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USEmeABUSEmeNJ13 -> Tributes... (11/11/2011 5:03:50 AM)
Hello everyone. I just wanted to see if there are any domme that do not charge? I've been on here for a while (previously as dschmertz until my girlfriend found out I was on here and I changed my name). Every Domme that I've talked to requires a tribute or some other form of payment. Are there any out there that don't require a tribute?

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 5:08:52 AM)
well if you're going behind your girlfriend's back, a lot of people are going to have issue with that. so if you want a non-charging female dominant to pay attention to you, you do have to offer something -- friendship, companionship, many of them want relationships, too, and if you're already in one (and you're dishonest in that relationship), then what do you offer them back? ETA -- of course you could get away from your computer and venture into "the scene;" you can find people who are willing to do NSA-Topping at parties, but still... many of them at least expect some kind of familiarity with you. if you pop up at a party and no one knows who you are or what you're about, you could find yourself standing by the wall.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 5:28:46 AM)
I wish we could charge everyone who started one of these threads...

GreedyTop -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 5:31:47 AM)
yeah, right?

USEmeABUSEmeNJ13 -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 5:40:27 AM)
I'm asking because these days it's hard just to survive paycheck to paycheck and than to be as willing as a lot of people are to submit to a beautiful Domme and have to risk his or her family being taken care of because she requires a tribute to abuse him or her is tough. Personally I am one of those. Though I don't have a family it's hard for me to survive. I've wanted to do rt sessions for a while but paying $100+ is a big financial hit for me take. Just saying, and I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels this way.

stellauk -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 5:43:03 AM)
Yes there are, but I guess if you've got limited time on the computer for browsing the site in case someone walks into the room I guess finding one might be a bit more challenging. The thing is, as you've brought up this subject again, the economy being what it is, people seek opportunities rather more creatively. And everyone has their own individual moral standards.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 5:44:11 AM)
it's not their responsibility to care about your finances, honestly. it's yours. if you can't afford gas, do you ask the gas station to give you free gas? however, if you make some effort and get out in your community and get to know people, you might meet some who are willing to play with you as friends without money. but again -- you're offering friendship back. you have to be active.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 5:45:49 AM)
There is a world of real life people who love to play. You have to make friends with them. FRIENDS. Wven those of us who love to play aren't going to extend ourselves for some dude who's cheating on his girlfriend and njust wants some jollies.

searching4mysir -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 5:47:06 AM)
Here's the violins for ya [sm=boohoo.gif][sm=boohoo.gif] [sm=boohoo.gif][sm=boohoo.gif][sm=boohoo.gif] Do you really think you are the only one struggling financially? If you are already in a relationship, you have very little to offer the non-pros here. The women here are not your free fetish delivery system. LBP made a good point: find your local community and get to know the folks there on a personal basis. Treat the women like WOMEN instead of kinky vending machines. MAYBE then you'll find someone who wants to play with you casually. You can invest time or you can invest money, but you have to invest something if you want to get your kink on.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 5:49:11 AM)
I love the smell of napalm in the morning![:D]

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 5:50:53 AM)
ski-DOOSH!

DarkSteven -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 5:58:22 AM)
Dude. You're only interested in serving online. I suspect that you're not a submissive as much as just a horndog because you're also looking for another woman to serve you online as well. All behind your girlfriend's back. The Dominant women here tend to be interested in real life, with someone who's not sneaking around, and someone who is comfortable in their role. So you'll have a hard time scoring one of them.

USEmeABUSEmeNJ13 -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 6:22:23 AM)
The point you're all missing is that I'm not sneaking around on my girlfriend. This is not what she's into (and that's ok). However, I still need to satisfy my needs. And yes, I am looking for online as well because I feel like it would naturally have to start out there and hopefully lead to rt.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 6:25:42 AM)
why did you have to change your name with your girlfriend found out you were here? to me that says you're sneaking around. if you're not, you should clarify.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 6:28:17 AM)
What other needs can't she meet? How would you feel if she were doing something YOU didn't know about?

USEmeABUSEmeNJ13 -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 6:43:49 AM)
She's a great girl...please don't get me wrong. This is really the only aspect that she can't help with. Everything else is great. As far as changing my name...I figured it represents me more with this lifestyle. She knows I go on here but she's not happy about it. She understands though that this is something I'm into and have been into (I've been on BDSM sites since before I was 18 so it's something that I like)

searching4mysir -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 6:43:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: USEmeABUSEmeNJ13 The point you're all missing is that I'm not sneaking around on my girlfriend. This is not what she's into (and that's ok). However, I still need to satisfy my needs. And yes, I am looking for online as well because I feel like it would naturally have to start out there and hopefully lead to rt. So you would be willing to give your future Domme the contact information for your girlfriend or invite her to your first coffee meeting (where there is no play involved)? Why would any non-pro want to play second fiddle to your girlfriend? What do you have to offer that would make that a reasonable concession on her part?

XFootSlave4U -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 7:07:57 AM)
I thoroughly enjoy these threads. The vocal minority, in some cases, represents the greater majority [8\|] It’s refreshing to see so many slaves and subs question and speak out on the … financial perspective. Anywho, I would like to see a tribute option in ones profile. That way one can easily search for a gal/dude that doesn’t have some cancerous “greed fetish.” I’ve posted this in another thread already… No tribute – slaves and subs would choose this option. Or, Dominant individuals who do not wish to require any sort of tribute Tribute is not mandatory – Dominant does not require money/gifts to play, but they are greatly appreciated Tribute is mandatory- Dominant requires a tribute (money, purchasing items …) In the meantime, the block and ignore buttons on this site do work, OP. Just be patient and dig deep. But I like my solution. Easy to implement, and it’s a win for most people. The “go out to your local BDSM community” answer is soooo overplayed. That’s my opinion on the matter. [sm=2cents.gif] ...

USEmeABUSEmeNJ13 -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 7:09:58 AM)
What do I have to offer? What every sub does...their whole to be used however she sees fit. I wouldn't mind so much with a smaller tribute...say $75 (for example) it would be easier to work with that. And another question...in my findings, I've noticed that most male Doms do not ask for tribute yet I'd venture to say 90% of female Dommes do. Why is that?

searching4mysir -> RE: Tributes... (11/11/2011 7:20:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: USEmeABUSEmeNJ13 What do I have to offer? What every sub does...their whole to be used however she sees fit. I wouldn't mind so much with a smaller tribute...say $75 (for example) it would be easier to work with that. And another question...in my findings, I've noticed that most male Doms do not ask for tribute yet I'd venture to say 90% of female Dommes do. Why is that? So if your domme wanted to play on your girlfriend's birthday and/or your anniversary, you would have no problem leaving your girlfriend's side to session? You would place your domme before your girlfriend in all situations? Unless you are willing to do THAT, you are placing your domme in the second fiddle position, and I don't know any lifestyle dommes who would be willing to stay there. Male subs are a dime a dozen. These women get HUNDREDS of emails a week. What makes you so special? ETA: the reason that there aren't a lot of male doms demanding tribute is that they are more plentiful than female subs. Supply and demand. If there were more women looking to be beaten than men to beat them, they could easily require a tribute (and get it). For women, it is usually more about the relationship and not the beatings. When a man thinks with his cock it is usually pretty easy to get to his wallet.

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