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Ahh... again.. - 11/17/2011 6:50:31 AM

ringme008

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Here i am once again!! pulled into this website by the slave in me. going through the profiles of the many mistresses..
seeing the pictures, reading the forum..
but luck still evades me... i am yet to find THAT someone to take me in

I just want someone who i can talk to. about this feeling in me.. . Just wanted to cry out my heart.. im feeling like writing a story right now.. or again try my luck sending messages to all those profiles out there till i get banned for 2 days!!

hmm.... any other slaves here feeling this way?.. just curious..

(Bowing to all the Goddesses reading this thread.

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/17/2011 7:53:04 AM

ringme008

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common everybody... no one got nothing to say??..

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/17/2011 8:07:02 AM

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err. Maybe go out to your local bdsm scene?

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/17/2011 8:56:35 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ringme008

Here i am once again!! pulled into this website by the slave in me. going through the profiles of the many mistresses..
seeing the pictures, reading the forum..
but luck still evades me... i am yet to find THAT someone to take me in

I just want someone who i can talk to. about this feeling in me.. . Just wanted to cry out my heart.. im feeling like writing a story right now.. or again try my luck sending messages to all those profiles out there till i get banned for 2 days!!

hmm.... any other slaves here feeling this way?.. just curious..

(Bowing to all the Goddesses reading this thread. )

I'm sure hundreds are feeling exactly as you are right this very minute.
The only difference being, they are acting on their impulse instead of writing about it.
Of course, those that already performed your third choice of action wont be heard from anytime soon.

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/17/2011 9:44:20 AM

DesFIP

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Read through the threads in Ask a Mistress and see what it is that dominant women want. I'll bet it isn't anything that you've been writing to them. There are a lot more male subs seeking than dominant women seeking, so you need to appeal to them.

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/17/2011 9:54:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ringme008

I just want someone who i can talk to. about this feeling in me..

Try that approach, without the titles and honorifics.. you know.. like person to person?

Make sure you offer her the same opportunity and availability back though.

It's a strategy of empowerment, giving her something to say and the opportunity to say it.

Other than that it's down to patience, effort, and perseverance. Finding someone tends to happen when you least expect it. Therefore be sure to provide opportunities.

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/17/2011 10:28:57 AM

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Get thee to a munch?

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/17/2011 5:17:02 PM

ringme008

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Greetings maam...
Unfortunately maam... local bdsm scene is not a reality where i live right now.
[sorry .. in reply to Fornica]

< Message edited by ringme008 -- 11/17/2011 5:22:19 PM >

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/17/2011 5:23:41 PM

ringme008

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Thank you Maam for sharing your thoughts. I really appreciate it.

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/17/2011 5:31:19 PM

ringme008

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Thank you everybody.. for your replies..

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/17/2011 5:35:07 PM

BurntKitty

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StellaUK already advised you to lay off the honorifics. "Ma'am" being one of them.

(Where's that video when you need it?)

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/18/2011 9:14:46 AM

kalikshama

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OP - watch this video to know what to avoid:

http://www.xtranormal.com/profile/5297466/

click on "The Meeting"

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/18/2011 9:19:20 AM

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quote:

or again try my luck sending messages to all those profiles out there till i get banned for 2 days!!

Sounds like you are getting banned because too many people report your emails as spam. STOP SPAMMING! A woman wants to know that you have read her profile and are interested in her, not just any old Domme.

There's comprehensive profile advice here - maybe someone will be kind enough to provide a link.

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/18/2011 9:28:36 AM

Rochsub2009

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Ringme008,
I get where you're coming from. It's hard being a male sub searching for a Domme. However, you should drop the "Ma'ams" and "Bowing to all of the Goddesses". Using that kind of language in a room full of people that you've never met makes you sound either silly or desperate.

Try talking to potential Dommes like regular people. Don't call them "Ma'am", or "Mistress", or any other title. Just talk to them like they're a regular person.

Try having normal conversations, rather than talking about BDSM and going into "sub-mode" right away. If you can make a vanilla connection first, the kinky connection is more likely to follow.

Good luck in your search.
-Roch

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/19/2011 12:20:13 AM

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quote:

However, you should drop the "Ma'ams" and "Bowing to all of the Goddesses". Using that kind of language in a room full of people that you've never met makes you sound either silly or desperate

hey.. u got me there.. your correct. i was desperate when i wrote this thread.

you got a very good point too. I guessi will stop getting into the sub mode right away from now on. Thank you for the tip.

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/22/2011 10:20:11 PM

Suleiman

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

Using that kind of language in a room full of people that you've never met makes you sound either silly or desperate.

And while silly and desperate have their proper place, neither makes a good first impression.

Look, a lot of folks here - guys, gals, fellagirlies, queer, straight, bi, dom, sub, switch, and everyone who don't quite fit any of those labels - we've all had our share of similarly desperate moments. Running around begging for someone, anyone, never works as far as I can tell, even when you're in a room full of horny drunks.

Besides - what's the fun of forcing someone to abase themselves when they have no dignity to begin with? Desperation is like the emotional equivalent of mailing a dickpic. Just don't do it until you've been asked to, or at least been granted permission.

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/22/2011 11:07:43 PM

domincalifornia

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ringme008

quote:

However, you should drop the "Ma'ams" and "Bowing to all of the Goddesses". Using that kind of language in a room full of people that you've never met makes you sound either silly or desperate

hey.. u got me there.. your correct. i was desperate when i wrote this thread.

you got a very good point too. I guessi will stop getting into the sub mode right away from now on. Thank you for the tip.

Dude, hardly anyone really likes over-the-top "sub mode" from a stranger. That's true in a forum, it's true in a first email to a domme. Why? Because that just means you will grovel for anyone, and it makes dommes feel like you see them as a generic cardboard character. So calm down, and just be yourself. Your real life, not some sub cartoon you're creating. Be respectful, but approach a domme in the same you would as if this were match.com.

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/23/2011 12:47:56 AM

MistressSnow

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domincalifornia

quote:

ORIGINAL: ringme008

quote:

However, you should drop the "Ma'ams" and "Bowing to all of the Goddesses". Using that kind of language in a room full of people that you've never met makes you sound either silly or desperate

hey.. u got me there.. your correct. i was desperate when i wrote this thread.

you got a very good point too. I guessi will stop getting into the sub mode right away from now on. Thank you for the tip.

Dude, hardly anyone really likes over-the-top "sub mode" from a stranger. That's true in a forum, it's true in a first email to a domme. Why? Because that just means you will grovel for anyone, and it makes dommes feel like you see them as a generic cardboard character. So calm down, and just be yourself. Your real life, not some sub cartoon you're creating. Be respectful, but approach a domme in the same you would as if this were match.com.

OK- from the Domina perspective, if someone emails me sounding like you, the very first thing I think is: this is a form letter sent out to every domme this perv can find.

PLEASE- do not use "blanket terms". We can see right through that.

Good Luck!!!

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/23/2011 4:39:44 AM

sheisreeds

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Desperation is such a turn on! I wish you lots of luck.

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RE: Ahh... again.. - 11/23/2011 4:44:40 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ringme008

common everybody... no one got nothing to say??..

what do you want us to say. You're horny and thinking about another mass mailing that will get you banned again. I doubt it will be more successful than the last time, but what ever floats your boat.

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