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LillyBoPeep -> When people "stick up" for you -- (11/10/2011 4:39:37 AM)
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To other female submissives/slaves -- have you ever had it happen where someone who considers him/herself to be "kink friendly" also feels the need to stick up for you?
I'm trying to learn some tactful ways of responding to this. Do you bother to educate them or explain yourself, or do you just let it roll off?
I was at an event with my friend, and we went to where a group of people were all sitting, and there was one chair left. He took the chair, and I remained standing (I actually didn't even think to sit down because I actually just like standing up =p I'd have stood if there were two chairs. The interaction with him is a FWB + service thingie; it's not a concrete, committed dynamic.) There was a couple there who believe themselves to be super kink-friendly and accommodating, but the female partner told my friend that he should be chivalrous and give me the chair. He joked back that he forgot the mat for me to sit on at his feet, and everyone else laughed, but this woman went off the deep end. So finally, we just left.
At the same event, another woman suggested that I should turn the tables and "give him a taste of his own medicine," as if it's something that just "happens to me" and I'm a poor set-upon lost little person who can't make sound decisions.
I think that's what irritates me the most -- the assumption, even by women, that somehow the female submissive partner isn't making an active decision, or has bad judgment in some way. I wanted to tell that woman that her attitude was far more offensive and "damaging" to me than my friend's joke, because it assumed all of those things. I was so flabbergasted by it all, though, I didn't really get my thoughts together until later.
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