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tinynewguy -> how to get one (12/4/2011 12:12:57 AM)

yes im new to this world and it seems alot of the doms on here are paying ppl. im not into paying and want to know how to get a dominate female to play and train me. Yes I have fetishes and have read that you shouldnt lead with it and talk to the woman but how do you do that in a mesg. Iv never talken to woman about this world and am completely lost about how to go about talking to one and making a friendship that works for all parties. im not sure if this makes since its just i need some advice into this world and how to find a real mistress and not someone who just wants to take my money and run.

thanks  



Fornica -> RE: how to get one (12/4/2011 1:54:11 AM)

Did you read anything at all before posting this? The FAQ's? Any threads in here?



Ninebelowzero -> RE: how to get one (12/4/2011 2:29:19 AM)

One day a chick scientist will work out how to fertilise an egg without the need for semen. At that point she will have an internal debate over the morality & whether the future of the human race needs men. Then she will read the OP's post & her mind will be made up. Cue 100 years on to a male less world.

Sometimes I hang my head in shame at my fellow man. This is one.



DarkSteven -> RE: how to get one (12/4/2011 2:30:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Fornica

Did you read anything at all before posting this? The FAQ's? Any threads in here?


Seconded.  You're making all the classic mistakes that have been advised against.  Read and learn.



Verijaa -> RE: how to get one (12/4/2011 5:02:47 AM)

"how to get a dominate female to play and train me. Yes I have fetishes and have read that you shouldnt lead with it and talk to the woman but how do you do that in a mesg"

First, there's no such thing as a "dominate" female. Dominate is a verb. It's what we do. Dominant is an adjective. It describes who we are. A Dominant female dominates.

Second, I've never understood why it's so damned hard to talk to a woman as a woman. How do you do that in a message? How about "Hi, I saw your profile and really enjoyed what you had to say. I'm an intelligent, educated man who would like a chance to get to know you."

Is that really so hard?

There is no DommesRUs. You aren't going to find a bunch of dominant females lined up waiting to play with a bunch of desperate newbie subs. It's about relationships, which involves actually meeting people and talking with them and at least making friends before diving into personal fetishes.

Find a local munch, talk to people, volunteer for some clean up, and learn your way around. Be a whole person, not a cock with fetishes.



FrostedFlake -> RE: how to get one (12/4/2011 5:06:39 AM)

Uhmmm, Yeah.

http://the1585.com/performativemasculinity.htm
http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057095/tm.htm
http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057123/tm.htm
http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/8325689/the-meeting?page=1

Now I just have to push this button, and everyone here will know what I have been up to.

That's great.



thishereboi -> RE: how to get one (12/4/2011 5:40:13 AM)

I am not sure why having pro dommes around would effect your chances with picking up a non-pro. Before you discovered bdsm, how did you get girlfriends?   There were prostitutes available, but I am assuming you managed to get laid with out paying. This is basically the same thing. Be respectful, don't think with your dick and start talking to them. Eventually you will meet someone and it will click.



thishereboi -> RE: how to get one (12/4/2011 5:41:35 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Ninebelowzero

One day a chick scientist will work out how to fertilise an egg without the need for semen. At that point she will have an internal debate over the morality & whether the future of the human race needs men. Then she will read the OP's post & her mind will be made up. Cue 100 years on to a male less world.

Sometimes I hang my head in shame at my fellow man. This is one.


I doubt you will have to worry about being obsolete any time soon. After all, without men, who would take out the trash and cut the lawn?



xxblushesxx -> RE: how to get one (12/4/2011 6:23:41 AM)

Plus the pros don't want to take your money and run. They want to take your money and keep you around so they can take more of your money.
*said the pro fin-dom*



Fornica -> RE: how to get one (12/4/2011 6:47:26 AM)

Best post of life.
quote:

ORIGINAL: Ninebelowzero

One day a chick scientist will work out how to fertilise an egg without the need for semen. At that point she will have an internal debate over the morality & whether the future of the human race needs men. Then she will read the OP's post & her mind will be made up. Cue 100 years on to a male less world.

Sometimes I hang my head in shame at my fellow man. This is one.




OttersSwim -> RE: how to get one (12/4/2011 8:13:01 AM)

Actually,. there is a whole fetish following for this sort of thinking - "The Coming Gynarchy". 

I don't believe it, but ya'know, I gots my skirts lined up and hemmed just above the knee...just in case...[;)]



darchChylde -> RE: how to get one (12/4/2011 12:31:29 PM)

Fast Reply

I read this listening to sirens, a block party, and the oompa-oompa of latin music blasting out of cars driving by.  All that, in addition to trying to read and re-read the OP in order to find something intelligent to respond to and I think I entirely lost the ability to do math.

Thanks alot, tinynewguy..



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: how to get one (12/4/2011 4:04:10 PM)


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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

I am not sure why having pro dommes around would effect your chances with picking up a non-pro. Before you discovered bdsm, how did you get girlfriends?   There were prostitutes available, but I am assuming you managed to get laid with out paying. This is basically the same thing. Be respectful, don't think with your dick and start talking to them. Eventually you will meet someone and it will click.


I love this!! ^^^



stellauk -> RE: how to get one (12/5/2011 8:06:26 AM)

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RexCorvus -> RE: how to get one (12/5/2011 9:02:31 AM)


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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

I doubt you will have to worry about being obsolete any time soon. After all, without men, who would take out the trash and cut the lawn?



And who will kill the spiders? Our cities would soon become wastelands of cobweb-covered buildings full of unopened jars.



Lucylastic -> RE: how to get one (12/5/2011 2:15:32 PM)


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tinks this should be made up into a full size graphic and sent to all new sign ups
SImply Brilliant
and some of the other replies have me laughing hard
To the OP... aim for the non pros and those over 23 who will have a discussion with you. If you have a problem talking to any woman about anything other than sexual topics, you may need some extra help. I talk to many male submissives, about many things, but as soon as it turns into what "you can get me" to talk about your kinks and fetishes exclusively, you get the heave ho.



Fornica -> RE: how to get one (12/5/2011 2:41:31 PM)

Best post ever, Stella.



darchChylde -> RE: how to get one (12/5/2011 2:46:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RexCorvus


quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi

I doubt you will have to worry about being obsolete any time soon. After all, without men, who would take out the trash and cut the lawn?



And who will kill the spiders? Our cities would soon become wastelands of cobweb-covered buildings full of unopened jars.



I am not killing any spiders, one of nature's most beautiful killing machines.  Now if one touches me, I crap myself and attach myself to a nearby ceiling and hope someone comes in to rescue me (I can change myself).  My stomach is doing convulsions at the thought.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: how to get one (12/5/2011 6:22:03 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: RexCorvus


quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi

I doubt you will have to worry about being obsolete any time soon. After all, without men, who would take out the trash and cut the lawn?



And who will kill the spiders? Our cities would soon become wastelands of cobweb-covered buildings full of unopened jars.



This made me laugh!!

Hib, fearless smasher of spiders, centipedes, and random creatures with Too Many Legs and Eyes



domincalifornia -> RE: how to get one (12/6/2011 12:41:54 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: tinynewguy

yes im new to this world and it seems alot of the doms on here are paying ppl. im not into paying and want to know how to get a dominate female to play and train me. Yes I have fetishes and have read that you shouldnt lead with it and talk to the woman but how do you do that in a mesg. Iv never talken to woman about this world and am completely lost about how to go about talking to one and making a friendship that works for all parties. im not sure if this makes since its just i need some advice into this world and how to find a real mistress and not someone who just wants to take my money and run.

thanks  


1. Don't think in terms of "this world" like it's filled with aliens.
2. Rewrite your profile so it's not 100% about your kinks and BDSM interest.
3. Read profiles and find someone who interests you.
4. Write to that person. Think of them as a human being, not some cartoon domme. Tell them why you have decided to write to them specifically instead of someone else. Tell them about yourself, and not just the BDSM stuff. 
5. Be patient. Accept it can take a long time to find someone.



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