of making amends to the two that felt so betrayed by me and to show them that I am still sorry and it does still bother me greatly.
It is just how I am, human, flawed, but sincere.         Kevin



happypervert -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 4:25:11 PM)

quote:

personally, this slave doesn't really understand why you attempted to justify what you did or why it had to (and still has to, obviously) be the topic of so many of your posts.

There is a thread in the General area right now that may explain it:

http://www.collarchat.com/Narcissistic_Personality_Disorder/m_391563/tm.htm

#6-8  in LAM's list look like they fit especially well.





Vancouver_cinful -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 5:07:10 PM)

You know, sometime we come down on people because we care about them and want them to stop self-destructive habits.

I've been here through some of the bad moments, Kevin, and one thing I noticed was that a lot of us recognized your heart, and your lack of malice. We've often told you so, so stop beating yourself up.

Move on, learn and grow.

You're part of this dysfunctional family...so enjoy!



bandit25 -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 5:17:19 PM)

I, too, am new on the boards.  I haven't seen anything and don't want to either. Your posts are mostly funny, sometimes bizarre but always entertaining. 



littleone35 -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/26/2006 5:31:06 PM)

As others have said Kevin i don't know what happened.  You seem to be a stand up guy except for that one mistake.  It is over and you have apoligized ther is nothing left to do but let it go.

Oh by the way both my Master and myself look forward to your posts.  I hope you don't stop posting and leave.

Matt's littleone



DesertRat -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/27/2006 7:50:25 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaMalinche

Dear Fastlane,

This horse is dead.  You can stop flogging it at any time. 

We all do things in our lives that we are not particularly proud of.  The important thing is to learn from it and not create the same situation for yourself again.

Fastlane, you are a good person, you write touching posts about your sons, and you are always ready with something positive to say when people hook up. 

You do make a lot of smart-assed comments on the board, but not I think in the spirit of meanness.

I hope that you are able to move beyond this soon.  Give yourself absolution, and remember what you learned.

Oh, and if others want to keep giving you grief about it. . . Well KILL them.  At least ignore them, they will go away soon enough.  The block button is wonderful that way.

Best,

LaMalinche




Most of those who know what he did have left the site in disgust, so he can remake the past as he likes if he is just patient enough. Only advice I could give is to stop drinking...or cut down, anyway. One of the subs in question did not enjoy her time, and now, a few harrassing, obscene phone calls later, enjoys the experience even less.

Bob



DesertRat -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/27/2006 7:57:52 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

Well, I have forgave myself, yes. As for being forgiven by the two, I don't know? I have apologized to them both privately and publicly and have wished them both well in their search for happiness. I have told them both that I did not intend to hurt either of them and I'm sorry for the way I handled the situation.
I had stated earlier on this thread that I was venting by something that was said towards me and probably should have just kept it to myself instead of spewing.
I don't consider myself as having a fan club and I don't need my EGO stroked either. I have some friends here and I enjoy very much posting here. Yes, many of my post are one liner's and meant to make people smile. What is wrong with that? I don't tend to pass judgement on to others, especially in a situation in which there are many sides and angles with only three people that know the truth. I have not seen or heard anyone come out and say how I made them a victim guys and I'm certainly not laying any groundwork as you may suggest?. My contacts here are very limited and I don't expect that to change. I'm not going to return to this thread again, but before I leave it I will say one thing that you have stated correctly. I could have let this thing die out and yet I revived it....again. Why, knowing that things like what you and LA have stated would be said? Well, I'll tell you why. It is my way of dealing with it. It is my way of dealing with something that still hurts, when things are assumed about me. It is my way of saying that what happened was unfortuneate but was blown way out of proportion. It's my way of seeing just how many "saints" we have on this board and how many people who are so quick to judge without revealing any of there on skeletons. It's my way of making amends to the two that felt so betrayed by me and to show them that I am still sorry and it does still bother me greatly.
It is just how I am, human, flawed, but sincere.         Kevin


An obscene phone call is NOT an amends. Same goes for harrassing emails and posts. When people are put on moderation here, it is for a good reason. Being contrite in public and abusive in public is not honorable behavior.

[As an aside, I am wondering: Why is this thread in this particular forum, anyway? Is this the "room of maximum sympathy", or something? It would go better in the "Off Topic" section, along with all that other past stuff.]

Bob



stef -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/27/2006 9:57:53 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesertRat

[As an aside, I am wondering: Why is this thread in this particular forum, anyway? Is this the "room of maximum sympathy", or something? It would go better in the "Off Topic" section, along with all that other past stuff.]

I'm surprised it hasn't been bumped into "...Stupidity."

~stef



mayapple -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/27/2006 9:59:13 AM)

(hmmmm...... thinks to herself....  "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all....."  but those words have not always guided the posters on the related threads....)
 
I didn't know anything about the past brouhaha either, but curiosity got the better of me last night.  A search on keyword "sorry" and author "fastlane" brought me to a post, "I AM NOT A PREDATOR!" and I got sucked into the mess.  Many pages later, having read all of that and all of this, I don't quite know what to think or say. 
 
I can't imagine why you (fastlane) stirred up the past with this new thread and its aggressive subject line.  "Animosity, revenge and just general pissed off" does not sound like one more way of "making amends to the two that felt so betrayed... and to show them that [you are] still sorry." 
 
I believe you when you declare yourself "human, flawed, but sincere."  But it seems that your tendency toward "spewing" without really thinking ahead is having the same, foreseeable effect of hurting both yourself and others.
 
Maybe some here are wondering if you are human, flawed, sincere and reformed, or just 3 out of 4.  If nothing has been learned from the past except for regrets, then maybe the past bears humble, reflective, private revisiting... not another public rant.
 
I hasten to add that I am the farthest thing possible from a saint and I am not sitting in judgment of you or anyone else.  I guess maybe I am saying that if you cannot ignore the past, maybe there are some positive things you can reap from it... hoping inner growth is one of them.  (I hold this hope not just for you but for all of us imperfect humans.)
 
mayapple
 



DesertRat -> RE: animosity, revenge and just general pissed off (5/27/2006 10:05:40 AM)

Too late to edit...This statement: "Being contrite in public and abusive in public is not honorable behavior."  should read:

Being contrite in public and abusive in private is not honorable behavior.

another brain fade






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