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RE: need to suck it up n take charge help - 4/23/2012 1:24:20 PM

CastleRock32

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

I agree with the title of your post. "need to suck it up and take charge."

FIrst thing to do is become dominant and take charge of YOUR LIFE when you are strong enough. FIrst command should be to to your SELFISH boyfriend is to change diapers, get up with the baby all night until he is to exhausted to want his cock sucked 24 and 7 then cook You dinner next time he ACTUALLY has the energy to want his cock sucked again. THen maybe he gets it done on YOUR TERMS, that is if his jack ass self minds well.
If he doesnt understand and get alot LESS UNSELFISH, TAKE CHARGE GET STRONG and LEAVE HIS ASS. THat should be plenty dominant for him.

This.

Because him constantly bugging you to suck his dick? Most inappropriate (both as a guy/lover in general AND for someone who wants to be your submissive). Tell him straight up, you're taking care of an infant right now. That's exhausting. If he can behave his little self well enough to do a LOT more of that work, you MIGHT consider rewarding him with a BJ. If he wants to be a dickwad, tell him you'll be happy to encourage him to refrain from orgasm at all until YOU are satisfied with his behavior.

IMO, if he responds to that at all AND you can work out some of these other relationship issues (ie, going to other couples when you aren't really interested/your concerns about him with past relationships, etc), then the D/s type thing might work out. But if he is going to continue to put his needs/wants above yours...none of it sounds like a great idea to me in that scenario.

Good luck to you! Tough spot to be in.

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RE: need to suck it up n take charge help - 4/23/2012 7:44:02 PM

ProlificNeeds

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Now I've never had a bun in the oven, and I've never married, but I have experienced the needy demanding sex driven boyfriend before. Those ones need to be told point blank, the sex is NOT the top of the list when tiny lives are involved, or a lack of income and living arrangements. He sounds to me like he just wants good times, and not any responsibility or realism.

Secondly, if any partner/boyfriend of mine ever went looking for couples/females/males WITHOUT my consent first? Sorry he'd be done, the end.

Respect yourself, infact I'd advocate not just leaving him, but finding the means and support to be independant. It's hard with a little ball and chain but it can be done, and being able to do that, you'll have shown yourself just how in control and competant you are.

You may have Dominant desires and dreams for the bedroom, but this guy sounds like he has no interest in helping you see them, he sounds like he just wants a fetish delivery system for minimal payoff.

I wish you all the best... and to make the idea less scarey... my mom raised me by herself, there was no father figure in my life. She worked a ton to support us, and we lived very meagerly, but I will never admire anyone more than I admire her, for making it work, doing what was best for her and me. We have been very close all our lives. I hope you and yours find the same bond.
Do what's best for you and the squirt, not what the walking sperm bank feels like.

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RE: need to suck it up n take charge help - 4/23/2012 10:33:12 PM

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I'd say you're on a hiding to nothing. I don't buy into the idea that people can "turn" dominant. Either you are, or you're not. In your case, it very much sounds like you're not.

I'd suggest you take a good look at both of you and see if this is a role you think you can fulfill. It doesn't sound like you can, so you may want to consider looking for a dominant guy who excites you.

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RE: need to suck it up n take charge help - 4/24/2012 3:40:45 AM

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