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Alecta -> RE: A plea for some assistance. (11/19/2011 12:37:08 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Deceptakon
Awesome, thank you for replying, Although, you feel as if you already know who I am just like the rest of the sub missives and subs.
I am not asking if my profile is good enough, I am asking why we as a human race feel we know everything, to the point we can easily and instantly know who is shit and who is gold...
I didn't read your profile or journal. I already know if Lockit disliked it and has to go on the defensive for reading it I won't be disagreeing with her. I will answer your secondary questions instead.
The mistaken assumption you're making when you reference people judging or deciding about you in any way is that we as human beings make decisions about associating with a potential mate based on everything someone is. It is not. The decision is based on the perceived highlights. If they decide they dis/like a person just from their profile, it is because the profile indicated certain things that they already know are very important to them. No amount of "YOU DON'T KNOW ME" is going to change anyone's mind because at the end of the day, we don't need to know "YOU", we just need to know what we (don't) like about "you".
Liking a person is wholly subjective. You could guilt people into giving you more time by harping on the popular acceptance and don't judge a book by its cover speech, but that rarely works because whatever the person is turned off by is still a fact and it will not stop bothering them or magically go away, especially if it's in your personality. Different things hold different importance to different people. Some people love Country music, for example, some cannot stand it, some don't love it but don't hate it either. Some could dislike it but feel that their relationship with someone who loves it is more important than their personal dislike.
We don't decide on a broad empirical level who is shit and who is gold, we decide if to each of us individually this person is shit or gold, usually based on whether we think they'll treat us like shit or gold, and others decide if they agree or disagree with us based on their feelings and expectations on the same subjects.
Which is why I'm not going to give a toss when a male thinks I'm a man-hater just because I don't want to throw myself at his feet and suck his knob. Why I do not feel that the local government should elect me to be their leader just because one or two people feel I would do a good job at it. Why I do not begrudge others being critical or disagreeable of my methods and philosophies (although I will defend and debate it if I thought that was wanted). Why I would sometimes dis/agree with what most people think of one thing or another, or dis/agree with what they think but for different reasons.
Honesty is the best policy, but to wield that policy you must first accept its validity and power.
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