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More Appeal - 11/7/2011 2:53:02 PM

chicoturtle

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I've been in the mood to serve and worship for ages and have really stepped up my correspondence level here and on CL, but still no dice. So to all You wonderful Dominant ladies out there, what would make my profile more appealing?

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RE: More Appeal - 11/7/2011 3:06:29 PM

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I think your profile is nice but I'm no expert. Someone will be along soon to help.

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RE: More Appeal - 11/7/2011 5:14:07 PM

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Find someone else to take a picture of you. It is a pretty common fact on social networks that people are put off by seeing that a person doesn't even have one friend that will take a picture for them. Add some personal interests other than kink. You want to kneel, beg, tell someone how wonderful she is thats great but what is she going to do with you when she wants something other than your lips on her ...feet. You could try not looking so serious. I have little room to talk on this one because I rarely smile when someone takes my picture but you look like you are angry at your phone. You might have a bit of an issue with listing female supremacy. I think it's wonderful but few really know what it truely means and even fewer are really into it. The people that are can be very hard to find online. Good luck.

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RE: More Appeal - 11/7/2011 5:31:48 PM

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OK, thank you for your awesome advice :p

I really appreciate straight talk like that. Honestly I'm pretty clueless when it comes to photos, so I'll make an effort to get something better up. As to interests I'm into all sorts of stuff and don't want to bog someone down with TMI, but your point is well taken. I'll put up some more info. It's all about opening up to the world right? :p

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RE: More Appeal - 11/7/2011 6:11:32 PM

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I second MissImmortalPain. You do look like you are angry at your phone. And yes, there needs to be more in there about what you are like as a regular person. It's a given that you are submissive and whatnot. It's also really nice to describe how you worship women, but I became desensitized to that sort of talk a long time ago. What I want to know about a guy on here is whether he is intelligent, cute, and fun to be with.

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RE: More Appeal - 11/7/2011 6:17:35 PM

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And another thing, how are you going about the communication? If you are waiting for the ladies to contact you, then you may be waiting a long time. When you see someone who interests you, write to them. Do not be disheartened if they do not write back. It may be personal, or it may not be, but either way it happens to us all.

Keep your initial message down to a paragraph or two, and for heaven's sake spell your words correctly. Do not use the sentence "I want to be your slave" or any variation thereof. Just comment on one or two things in her profile to A) prove that you read it, and B) make a starting point for conversation.

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RE: More Appeal - 11/7/2011 6:54:58 PM

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I agree. You're not bad looking and present yourself well in writing. I'd just add something about what a first date with you would be like: a picnic in the park, going to an art museum, a paintball contest, etc. While men tend to respond to visual stuff, if you can paint a picture well enough to have it get into a woman's head, you'll win. And your writing ability seems to be up to it.

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RE: More Appeal - 11/7/2011 7:10:28 PM

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I see you've added some non-kink interests to your list. Very good. You're a nice-looking man, but see if you can get someone else to take your picture. You look like you're concentrating on that camera phone too hard. lol And say a little in the essay portion about what sort of interests you have...elaborate on your interests list. Otherwise, cool.

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RE: More Appeal - 11/7/2011 9:52:30 PM

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These updates are fresh. Ok I don't normally talk that way. At any rate, made some fresh updates, making things a little more balanced, sending out respectful messages to people that seem nice. Thank you all for your feedback, have to figure out what I'm going to do for the photo, considering getting something professional as I don't really feel comfortable asking my friends to do this for me (mostly I don't want to lie when I say what it's for). Thanks again :)

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RE: More Appeal - 11/8/2011 5:32:48 AM

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You don't have to lie... just tell them you want a better pic of yourself, and trying to do it yourself just isnt working for you! :)

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RE: More Appeal - 11/8/2011 7:38:45 AM

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Dress up, ask a friend to take a good picture with a clean background. You can post it here or anywhere. And you could also put it in a good frame and give it to your grandmother for her birthday. She would like that a lot.

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RE: More Appeal - 11/10/2011 7:09:39 PM

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Hi.

I love being worshipped and served so it's a good idea to apply to a Mistress or Goddess if you want to worship and serve one. This is a great place to start and there's sites dedicated to Goddess Worship too like the popular site GoddessClub.com.

Hope this helps.

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RE: More Appeal - 11/10/2011 7:20:22 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves
Hi.

I love being worshipped and served so it's a good idea to apply to a Mistress or Goddess if you want to worship and serve one. This is a great place to start and there's sites dedicated to Goddess Worship too like the popular site GoddessClub.com.

Hope this helps.

And unless I'm wrong, don't forget to bring your credit card. Cuz it's gonna cost you there.

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RE: More Appeal - 11/10/2011 7:26:37 PM

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Completely untrue. Goddess Club is a free site and our own site that accepts members offers numerous slave positions that do not require a cent. Please don't state untrue assumptions and accusations. Thank you.

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RE: More Appeal - 11/10/2011 9:08:29 PM

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Thanks anyway, Academy, but as it says in my profile (that thing this thread is about) I'm not interested in joining any more sites. :)

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RE: More Appeal - 11/11/2011 2:30:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

Hi.

I love being worshipped and served so it's a good idea to apply to a Mistress or Goddess if you want to worship and serve one. This is a great place to start and there's sites dedicated to Goddess Worship too like the popular site GoddessClub.com.

Hope this helps.

Seriously, we have an entire section for businesses to advertise their crap in. It's not supposed to spill over into the real forums.

That site is run by the same site you work for. You have a vested interest.

I didn't think you could get much seedier, but I guess you just did.

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RE: More Appeal - 11/11/2011 4:15:31 AM

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@chicoturtle

I second what the others have said about a photo, though I should talk because all I show is a leg....but anyway. You are good looking, show us that you are happily looking for a Mistress to worship!
I enjoyed your profile, but it would be nice to read about your interests both in the scene and out.

Good luck with your search..........good things come to those who reach out and grab them!

ps-how many posts does it take to get me out of the 'vanilla' group???? geeeez.

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RE: More Appeal - 11/11/2011 5:04:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: chicoturtle

considering getting something professional as I don't really feel comfortable asking my friends to do this for me (mostly I don't want to lie when I say what it's for). Thanks again :)

take Des's advice, and have a friend take an ordinary photo of you. or if you have a digital camera, just set the timer. or you can see if your friends have taken any pictures of you on group outings that you could use.

i read an article once about how women don't respond so well to pictures that they feel are "staged" -- i'm not sure how i feel about this, because i've never really noticed whether or not i care if a photo looks staged. what's often the problem with staged photos, that i have noticed, though, is that they can be very flat, rather than dynamic, and they sometimes don't really say much about you other than "this is what i look like."

a picture where you're engaged in something and genuinely smiling will be a lot more effective than one where you're smiling in that flat, pro-photo sorta way. =p do you have any pictures of yourself involved in any of your various hobbies?

what you have written in your profile so far is not that bad at all -- the only thing that i would say is take out the mention of rocky horror picture show -- i'm guessing you're making a reference to Frank N Furter/transvestism. a lot of FemDoms don't respond well to "here is a specific kink, what do you think?" information -- you can add cross-dressing as an interest, oooor just make a more subtle mention of it. your profile ends with it as a very direct statement, and usually the end is what is left ringing in the ears of the reader -- you want that to be a direct and positive last statement of who you are, not a re-direction back to your kink.

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RE: More Appeal - 11/11/2011 5:18:40 AM

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I actually meant more in terms of Rocky as a man made for... well what he does, haha. I'll remove it though, I'm not into cross dressing at all so I don't want to give that impression. I hear you all on the pictures, I get it, I just don't have them right now. Really, very few pictures of me exist at all. Just don't hang out with a photo taking crowd I guess. Anyway that should be changing soon and I'll be looking for opportunities to take interesting photos out and about. I'll make that my assignment for this weekend.

Thanks again for the help, everyone

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RE: More Appeal - 11/11/2011 5:21:45 AM

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ooooohhh i see -- well yeah, then you see how easily that could be misinterpreted. =p good idea to take it out. =p

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