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LaTigresse -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 4:26:25 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

You can't have an opinion on that though or else you're not a twue sub! You should just be happy with whatever comes your way, cause in an ideal world, the Darke Lorde Dominate men would lay siege to the planet, and a man could just grab up any woman he wanted, and kill whoever stood in his way!


Sounds like the shopping crowd on black Friday....[:D]




LillyBoPeep -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 4:29:28 AM)

Hahaa :) that's MMYYYY ridiculously cheap laptop! AAAARRRGGHHHHHH!!!




LillyBoPeep -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 5:24:53 AM)

Ohhh one of the worst ones (online-specific) - dudes with s/n's that either reference an activity, like AssDestroyer4U, or their skin color. I don't understand why, if your pictures show it, and the first line of your profile states it (with CAPS of course), why does the s/n have to state it, too? It's a preoccupation that I don't find particularly attractive...




lizi -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 5:28:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: TheFireWithinMe

I don't think it's deception so much as it is not understanding just how sadistic a man I'm looking for. I used to try to explain but they would try to argue it.


Major peeve alert...people who will argue with what is in your profile or with what you tell them. Wtf? Really...you're going to not only completely ignore what I said, but you're going to freaking argue it? I really can't stand it when others breeze on by what I'm telling them and assume that because they want me to feel differently then my words hold no weight. Absolutely stellar way to get into my pants  [8|] 

I looked at some guy's profile back when I was looking because he'd written something in the journals. He was completely unappealing to me visually, and what he had to say for himself was equally unappealing. He saw I viewed his profile so was convinced that I wanted him; after repeated "No thank you, we wouldn't be a match" statements from me, he stated that he had no idea why I kept saying that, because I was exactly what I was looking for. Well, I'm sorry, I'm not attracted to bowling pins whose ties end at their third shirt button and I'm not going to be no matter how much you seem to like me in all of my pictureless glory. The lack of understanding that you have of what a tie's purpose is (hint -its not a bib or decorative item to display on your belly shelf) is always going to prevent me from seeing you as a serious contender however shallow that may be to you.

Sheesh, I really hate it when I feel like i have to get cranky just to be heard. Sure, I'd let a guy tie me up that pays no attention to what I say  [:-]




lizi -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 5:45:41 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Baroana

Pet peeves in profiles and introductory messages:

"I'm an alpha male"

"I'm very oral"




Ugh, yes, love the ones who want you throw them into a category based on one attribute (usually sexual) and don't seem to realize they are in there with a bazillion others. It's like they think they are so freaking special that you've never in all your life ran into anyone else who is oral.

On a vanilla site while chatting with someone he keeps throwing out hints about a special talent of his, we weren't talking about sex so I didn't catch on (I am relentlessly naive, it's a gift). Finally he overstepped his boundaries with the hints and I got it and reamed him out - just before signing off he frantically sends back something about how he was truly one of a kind, could 'go on licking for hours like a thirsty camel in the desert'. [:'(][X(][&o] I so do not want to know that in a first conversation fool. I don't need to know how fixated you are on one thing that you'd tell a complete stranger all about it.

Oh *wait*....maybe I do! Lightbulb time. Slow slow Lizi...I'm off now to get more coffee...




LillyBoPeep -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 5:50:53 AM)

Hahaha :) ahhh that's hilarious, lizi.
I was talking with a guy once who was trying to lead me into participating into a masturbation fetish. He wanted someone to tell him how, but I just didn't get it. :p
I agree, sometimes it really is a gift. Haha
Once I figured it out, it was "yeah, no" to future conversatios. Dunno why they think you want to go "there"




Duskypearls -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 6:51:17 AM)

Don't you love the unsolicited advice some offer about your profile, insist your way of expressing yourself will fail to garner you your hearts desire, and then make suggestions on how to improve it? What gall!

Or the ones who insist your profilie asks for too much of a man, that no such man exists? Maybe in your mind, fellow, and maybe you've never had the good fortune to know and experience there are those out there with far more to offer than you. Get a clue, boy, and stop measuring all other other men by your limited mind and yardstick. There are gems out there, if you're willing to be patient and do the work. You get what you settle for in this life. Just because you can't imagine and ask for the best of people, don't think all others must suffer from that same malady.




LaTigresse -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 7:07:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

Hahaha :) ahhh that's hilarious, lizi.
I was talking with a guy once who was trying to lead me into participating into a masturbation fetish. He wanted someone to tell him how, but I just didn't get it. :p
I agree, sometimes it really is a gift. Haha
Once I figured it out, it was "yeah, no" to future conversatios. Dunno why they think you want to go "there"


That reminds me of a email I get, from the same woman, that she has on repeat.

To prove I am 'real and true' she wants me to take a picture of myself laughing and pointing at the camera. I mean....REALLY?!?!?




LillyBoPeep -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 7:08:30 AM)

Wooooooowww - if that isn't obvious, I dunno what is. :p sheesh!




tj444 -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 7:24:18 AM)


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ORIGINAL: lizi

quote:

ORIGINAL: Baroana
Pet peeves in profiles and introductory messages:

"I'm an alpha male"

"I'm very oral"


Ugh, yes, love the ones who want you throw them into a category based on one attribute (usually sexual) and don't seem to realize they are in there with a bazillion others. It's like they think they are so freaking special that you've never in all your life ran into anyone else who is oral.

and/or that they assume all women enjoy oral... I for one do not simply cuz most guys are too rough and dig in like I am their last meal or something... [8|]

I just cringe with the whole pushing oral thing and/or emails where they are begging for you to talk to them.. to me it reeks of total desperation.. ewwww major turn off [:'(]




lizi -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 7:40:25 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

That reminds me of a email I get, from the same woman, that she has on repeat.

To prove I am 'real and true' she wants me to take a picture of myself laughing and pointing at the camera. I mean....REALLY?!?!?



What. The. Hell.
Am I missing something?
Where do people (strangers, not the ones we know) get this crazy idea that we're on here to do what they want and that we care what they think? Why are we supposed to care if they think we're 'real'?Yes, I am fully aware of the irony in saying that I won't do as some random person wants me to as I label myself a submissive, but I want a peek into the 'why' behind the entitlement they seem to feel just once.

Like the example I gave of the guy who wants to meet people from here in a coffeeshop in order for him to be convinced there are real people here. Who cares, guy, what you think? Are tons of people on a kink site going to read your journal entry and say oh no....I must save randomman from being disillusioned about this computer web site! Whoosh....off to coffee- even if it's 2 states away! I kind of don't get why they'd set themselves up to be proved wrong on their tests and then be all like "I was right! No one met me for coffee and that mean LaT won't take a picture of herself laughing and pointing into the camera! Everyone on CM is a fake and also snarky!" What the hell? Why cultivate the butthurt? Does it feel good to set the bar to impossible and then be disappointed? What am I missing here?






lizi -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 7:47:53 AM)

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ORIGINAL: tj444

and/or that they assume all women enjoy oral... I for one do not simply cuz most guys are too rough and dig in like I am their last meal or something... [8|]

I just cringe with the whole pushing oral thing and/or emails where they are begging for you to talk to them.. to me it reeks of total desperation.. ewwww major turn off [:'(]


Oooooh yes, the assumption that I WANT you licking at the most tender spot on my body like a thirsty camel in the desert, for hours yet, is a huge fallacy and shows how little Mr. Camel knows about women if he thinks we all fall into the same basket of there is never enough vigorous licking. Ack  [:'(]
No, I will pass on the dubious pleasure of that experience. You're right though, it's the desperation that comes through on that type of thing and utterly turns off any attraction I may have had at one time or ensures it will never ever happen. Once you are pitied it's death to ever wanting sex with you.




JstAnotherSub -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 1:22:09 PM)

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and/or that they assume all women enjoy oral... I for one do not simply cuz most guys are too rough and dig in like I am their last meal or something...


I had to make that a Sunny quote of the day.  She can fuss at me later if she wants to, but that is fucking hilarious!




LaTigresse -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 1:50:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lizi

Oooooh yes, the assumption that I WANT you licking at the most tender spot on my body like a thirsty camel in the desert, for hours yet, is a huge fallacy and shows how little Mr. Camel knows about women if he thinks we all fall into the same basket of there is never enough vigorous licking. Ack  [:'(]



I am quite fond of this bit.




TheFireWithinMe -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 1:59:28 PM)

Okay here's another one. When I make a post in which I ask someone a question about their relationship and someone else who wouldn't have a fucking clue about it responds, generally in the manner of "well I don't know for sure but....". No, no you don't know so why the fuck are you answering? That really drives me batshit crazy.




LillyBoPeep -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 2:01:31 PM)

Sorry to drive you "batshit crazy," I just found the question perplexing. I guess that's what happens on messageboards...




MissKittyDeVine -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 3:12:55 PM)

A huge peeve for me is of course the ´you can´t be a real domme if you´re a pro domme´ nonsense.

And this might sound odd coming from a domme, but the idea that being a sub means being subservient to any dominant ... don´t get that at all. Kind of arrogant really.




stellauk -> RE: Pet peeves (11/28/2011 11:30:04 PM)

Hmmm.. Not sure if peeves are right but..

Just gone through a phase of an average of two messages a day from male subs looking for a Mistress that they can submit to .. but the dealbreaker is of course me using them for anal sex.

People who don't read or even pay any attention to profiles. I go by reciprocality. I disregard messages from people who disregard my profile.

Desktop BDSM and office hours D/s. It's like dwarf throwing contests, I just find it wrong on so many levels.

Domly stares on photos. At least they're what I assume to be domly stares. However I have a tube of ointment for haemorrhoids just in case.

This is not a peeve so much, but such people fascinate me - One Kink Wonders - usually they're male submissives with a preoccupation for one kink which dominates their entire Universe. Their entire life is devoted to finding [person] to [kink] them. I mean, how can you go anything up to twenty years without finding someone? How do you sustain that level of interest and motivation? How did that one kink become so important? So crucial?

Another thing which fascinates me are penises and how much penises influence the way people think.

It's a handful of skin and flesh, more or less. It can be quite useful, especially if you are a couple of feet away from the bog or have a couple of guys already stood there. If you're creative I guess you could write your name in piss with it against some wall (still possible if you're called Gregory or Benjamin if you drink a couple extra Budweisers or Carling Black Label). But that saying it's hardly the latest quad band 3G smartphone of human anatomy.

It's functions are limited. It shoots pee, it shoots cum, gets hard, goes soft, and the bell end (opposite to the thicker end, known to some lesbians as the man) has inspired one or two haircuts, but generally that's about as far as it goes. Even then I guess some functions are lost to the owner. Some guys never seem to get the hang of pinning the tail on the donkey. Just as some guys are condemned to a life of asking 'Is it in yet?'

It's like with those guys who become aware of clitoral stimulation, but somehow just can't quite put their finger on it.

Now some would assume that being M2F TG one would have some insight and see some common ground. Let me tell you it ain't necessarily so. I come here and read some of the threads started and there seems to be such a difference it's a chasm. Other times I come here and read some of the threads and worry about a frontal lobotomy that I might have missed on my journey.

This isn't one of those logic fallouts which makes it hard to understand one gender. This isn't something like the women in white high heels dancing round a pile of handbags in the disco. Take any woman here on CM. She requests a photo to see what he looks like. A sizeable number of men will send her one of his dick. Why?

Time and time again I will see the 'dodgy wingman' effect. Man finds woman, woman becomes interested, penis rears its head and man screws up.

What sustains the interest and the fascination here?

Like I say it's not so much a peeve, but more curiosity or fascination. If you read The Naked Ape you are informed that Man has the biggest dick in the animal kingdom. Certainly it's the most thought about bit of anatomy in the animal kingdom. The English language appears to have more names for the penis than most Italian parents can think of for naming children. (Only Polish offers more diversity with 96 different verbs meaning 'to shit')

And coming here it makes me wonder every so often whether the penis is the most popular and widespread of all fetishes in BDSM.

Apologies for what seems to be a digression or a hijack, but how much does this fetish factor into so many of those peeves?




LillyBoPeep -> RE: Pet peeves (11/29/2011 1:42:32 AM)

Stella, +1 - you're amazing. :p
(Have at you, Peon!)




Killerangel -> RE: Pet peeves (11/30/2011 6:55:46 AM)

Thought of a couple more really peevish ones (to me). Most my examples use guys because that's who I deal with, sorry. I would be more equal if I had other data to work with.

1. People that can't communicate for beans by writing. If this is a problem for you, then why are you trying to write on a computer site which is primarily written communication? Not only are they horrible at getting across what they want to say, they seem flabbergasted that people don't instantly understand them. Then they get pissy at the 'assumptions' and start in with more poorly written nonsense that no one gets. Let me just buy you a shovel instead, and you can bury yourself now instead of digging yourself in deeper with every post/email.

2. Why is it that soooo many Dominant men feel that a true slave/submissive doesn't get to choose? These D's seem to find preferences, limits, or wants on the part of a s type woman horrifying, I mean what is the world coming to? So, their understanding of what submission is to them is now a blanket assumption over the rest of the world. Why does this tunnel vision exist and why don't they see their view as fairly ridiculous?

"Ok, Mr. Domlypants, you're right, EVERYONE KNOWS that s types don't get to pick anything.

EVERYONE KNOWS that CM is a kink site for hookups only, not for anything social, or heaven forbid for dating.

It is a crying shame that you can't get your dick attended to, because EVERYONE KNOWS if you come here and put the word out that you want that, then you should have many lovely young hotties fighting for the chance to please your dick.

3. Bouncing off 2., this tunnel vision sometimes makes invincibility cloaks. The D's who believe they dictate to the world with their blanket attitudes many times seem to feel that their Dominance is a super-hero invincibility cloak that presents them in all their Domly glory to the world. Therefore any woman who enters the picture with questions, preferences, skepticism, gets an appalled, disdainful response, because calling yourself a Dominant gives you an automatic invincibility cloak that no inferior organism may question. If you do, you are not a 'real' woman or submissive, you are an anomaly and a clone of the ex because didn't you see where he called himself Dominant? Why is it that people think that calling themselves something means that's what they automatically are now? It's got a little something to do with you too....just sayin.

4. So what's with the guys who think that women are just standing by just waiting to be claimed? Seriously? Mr. Domlypants you'd want this woman who just tosses aside her life to take up with you because you proclaimed it to be so? How special, that really shows a higher thinking process on her part, I can see where you'd want that [8|]. Or Mr. Subbyshorts- you really want ANYONE to Dominate you? It's the anyone at all thing that gets me with so many men on here. They truly seem to want a woman who would take up with anyone and not be selective at all...? Ewwww....

Reminds me of a profile once where some guy was offering himself to anyone on a more or less continual basis, and if you wanted a piece of that you should go to the donut shop where he usually hangs out and give him the secret signal. He included an address and description of himself. Thought I'd piss myself laughing at the thought of the drive in donut shop/sex fulfillment center and of  guy who would spend his days there on the hopes of having his penis attended to. Such lofty hopes and dreams.




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