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lizi -> RE: Looking for a 2nd wife. (11/21/2011 7:56:56 AM)
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Op, you can see how many questions your situation raises in a group of people that don't know you. What you're looking for is a woman to share your life, be with your wife as well, and have your children. If we have questions you can bet that anyone considering this will too. It strikes the outsider as an odd and tricky situation.
The fact that you and your wife are very heavy isn't working in your favor since that may be exacerbating her health issues, and causing you some as well. Hard for that second wife to knowingly tie herself to that don't you think? Plus you have a journal entry that more or less frowns upon the overweight females on this site while you yourself probably weigh more than anyone I've seen here of either sex. Can you not see the hypocrisy of that? Yes, the journal entry is over 2 years old, but in that you also say you are working on your weight, if you were doing that then have you lost anything? A female submissive/slave would be looking to you to set the tone of the house, if you are working on your weight that is one thing, but if you are morbidly obese and asking her to be average, well that's a case where your authority would be undermined by the fact that you don't follow through on what you say you want in others. Hard to look up to the hypocritical type of person as a leader. See what I mean about how there are questions all over your situation here?
It's sad that your wife is having these terrible issues. It'll be hard for an outsider to want to take that on. I personally would find the thought impossible. I think perhaps you might want to think this all over and see what exactly you have to offer someone to come into your family and put that part of it in your profile and/or thread. Offering yourself as open to questions isn't the same thing as letting people know more about you and your wife, and giving them a more complete picture to begin with.
I hate to harp on this but I'd also highly consider what Kalikshama is bringing up about having you both lose weight. Morbid obesity DOES produce or exacerbate many medical problems. I cannot tell you how often I see concrete medical issues from being overweight in my line of work, multiple times a day. The more overweight you are, the more issues you probably have. If you want someone to have your children she's going to want to know that you'll be around to help her raise them. There are healthy overweight people out there, they tend to be the exception to the rule.
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