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Melanie38 -> Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:29:28 PM)
Several people from various bdsm sites have had bad experiences me too,has any one experienced this if so what happend?By telling others it helps preventing it happening again.

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:31:54 PM)
Sorry, can't help you, never had a "bad" BDSM experience. I've had some very unpleasant ones, but that's just the nature of the game.

Fornica -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:35:00 PM)
Oh my god. Not you again. PSA of the month?

Ninebelowzero -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:39:30 PM)
PSA?

Fornica -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:39:35 PM)
(Onlookers...check out OP's past threads)

TheFireWithinMe -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:40:01 PM)
The only way I can see talking about it preventing a repeat is if the specific person is named and that's against the TOS.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:41:23 PM)
Well... Telling people the gritty details doesn't necessarily help, but discussing the concepts can. At a party, I played with a guy who didn't respect a "stop" because he was waiting to hear a magical "safeword." I lost faith that he'd pay attention to a safeword, and so I kicked him in the balls. Safewords won't save you if the person you're playing with is an asshole.

DarkSteven -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:42:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Melanie38 Several people from various bdsm sites have had bad experiences me too,has any one experienced this if so what happend?By telling others it helps preventing it happening again. Melanie, I'm not following. Do you mean bad BDSM experiences, or BDSM experiences with bad partners? Do you mean A bad experience but your Top stopped and gave you aftercare. A Top that ignored a safeword, An online Dom who claimed to not be married but was, A Top that claimed 30 years experience in whipping who didn't know what he was doing, or Something else?

Fornica -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:43:12 PM)
Public service announcement. Last month it was aids or std's or dvd handling or some such. quote: ORIGINAL: Ninebelowzero PSA?

Ninebelowzero -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:44:13 PM)
Fanx sweetheart.

TheFireWithinMe -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:45:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep Well... Telling people the gritty details doesn't necessarily help, but discussing the concepts can. At a party, I played with a guy who didn't respect a "stop" because he was waiting to hear a magical "safeword." I lost faith that he'd pay attention to a safeword, and so I kicked him in the balls. Safewords won't save you if the person you're playing with is an asshole. pics or it didn't happen. <crosses fingers that pics exist>

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:47:48 PM)
I wish!

AlwaysLisa -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:50:12 PM)
quote: Several people from various bdsm sites have had bad experiences me too,has any one experienced this if so what happend?By telling others it helps preventing it happening again. How so?

Fornica -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:54:03 PM)
fr Wait, I think she's trying to say have had bad experiences with her?

TheFireWithinMe -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 4:58:53 PM)
nuh-uh I think she wants to set up a network so that noone will ever have a bad experience and everyone will be safe.

Fornica -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 5:02:25 PM)
Oh! ok.

Ninebelowzero -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 5:02:47 PM)
I quite like the idea of a bad experience. quote: ORIGINAL: TheFireWithinMe nuh-uh I think she wants to set up a network so that noone will ever have a bad experience and everyone will be safe.

stacey4u2luv -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 5:03:28 PM)
What is good for one sub may be bad to another. i had one Dom that by His tone, plus body size literally scared the crap out of me and all His oh no no no you won't and get back there etc... etc... hahah i laugh at it now though and think WOW what vibes. haha He never ever smiled very very stern, hence he was damned good at it. He was rough very very rough but hey to each their own. i can only imagine another may feel he was too much to handle. But, that is why communication is key and to know that someone is not going to do more than agreed upon. After it was over i was left thinking wow, but seen He never did do anything not agreed upon. For me he is a Dom i will never forget that left me with visions and wondering. oh well.

Fornica -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 5:03:39 PM)
Whoa, Melanie has had a major profile change since last month. She was a slave before with no limits, iirc.

Fornica -> RE: Bad bdsm experiences (12/3/2011 5:05:23 PM)
I don't recall letting you get off the floor. quote: ORIGINAL: Ninebelowzero I quite like the idea of a bad experience. quote: ORIGINAL: TheFireWithinMe nuh-uh I think she wants to set up a network so that noone will ever have a bad experience and everyone will be safe.

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