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CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Pet peeves (11/19/2011 1:29:31 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Buzzzz
Mine would be people I know not returning emails (especially if there is a question in there).. I remove them from "my friends list" really fast.
Ack, I have been guilty of that but not with you. Several times since I came back under this username I have lost internet service for days or even weeks at a time. One time I was upset and stayed offline for a while, but this was back in April. After scrolling back about 20 pages to answer mail I reach my limit. Sometimes I have had mail I haven't opened and it was so deep in there I was tearing my hair out trying to figure out where the frack it was buried.
Luckily now, I found my sub and advertise this in my profile and so my mail fell down drastically. Yay!
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As for my own pet peeves, I have a lot in common with previous posters but will add another one...married men who feel entitled to have other women on the side and expect Dommes to be crawling on their knees in gratitude...for the opportunity to become their little piece on the side. Reading mail from potential subs/slaves was a lot like wading hip deep in sewer sludge while trying to find something of value.
To Rochsub...sorry to hear you were stood up. About scening on a first or second date...sounds like you were not very close to those women at first and they didn't know much about you. Like them, I tend to ask a lot of questions including those about what they want and hard limits. I put them at ease and start with things they want...and then gradually take over as I go deeper into my topping headspace.
If someone doesn't belong to me and topping them is still new, I don't know if I enjoy dominating them or if it is only about the S&M or bondage/kink. Generally, I have to care about someone to want to dominate him at hello. If someone is MINE, not just bottoming for me, the scene is entirely different.
Sometimes it's about D/s chemistry and not "Is she a weal Dominant?"
Also...when I switched sides of the kneel, I spent time getting the taste of topping in my mouth to see what I liked and didn't enjoy. The topping I did was friendly and I did not try to take power. I made all of this clear while we were negotiating. (Maybe some of the Dommes you are talking about are still new to this. Have patience and see what happens...with some of us, the need to posess someone builds over time and we do not pretend to feel what simply isn't there yet. I want to boss my boy around because I love him.)
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