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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
While I agree with your basic premise about BDSM themes becoming more prevalent, I am very unhappy with how badly it's represented in common culture. I have seen several movies that involve BDSM:
9-1/2 Weeks - the Dom makes his sub shoplift. He works in a huge, empty office and seems to do nothing there.
The Secretary - the Dom cannot bring himself to Dominate his sub once he cares for her. He humiliates her by wasting her time (a manual typewriter?!?!, as well as a trip into the dumpster).
Black Velvet - there's a powerful D/s flavor to the movie, but it's deliberately done to feel creepy and wrong. Also it's laced with drugs.
I've also read The Story of O and it was awful. Bad writing, and the absence of emotions and feelings did not make me think of the book as healthy.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that SOMETHING is indeed becoming more common, but it ain't BDSM. It's a badly misrepresented version of it.
Not to step on your toes but---in regards to BDSM being badly represented all of what you said seems sort of real to me. There ARE Dom's who require their submissives do things that most would feel are not right morally or legally but it DOES happen. We can call these Dom's fake however if the submissive IS agreeing to it...can we really tack on that fake label. (all people on tv who work in an office seem to do nothing I work in an office and sometimes it seems I do nothing). The Dom can not bring himself to Dominate his sub once he cares for her---OMG----I have heard/read so many times that once a couple moves in together the D/s goes down the toilet. It happened to one of my friends---although they still say they are M/s they NEVER play anymore---the toys are in the attic gathering dust---she pretty much does what she wants and their live is vanilla except they tack on the title M/s. And sometime people do try to recapture the D/s flavor by doing silly things---you tripped over the dog---that's a spanking---you did not get my permission to breath--. Deliberately creepy and wrong---sometimes we enter into this lifestyle just because it has a dark side. And although it is preached about as being not cool there is a fair amount of drug use circulating the lifestyle---it's just not talked about.
I will agree with you on the Story of O (actually that was not written as a novel it was a series of letters written by a woman to her lover.), I hated it the first time I read it because of the lack of emotions however, I reread it after several years and saw that 'O' really was a slave in the sense that although she deeply cared for her first Dom---was his name Stephen (it's been a while) she went with the other Dom just because she loved the first Dom and her desire was simply to please him. Geeze how many slaves would have that absolute depth---to love a Dom so much that she would go with a man she did not want to be owned by just to please the Dom she loved. That is pretty emotional, pretty romantic pretty freaking intense. Really fake IMO defies reality IMO but deep nevertheless.
I think that media was brought many people to the lifestyle who never would have thought about it and once they get to places like CM it's all glorified as this terrific experience, that a D/s relationship is somehow amazingly better than a vanilla one and the trust is deeper, and Dom's never lie, and submissive obey completely---and no one has to work, no one gets ill, and every freaking Dom on the planet has a dungeon in his basement and is uber rich, owns his own house that has 7 dozen rooms, has never driven a car with a spot of rust, and of course is NOT fat, short, unattractive---shall I go on---then once you get into it for years and years you learn that really it's just like the shit you saw on TV.
Sorry Stephen 
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